To wish I didn’t work

She’s not ‘off’ 5 days a week though- she’s parenting! It has absolutely nothing to do with ‘work ethic’. 🙄

Or maybe she’s unfulfilled in her job, has a useless DH and never gets a break and is just fantasising about an alternative

Maybe DH is the problem then. Not work

@Iwishididntwork i guess we just have different work ethic levels that’s all. That’s the point of a thread really, to hear opinions that differ from your own .

She’s not teaching for 5 days but it sounds like she’s the default parent with a lazy husband so never gets a break from the relentless of parenting. Heaven forbid a woman want to do something other than work or parent!

People have been very hard on you on this thread! I’d love not to work but have the kids in some childcare! Oh the hobbies I’d do 😂 it’s never going to happen but it’s nice to imagine.

What it sounds like you’re really saying is your need some time for yourself - do you get any? Does DH take the kids for a few hours of a weekend? Even a brief break can be good for the morale and mental health.

I’m aware of this as a mother of 2 . I mean yeh we all want time to recharge . But being off 5 days a week is plenty of time. Kids are in school/playschool within a few years .

I also wish I didn’t have to go to work. I’m 60 and only work part time but Im not in the best of health. My son used to pay me to do his cleaning (£100 a week) but they’ve decided to hire a cleaner instead who they are paying £400 a week. I’m still doing some housework for them and still doing loads of childcare, they are on holiday at the moment and I’ve got the 4 kids, they’ve told cleaner not to come while they are away…my son is obviously a complete dick 🤣 I asked if he’d pay me £200 a week and then I wouldn’t have to work and could just do their cleaning, laundry and childcare but they don’t want that. Currently sitting on the sofa playing peekaboo with the baby, waiting for the rain to stop so I can walk the dog, drop the baby at nursery and go to work, cleaning for someone else. 🤔🤣

Mums are allowed to want time to themselves. So much of parenting requires you to be selfless and put your needs last; it’s ok to say that you would like a break or a bit of time to recharge.

It sounds like OP’s DH isn’t pulling his weight; so OP is allowed to find it stressful singlehandedly juggling all of the household stuff and childcare, whilst still contributing financially.

Hang in there OP, it will get better and you will get some time to yourself again. It’s just this bit sucks but it will pass.

Mmmm yeh . 2 days a week of teaching with 2 kids . Sounds way more stressful than the average life of a working mother . All I see is moaning about wanting more time at the gym etc

Mine are all grown now. I hate working , 3 days a week now, I would go back to having mine little again in a heartbeat. Not that it wasn’t hard, never ending, thankless, but compared to what I’m doing now I would swap.

She literally says ‘it’s pretty stressful’.

Several posters commented that they have disabled kids, so she has it easy.

And I do think teaching is particularly hard because you don’t finish when the day ends, there’s all the additional planning and marking.

Sounds like a husband problem not a give up work problem. Also - what i find helps with two small kids is lots and lots fo play dates where i like the mums (or dads) so i get a bit of good adult chat.

It really isn't fair OP
Is there anyway you can not work at all?
I refused to work until my son starts reception because I was still doing the lion's share of household duties.
My husband is so tired after work, he literally can't do anything so why should I do 2 jobs?
Even if it means less money until then, so be it.

Always surprised to hear this
Do people actually miss that stage?
I never did

I'm in a similar boat. Do try and put your foot down with your DH, I know it's hard, but there should be equal measures of things at home.

Can yiu mske sure your daughter goes to childcare for the usual days in the school holidays? You could look for a club for yiur son on these days, this way you could get in some 'me' time. Hope the conversation with your husband goes well.

Not saying other people have it harder. I’m saying teachers don’t necessarily have it harder than other people . And she doesn’t sound remotely stressed , just that she doesn’t want to work !!

if you don’t actually like being at home with your little kids then I think you should go back to work full time and outsource lots of the home stuff /tell DH to do his 5050 fair split and take turns on the weekends.

alternatively, I make part time
work by using a gym with a creche - I get a one hour pocket of me time on my day with my child.

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Really?

A stressed out working mum comes to complain that she’s struggling with all of the expectations put on her, and you, plus others, decide to comment that she’s basically being pathetic/ ungrateful because other people have it harder?? 😂

Utterly ridiculous.

A lot of people would like to not work, so it isn't unreasonable to feel like that. The reality is most of us have to, and these days relatively few of us can dare to go after the perfect job, because we can't risk losing the one we've got, Sure, some people take the risk, take out loans to study and have lots of people helping out with chlidcare etc-and sometimes it works out and they're in their dream job. Often it doesn't work out. But there's nothing weird about a parents wishing they could spend more time with their young kid.