Long story. I've worked a challenging and time consuming job for years thinking I was going the right thing to provide stability and a future for my family (husband & 2 teenagers). Last October I find out hubby has been meeting up with a woman behind my back. I caught them a few times, nothing other than a "friendly" meeting up it would appear. My reaction was one of devastation, both them could see that. I've begged him to stop "being friends " with her but he blames me gor his loneliness (my job). He swears there's never been anything else. NYE she rung him needing his help in an emergency, he went to help her. They share a common interest and I have "agreed" that he can continue with this as long as he's open about it. I thought I could handle it but I can't. Mentally and physically I'm in a real mess. Am I right in thinking that she clearly wants more? I think he's flattered by her attention. AIBU to believe that this is a non-negotiable?