Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

If my H had called me in this situation i'd be asking why the fuck he is calling me and to get his ass to his sisters to get her to hospital.

Baby is perfectly safe, happy, and warm, and in the care of people he's known his whole life.

For what it’s worth I would be upset as well. I would have appreciated being called so I could decide if I wanted to come home or not. At the same time it is a kind of “what are the chances” situation and he probably just made a split second decision. If he’d gone out for any other reason other than an urgent thing I’d be fuming. Use it as an opportunity to learn from as parents and what you’re comfortable with, but in my opinion you’re right to be upset I would have been.The momma bear instinct is very strong.

ty, this is what i've been saying.

He was just dropping his mum and sister off, as far as I can tell he didn't go inside!

Where would he put the baby and car seat?

Kid was in the back, had multiple fractures, and needed someone right there to watch her and offer support and possibly brace her from unnecessary movement. A 6 month old is an encumbrance in a medical emergency transport situation. He needed to drive. Mom needed to be in back with child.

WTAF.

You think an 11 year old who would have been in quite severe pain should just wait until her brother phones his wife, gets her home and only then takes her to hospital?

When there are people available at that very minute whom the man has known literally all his life to watch a 6 month old for an hour?

Seriously? Fucking hell.

Hands up if you're also a mother who lives in the real world!!

This would have bothered me, equally because baby wouldn’t have known these people either. They were left with strangers. They could have cried for the whole hour for all you know - they’re not going to admit it.

i don’t see why DH wasn’t unable to take them too in the car. It’s great that he didn’t want to disturb your time, but leaving the baby behind irks me.

I also live in the real world.

But what if your husband felt differently? Why would your wishes trump his?

Due to a mixture of things very few people cared for my children before they went to school (although they did attend nursery) but obviously emergencies happen and sometimes you have to adapt. We once had a neighbour come sit in our house at 10pm to look after a sleeping toddler while my husband dropped me of at hospital. In theory she could have dropped me off at hospital too but we all felt this was the best option.

Also as a 'mother who lives in the real world' whatever the fuck that bullshit means, i had no issue trusting my DH to know who was/wasn't safe to leave our children with in an emergency situation.

If you don't trust your partner to parent your kids with the same care as you, why the fuck are you having kids with them???

Well he could but considering the friends had to give her a bottle she probably would have ended up screaming in the back of the car while a distressed and injured 11yo was being taken to A&E and it's not like he could have just stopped to feed her. Makes so much more sense to leave her in her own home with 3 people he trusted to look after her.

Oh yes-men are not allowed to have any feelings for their family of origin once they are married “Sorry, little sister-you’ll just have to bleed. I have other responsibilities now”

for fucks sake. be quiet. op has said she doesn't agree with this idiotic opinion/tangent already.

That’s EXACTLY how it works in my world. Up until school age my children had been left in the care of my parents only.

After getting to know other Mum’s at school they would go for play dates with friends who we have built a relationship.

As a mother who lives in the real world the thought of my six month old child being left with people I don’t really know, would just not happen. Couldn’t give a monkeys if my husband knew them since he was a toddler. At that age they were either with me, their Dad or my parents. That’s it.

He may not NEED company, but it might just be NICE to have some people over while OP is out at her own plans!

If he’d rung OP, everyone would be saying it was “weaponised incompetence” and he was “sabotaging her plans” - you can’t win here, can you?!

And as OP says they like to speak their home language together so OP being out is a nice opportunity for them to get together and chat without excluding OP. It makes complete sense.

What??? Deranged take

You now both know for the future.

This time your husband had to make a quick call.
His friends were close enough to be in your home.
His judgement ended up being fine.

Unpredictable things do happen.
I once had to jump in an unknown person's car to take DD3yrs to hospital a kiliometre away for a head concussion and leave my six month old DS on the lawn at a toddler pool with person's friend.

Tbh I think it's quite sad he couldn't spend a couple hours alone with his own baby and needed company in the first place and that he couldn't take her with him in the car.

He Sounds pretty incapable tbh.

But yeah. I'd be fuming if dp left our kids alone with his friends I didn't even know. There are very few people I know well enough to trust them with my baby. Even people I really like.

I don't think I'd bother relying on him again, sorry I think he's a dud.

What rot!

Really refreshing to see a DW who supports her DH helping his family.

I wouldn’t have liked it if my DH had left my baby with friends I didn’t know well either but I would be more reassured knowing there were a few of them, rather than one person. More hands to help and watch out for her … I think.

Yes . It's scary how clueless some people are and they post as if they know what the hell they are talking about.

Agree ! Some of the nonsense on this thread is bloody breathtaking.

Wrong. The child has a severe fall so bad she had multiple fractures. She could also have had fractured ribs that could have punctured a lung or had a head injury, or the unstabilized collarbone piercing a large blood vessel. There's multiple reasons for her to have been taken to ER ASAP.