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People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

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ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 06:56

Unless you're completely new to commenting on MN and therefore aren't aware you can:

a) see how many pages of comments have already been made, and therefore check them before commenting, and:

b) click to read all of the OP's responses and updates

Why do you blithely ignore (what are often) reems and reems of comments and relevant responses from the OPs to put your two penneth'orth on a long-passed or clarified original post, usually parroting what multiple others have already written?

We've seen a great example of this yesterday, on the post written by a poor lady in the ME whose husband had clearly not really been in a barber shop for the two hours he'd said he'd be. We're currently on 36 pages of comments on this particular post, and we still have people commenting on the OP's original point, ignoring everything else she's since written (and in many cases being extremely unfair and nasty to her), promoting dozens of other people to kindly leap to her defense and ask these latecomers to read the entire thread before commenting.

What a mess.

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Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:13

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

What an odd comment. Why wouldn't people care especially when the repeated comments from those who have not read the OPs updates are written deliberately to be unkind to the OP?

If you don't care enough to read the OPs posts don't comment. It's not difficult. No one will miss a comment made by someone who had just waded in and thinks their viewpoint is the only one that matters.

Chiseltip · 26/01/2026 07:12

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 06:56

Unless you're completely new to commenting on MN and therefore aren't aware you can:

a) see how many pages of comments have already been made, and therefore check them before commenting, and:

b) click to read all of the OP's responses and updates

Why do you blithely ignore (what are often) reems and reems of comments and relevant responses from the OPs to put your two penneth'orth on a long-passed or clarified original post, usually parroting what multiple others have already written?

We've seen a great example of this yesterday, on the post written by a poor lady in the ME whose husband had clearly not really been in a barber shop for the two hours he'd said he'd be. We're currently on 36 pages of comments on this particular post, and we still have people commenting on the OP's original point, ignoring everything else she's since written (and in many cases being extremely unfair and nasty to her), promoting dozens of other people to kindly leap to her defense and ask these latecomers to read the entire thread before commenting.

What a mess.

LBT

It's not worth putting up with men who behave like that.

Lifestooshort71 · 26/01/2026 07:12

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

Well, it does make some threads totally incomprehensible. Love your user name.

ShawnaMacallister · 26/01/2026 07:12

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

Why wouldn't she? I do. It's the equivalent to crashing into a conversation at work or in the pub and derailing it with pointless contributions that have already been covered or boring derails. It's self important and dull and people should stop.

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:07

Placetobreathe · 26/01/2026 07:01

Whilst I agree with you OP I think you are banging your head against a brick wall if you are expecting things to change!

No, you're right of course, it's just really irritated me and I've had to vent 😂 Plus the OP on the aforementioned post has clearly been upset by some of the comments, so I kind of wanted to stand up for her somehow.

Who knows, maybe my post will reach a few MN users who'll realise they've been committing a big faux pax and be compelled to stop.

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Lowbuy2026 · 26/01/2026 07:04

Recent example, the "what's in my wardrobe" thread. Op told us on page 3. Cue a million further posts still guessing 🤦🏼‍♀️

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:03

Taweofterror · 26/01/2026 07:00

I completely agree. I wonder why they do it? The justification when this has come up before is, they don't have time or can't be bothered to read it all. But surely if that's the case you just find a thread you can be bothered to read instead?!

Exactly, why do they even bother?

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Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:02

Honestly baffles me how someone can come onto a thread they can see is hundreds of posts long and think they are so self important that no one will have made their often completely obvious point.

Since the introduction of the see all button it's also ridiculous how many posters still don't even take 5 minutes to read everything the OP has said.

Placetobreathe · 26/01/2026 07:01

Whilst I agree with you OP I think you are banging your head against a brick wall if you are expecting things to change!

Lifestooshort71 · 26/01/2026 07:00

I always read all of the OP's posts before commenting but rarely get past page 2 of the (drivel) posts from others. I then read the final page so I know which way the wind's blowing. What amazes me is that the original concern often gets buried under derails and nitpicking about something totally inconsequential to the poor OP.

Taweofterror · 26/01/2026 07:00

I completely agree. I wonder why they do it? The justification when this has come up before is, they don't have time or can't be bothered to read it all. But surely if that's the case you just find a thread you can be bothered to read instead?!

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 06:57

^prompting, not promoting 🙄

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