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People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

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ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 06:56

Unless you're completely new to commenting on MN and therefore aren't aware you can:

a) see how many pages of comments have already been made, and therefore check them before commenting, and:

b) click to read all of the OP's responses and updates

Why do you blithely ignore (what are often) reems and reems of comments and relevant responses from the OPs to put your two penneth'orth on a long-passed or clarified original post, usually parroting what multiple others have already written?

We've seen a great example of this yesterday, on the post written by a poor lady in the ME whose husband had clearly not really been in a barber shop for the two hours he'd said he'd be. We're currently on 36 pages of comments on this particular post, and we still have people commenting on the OP's original point, ignoring everything else she's since written (and in many cases being extremely unfair and nasty to her), promoting dozens of other people to kindly leap to her defense and ask these latecomers to read the entire thread before commenting.

What a mess.

OP posts:
Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:27

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:26

Cheers 😉

No worries. It felt like a disingenuous gotcha comment that was completely unnecessary and unkind.

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:27

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:25

Isn’t it

the Op pulled up for not reading the updates minutes before starting this indignant thread

insane! And funny!

No I wasn't, please read the post again 😉

OP posts:
Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 26/01/2026 07:27

Taweofterror · 26/01/2026 07:00

I completely agree. I wonder why they do it? The justification when this has come up before is, they don't have time or can't be bothered to read it all. But surely if that's the case you just find a thread you can be bothered to read instead?!

I agree too. It drives me to distraction. The typical responses you mention there could be re-written as 'I am a bit thick and/or utterly self-absorbed'.

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:27

Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:25

No she wasn't? If you actually go and read the comment the poster wasn't the OP...

No, read the edit and you’ll see that it was this op making the irrelevant comment
pulled up by the other op
and then this op edited and wrote “oops”

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:27

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/01/2026 07:22

Brilliant! 😂

No I wasn't 😁

OP posts:
ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:26

Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:25

No she wasn't? If you actually go and read the comment the poster wasn't the OP...

Cheers 😉

OP posts:
ToTheCrystalDome · 26/01/2026 07:26

Have you cancelled the cheque? 😜

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:26

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:21

Oh the hypocrisy!!

2 mins before starting this thread the OP was pulled up for not readin all the OPs posts!!!

Edited

No I wasn't, she was responding to someone else, my "oops" was in response to her response 😉

OP posts:
Elektra1 · 26/01/2026 07:26

It’s probably because people don’t have time to read often hundreds of messages. I filter to read all the OP’s messages to get the essential information.

You must have a lot of free time!

Spoodles · 26/01/2026 07:25

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:21

Oh the hypocrisy!!

2 mins before starting this thread the OP was pulled up for not readin all the OPs posts!!!

Edited

No she wasn't? If you actually go and read the comment the poster wasn't the OP...

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:25

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/01/2026 07:22

Brilliant! 😂

Isn’t it

the Op pulled up for not reading the updates minutes before starting this indignant thread

insane! And funny!

ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:24

Notmyreality · 26/01/2026 07:14

Ha I knew this would be about the barber shop post. To be fair the OP did herself no favours by framing the post as “is it weird to go with my DH to the barber” as opposed to what she really should be asking (and still hasn’t really acknowledged) “I think my DH is cheating twice a month when he goes to the barbers for several hours”

I do agree with you there, but I think the OP was originally writing with what her husband had told her (in a very gaslight-y kind of way) ringing in her ears.

OP posts:
BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/01/2026 07:22

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:21

Oh the hypocrisy!!

2 mins before starting this thread the OP was pulled up for not readin all the OPs posts!!!

Edited

Brilliant! 😂

RampantIvy · 26/01/2026 07:22

Is there a link to the other thread?

@ExpatInSlavikLand I agree. Threads where posters don't read the OP's updates just end up going round in circles.

Caughtletren · 26/01/2026 07:21

Oh the hypocrisy!!

2 mins before starting this thread the OP was pulled up for not readin all the OPs posts!!!

People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting
ExpatInSlavikLand · 26/01/2026 07:19

Theonebutnotonly · 26/01/2026 07:16

You are right that people thinking of commenting should read all an OP's posts first, to make sure they’ve seen updates.

But I completely disagree that they should also feel obliged to read everyone else's comments first as well. Presumably you think people should not then post comments if their view has already been expressed. But why not? They have as much right to express their view as the first person to do so. It’s not a rush to get there first. And as we don’t see how many "Agree" votes other people get, it can be useful to see the weight of opinion. Even if an AIBU poll is included, seeing the actual comments of individuals has more of an impact.

You're right, checking the OP's comments first is definitely more important, particularly when it's turned into a very long thread. The ME post is a great example of this.

Still, though, can't people skim read the general if the post isn't too long?

OP posts:
ThisPithyJoker · 26/01/2026 07:19

You're absolutely right.

It is tempting on Relationship threads, sometimes, to add a 'I agree - you shouldn't be being beaten up/financially abused/forced into sex and this isn't normal, no' for weight without reading the whole thread. Feels like the length of the thread might reinforce the depths of how wrong the behaviour is. But when I see it on AIBU when there's a poll for you to add a vote without anything new or interesting to say and people still do it, it gets irritating.

But yeah, I've also probably done it a few times for other reasons too

Taweofterror · 26/01/2026 07:18

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

It does ruin threads. I find at the start of these threads it's an interesting discussion with back and forth from the op but as the inane, repetitive, irrelevant comments start from people who haven't even bothered to read all the op's posts it just becomes pointless. The op understandably gives up posting and the threads rumbles on with pages of drivel.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/01/2026 07:18

I always read the OP’s posts but I really can’t be bothered to read everyone else’s comments. Generally, I won’t bother with a thread once is gets passed a couple of pages though.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 26/01/2026 07:17

I think some people get caught out but there are def habitual offenders.

That ME barber thread was something else!

I read that OP and assumed she was in london and still thought her husbamd was in a knocking shop!!! And weird for taking 2 hrs...

I think there's alao a bad intent issue
Ypu dont need an echo chamber.and yes I AM judgey on some issues 🫣... but i do think some posters just want moral high ground on all things every time.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 26/01/2026 07:16

I’ve done it when drunk before. Shoot me

Theonebutnotonly · 26/01/2026 07:16

You are right that people thinking of commenting should read all an OP's posts first, to make sure they’ve seen updates.

But I completely disagree that they should also feel obliged to read everyone else's comments first as well. Presumably you think people should not then post comments if their view has already been expressed. But why not? They have as much right to express their view as the first person to do so. It’s not a rush to get there first. And as we don’t see how many "Agree" votes other people get, it can be useful to see the weight of opinion. Even if an AIBU poll is included, seeing the actual comments of individuals has more of an impact.

GanninHyem · 26/01/2026 07:16

Imagine they're the same people that wade into irl convos with the word "Actually...."

Notmyreality · 26/01/2026 07:14

Ha I knew this would be about the barber shop post. To be fair the OP did herself no favours by framing the post as “is it weird to go with my DH to the barber” as opposed to what she really should be asking (and still hasn’t really acknowledged) “I think my DH is cheating twice a month when he goes to the barbers for several hours”

Placetobreathe · 26/01/2026 07:13

Cakencookieobsessed · 26/01/2026 07:09

Do you really, honest and truly care about this?

Many, many MNers are care about it, not just OP.
It ruins many a thread and is very exasperating.

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