People who don't read the WHOLE thread before commenting

Where did the thread go?

It's fine to not read a thread.
But why then post on it when you (general you) obviously aren't up to date with what's been discussed (at least by OP if not in general)? Surely doing so wastes far more precious time than just... not.

Yes, it's possible you might have some vital nugget of information. I would say that of all the posts I see that either explicitly say or imply that they haven't been keeping up, about 95% of them are nugget-free.

Pitchforks. That’s it!! People seem to come for others like Hall Monitors with pitchforks. I’m very hesitant to post anything 😬😀

I fear that I'm someone you're aiming this at 🙈🤣 I didn't know you could see all posts from the op, but I saw someone say that new posters should do that, so now I know that trick, I hopefully won't be chased with pitchforks again. I just didn't want to read 39 pages 😬 I did only post though that it takes less than 2 hours for my hair to be cut and coloured then I did read all the ops updates. Sorry, I never intentionally want to wind people up ✌️🩷

Hahaha I actually remember your post. I’m new to MN, that was the first one I got into - lurked - and it got ugly real fast. I’ve noticed that a lot of people don’t bother to read the whole thread and then get very hostile when told to, because 9/10, their comments don’t make sense because either the story has moved on or another 27 posters have already made the same observation

I’d just read it before the thread got taken down. Will try to summarize:
Someone found another thread, which had a reply to the Barber post OP, suggesting that OP had a baby.

Others said that was a mis-tagging and that the OP had never posted on that other thread.

I got called out for NRTT on that thread.
However the person who called me hadn't read up my follow up thread to someone else who had called me out!

In a nutshell people were saying that it doesn't take a bloke 2.5 hrs or whatever to get his hair cut. I responded saying actually in some of the Turkish barbers you can sit and wait for ages and by the time they've done everything it can take that long. I was actually responding to someone's comments, not commenting on the actions of the dh in question before two people hadn't read the whole of the thread jumped on me for supposedly doing what they said I was doing! 😆 🤣

Its not only the OPs posts that need reading but the context of other posters comments.

It’s not a rush to get there first.
Its only a rush to get the first post when some famous dies! Then with the comment 'so sad' because anything longer risks someone else getting in first! (JOKING!)

What was the observation? I was believing her in the first two threads but when she was updating us every move she was making it did make me wonder. Like why would she be posting on MN when she’s just got back home, moved her suitcase into the taxi, all the while she was still on the phone to her lovely dad, telling us she is just about to go inside!? Where was she typing all of this!?

But who on earth has time to read through 30 pages of comments? This is mumsnet. I thought all mums were crazy busy batch cooking, doing school runs, housework and house admin with no time to spare, and no, I haven't read this whole thread because I'm a mum and very busy!

There were a few threads that were discussing it and all got shut down because of TAAT rules. Huge debate around if she was fake etc. someone found her name that had been replied to on another thread, people went for that poster, unfairly I thought, it was a clever observation . Huge mess.

My posts aren’t hugely lengthy to me!) but it seems people just don’t have the concentration for more then a few sentences - that’s absolutely fine but why clog up the thread commenting you can’t be bothered to read it and making me feel like a nuisance poster?

I agree. If the post was too long to keep your interest, you don’t need to spend even more time on it telling me that. It’s not a sodding book review!

Because it's social media, all social media is like this.
What annoys me more are people who make no attempt to answer the question and want to hijack the thread.

Yeah, I agree. But I suspect the OP may not have completely joined the dots in her head.

She was flirting around the edges of the idea, hence the thread, but didn't want to come out and say it.

Don't blame her, in that particular situation the consequences were huge. Lost marriage, home and possibly job in the space of 48 hours.

Once he didn't appear for their anniversary dinner, then probably it all dropped into place in her head and other things started to make sense.

I hope she is OK.

Apparently she may update later on a more ‘innocuous’ looking thread, whatever that means.

In real life, do you listen to people you are talking to or just say stuff randomly?

I was following the threads and got an email saying op had updated it at 6:32 this morning but I missed it. Does anyone know what she wrote?

