Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

He is a parent too. He is allowed to make his own judgement based on his knowledge of his child and his friends.
He needed to make a speedy decision. He did not need to waste time consulting you when he has the right to make decisions for his own child.
When a parent has a child on their own they make decisions all the time. They can't keep ringing up to make sure they are doing everything "right."
I am sure that your baby had a great fuss made of her and loved it. In that sort of situation people go out of their way to make sure the little one is happy.
I am hoping you did not give your husband grief over this.

“Not immediate family” So if it had been the OP’s sister it would have been OK? Jesus. I can’t tell you how much I hate this “my little family” bullshit.

A broken collar bone is an emergency and his sister would have been in agony, plus if she moved wrong it could change it to an injury that would leave lasting damage and seriously damage other parts of her neck. Unless any of his friends are known child abusers, leaving the baby with them and going immediately, rather than waiting till he contacted you and you'd come home was 100% the right thing to do.

Thr husband obviously lives with the op so of course will be very aware that their dd hasn't ever been left with other adults let alone ones the 6mth old has never clapped eyes on before.

He knew the op has an issue yet did it anyway. He could've easily dropped his relatives at the hospital whilst his dd was in the car, or rang his wife.

We can all agree that never leaving a 6mth old is unusual but it's their set up which the dh was well aware of.

I would find this weird and be uncomfortable tbh.

But he knows them and trusts them. He was happy to leave your baby with them.

He is also a parent - why is your opinion on who your baby is left with more important than his?

This thread is so batshit. I actually can’t believe people live like this. Why on earth are people criticising the dad for having mates round when his partner is out?! What’s wrong with using the time to see his own friends? Why should he be a martyr and sit in on his own with the baby rather than socialising and having friends meet his child? So very bizarre.

Wht wpild she? They are HIS friends

It’s totally understandable that it feels very different to OP and her DH.

To OP - is not accustomed to being away from the baby. Does not know the people the baby was left with. Emergency did not involve immediate family.

To DH - is accustomed to being away from the baby. Knows and trusts the people the baby was left with. Emergency involved immediate family.

Clearly subjectively it is very different to you both. But objectively, there was nothing wrong with DH’s decision making - your baby was safe.

Leave the baby alone with a whiskey and a pack of cigars, no.
Leave the baby with competent adults, absolutely.

But the posters DH was obviously not breastfeeding the baby so irrelevant

I was wondering this too.

Yup!

Real-life day to day situations, people! Not theory! I totally do get why a new mum would be freaked but tbh,in the circumstances and given who the friends are, it's not that different from leaving the babe with family members for an hour, while another distressed child who will remember EVERYTHING is taken care of by her brother when she needs him. Probably would've been best to phone and let mum know what was going on, but the drama/trauma was more on the kid with broken arm's side, and he acted accordingly.

I don’t know these friends and while I’m sure it was fine, I can’t feel certain that they are good people.

Why are you married to someone who would be friends with people you can't be sure are good people?

This thread is absolutely insane

everyone is a stranger to a baby, the nursery staff will be, drs, nurses, relatives the first time they meet.

they were NOT strangers to the childs father, who'd known them for his whole life.

THEY. WERE. NOT.STRANGERS!

I honestly didn't think you knew from the way you used it in previous comment, otherwise I wouldn't have explained. I'm not lacking in empathy, I understand why op wasn't comfortable with the idea of her baby being left with strangers and explained why I wouldn't be either. At no point did I say the solution was to leave a little girl with a broken arm to suffer without a lift to a&e.
I am going to step away now!

Imagine a scenario where your child broke her arm at school and the school said “Oh a broken arm isn’t an emergency-we won’t take her to hospital, it can wait til her mum picks her up, she can take her.”

Sounds like the baby had a great time. Obviously your dh knows them well and trusts them or he wouldn’t have invited them to your house in the first place.

I had to leave dd1 when she was 8 weeks old to return to work as I couldn’t survive on maternity pay (this was 22 years ago), I had to leave her with a relative that we don’t have much to do with, she offered to have her and my dh kind of agreed to it for me. Leaving her was awful. So I do understand why you feel upset as it wasn’t really your choice but dh had an emergency and it sounds like she had at least 3 responsible adults looking after her.

I think you should remember that lots of people are kept waiting for hours for an ambulance, even old people who have had a fall and are on their own. If someone is available who can drive you, you should take that option.

I know what object permanence is, thanks. I have a dev psych degree. I was being facetious. Your comment was fucking ridiculous and totally lacking in empathy. He made the best decision at the time. Which was an emergency.

Yes, you are over reacting

DH left 6 month old DD, with lifelong friends. For an hour

DD's not a newborn & they're not people he just met down the pub!

yes it's not quite how you planned on leaving her for the first time & yes he could have taken her, but nothing wrong with leaving her with trusted friends first and hour so he could focus on his sister's needs & no need to have DD in the car for an hour unnecessarily.

no need to interrupt your time out either.

everything is fine. Who you leave her with first doesn't need to be a big deal, if it'll upset your Mum not to be the first, just don't tell her.

Why does he need to phone? Would she have to phone him if the roles were reversed?

How do you know if an emergency or not?

This is the most ridiculous thread I've read in a long time.

Wow. I’d choose the DHs friends over a person who is happy to leave an 11 year old with a broken arm waiting hours for a trip to hospital