People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

See my post at 21.12.

Although apparently it’s back again. It must have hit a report limit which automatically removed it for moderation.

Has thread 3 of the lady in the ME been deleted? I can't see it now

Beowulf?

The Middle East barber thread #3 having been removed for a bit of the old ‘looking at’ by MNHQ seems somehow ironic (in the very modern sense) right now.

Will it be back? Will it not? Is this someone’s life? Is it trivial? Is it not? Meta stuff.

This place is a free for all. I'm here, like everyone, to entertain myself. I approach that my own way. You approach that your way. Who really cares that much? If it's so important to someone that they have having emotions about how other people post, then I suggest they get a life outside Mumsnet.

Obviously more thought is needed when posting on 'heavy topic' threads.

I'm not the OP well spotted. I think it's a very very important point for people to aware if they need urgent advice to tread carefully with the advice given. The amount of people who don't understand nor read the opening post could be a problem if people needed that urgent advice and took it seriously.

Anyway I'm off to work, my service to MN done.

I find people who quote the op far more annoying tbh.

Was busy with work to pay my bills. Pp’s earlier responses- which I read and where OP concedes on important points, was informative.

i had a far more important point to make on behalf of genuine ops in need of advice. My post clearly proved my point.

Now, continue read the rest if the thread, will you. My point - very important- has been made. You are not even the op.

She most likely does or she wouldn’t have posted about it. Strangely enough there are some people who actually care, even about strangers or people they don’t know, when they see them getting a rough deal. I’m one of those people who cares too. It’s just inbuilt in me to give a shit, sometimes I wish it wasn’t, but I guess, that’s just how some of us are 🤷‍♀️

I don't mind if people don't read every comment, it may even be useful if lots of people say the same thing.
But not reading the OP posts and commenting when something has moved on is kind of pointless. If you care enough to comment, then you should care enough to see if OP situation is resolved before you do.

So they are not interested in giving helpful advice. They just want to post.

To be honest, if there are 30 pages, I'm not reading every comment. The issue sometimes is that the OP drip-feeds the story; if all the information is upfront, not sure it's necessary to read every single comment.

Cancel the cheque

Absolutely me 💯, Hrft here either.

Truly don't have time to read every comment, but will post on those that I think have a relevant point to make.

Discounting people who don't have time TRFT is almost discriminating, as many will be working people who having caring responsibilities in some way.

I try to read all the replies from the OP before commenting. If a thread is pages long though, and I think I have something to contribute I will do so.

I think a lot of people don’t have time to read the full thread.

Neither is 99% of MN posts. If it's all too trivial for you, pop off to something heavy weight.

Apple

I think it was Xmas chocs or something incredibly mundane, it was so dull I didn't actually commit the answer to memory, but I do remember a million further answers guessing long after the op had revealed it in all it's dullness

Should be a MN acronym NWRT (not worth reading the thread)

Hoist with.

And yet the title of this thread states the WHOLE in capital letters and therein lies part of the problem. Many of these (non) 'issues' would be solved if the thread title and first post were an accurate representation of the point, but they are often not which exacerbates the misunderstandings. Its a non issue though really, anyone can read, write, quote, skip, ignore anything they want, its really not that deep is it!

If the OP took umbrage, to a degree, fair point but its all the other post police clogging up threads with passive aggressiveness that cause just as many, if not more issues imo.

Live and let live - their are moderators to police threads if needed, we dont need an army of people with nowt better to do 🙄🤣

Ooh, what was in the back of the wardrobe then?

Considering some can’t be bothered to read a post properly or click read all OP’s posts, not sure having a second form will work.

I do have a chuckle at some of the ones where a poster comments, sometimes years after the OP though. There was one recently where the OP was asking for advice about her sick toddler. Someone responded about taking him to the GP, to which the OP came back and said "Thanks for your concern, but he's 8 now and well over it" 😂

Agree, it's so unfuriating when people don't even bother to read the OP properly before wading in!

A post will literally start with "I have two kids, 8 and 12...", and guarantee there will be multiple different responses "We need to know how old the kids are before we can make a judgement". "How many kids do you have?" "What year are they in, OP?"

Its the A&E ones that get me when people haven't read OP's updates and say "go to A&E" when its a day or so later and they've been and gone lol. But I agree I come to a thread and often see pages and pages of people's replies - I haven't got the time or the patience to go through all that.

I suppose people are posting in the same way you see under a FB post, where it's less of a discussion and more of a yelling into the void

Exactly. Perhaps MN should have a special "reply only to the original post" form alongside the normal "post" box on the thread. People could choose that form, type out their response, hit "send" and it can go into a special MN filing cabinet instead of appearing on the thread.