That ended quite sadly overnight. The OP said she was flying home to her parents (will have recently landed), and the troll hunting got to her, I think. Anyway, MNHQ decided to delete it and left this message:

‘This thread has been deleted
MNHQ has agreed to remove this thread on grounds of privacy and security - the OP is very grateful for the kindness shown her by her fellow MNers.’

So assuming it was real, that MNer does seem to have been helped by those who followed the thread, read her updates, and supported her. And that is supposed to be the premise of MN - although the Facebook crossover is clearly stretching that now to its limits.

I agree one should read all the OP's posts before commenting on a thread.

However, the person you responded to was sharing their opinion on the topic of this thread, which is surely one of the purposes of posting in a forum? So can't fault them on that if it pertains to replies, rather than OP posts.

If a friend asks you for advice, do you let them tell you the whole story before giving advice or do you give them your opinion half way through what they have to say?

Looks to me like sharing an opinion. Valid. Maybe could have been put differently. :-)

So you are not posting because what you are saying might be helpful but because you want to post.

Yes, those can definitely be the plus sides of the internet for some. Obviously the serious threads need some considerate posting and thought.

I do feel like forums like this are often so big that almost everyone is almost invisible. I remember when the internet was new and such forums, even on big sites, were smaller and more personal. Real connections could be formed, and I did that then. I wish I could find such a place online now, but it's all just so big and anonymous these days.

I met my best friend online, but in a very small and niche forum which I no longer go to and haven't for years.

I don't dispute that sharing can be invaluable sometimes. I don't think it's for anyone to dictate how other people approach posting though. I think reading the OP responses is a reasonable minimum, but whole threads? Not always.

I agree that posting things like I'm not reading all that is unnecessary. Just back out then ... The internet has also become meaner, I believe.

I disagree with you based on my own experience and from speaking with other people who feel similarly or from feedback I’ve received.

I have a disability which means there are times I’m stuck in the house for days and can’t go to work, I feel cut off from the outside world but mumsnet helps to make me feel less isolated.
Some of the support I’ve had from posters who have experienced the same, offered useful advice or even just some kind words has made a huge difference to my life since finding this forum.

I have had some really unique experiences that have left me feeling alone, it’s a big feeling of relief and gratitude when someone else can say they have gone through the same thing or similar and survived or offer really useful information and resources I was unaware of.

I try to put as much information in my OP as possible in case people don’t read all my posts but then I’ve been criticised for “writing a novel” with comments like “I’m not going to get through all that”.
My posts aren’t hugely lengthy to me!) but it seems people just don’t have the concentration for more then a few sentences - that’s absolutely fine but why clog up the thread commenting you can’t be bothered to read it and making me feel like a nuisance poster?

It is really frustrating when you post in distress and end up missing replies that would have made a significant difference because people keep posting the same thing without reading updates. Either that or they contribute nothing useful and sometimes try to pick on something like a spelling mistake or turn of phrase they don’t like which derails the thread and made taking the time to post pointless.

I had a really traumatic experience last year and was suicidal, I can honestly say that strangers on mumsnet helped me through my darkest hours.
Following that I started drinking heavily, I have recently managed to stop and encouragement and reading other people’s success stories has helped me stay sober.
I went to AA last night after seeing many posts from people who said it saved them, it was scary but I already know it was a good decision and I might not have gone without reading others experiences and having a bit of an idea what to expect.

I have friends who feel the same and said that mumsnet has helped them get through tough times.
When I post on a thread where I think I might be able to offer insight or advice I read all OP’s posts and try to read as many comments as possible before I post, if the thread is too long I might just offer a brief message of support.
I have had a couple of private messages back over the years thanking me so I’m glad I could do the same for someone else as others did for me.

I think some people just see others lives as a form of entertainment to browse through when they are bored and don’t think before posting, there is no law against that but in my eyes it’s much better to remember a human took time to come and ask for help in desperation and how you respond could have a big impact on their lives.
I’m not talking about finding Christmas chocolates in wardrobes or outfits for weddings but people who are struggling through life and have no one else to talk to.

Spot on.

Completely agree.