To not understand why this is an issue

This is why I never had a hen's do.

I really think £75 to have to share a bed with someone, and 4 to a room is steep for a hotel actually - that’s £300 a night!
I’d pay that for a nice weekend away with my husband or maybe my best friend - but not a bunch of colleagues!

A separate hen do just for work friends? Weird and unnecessary.
You’re either her friends and you get invited on the hen do, or you’re not friends and you don’t.
You don’t organise your own alternative hen! At most you might go for a cheap and cheerful meal after work a few weeks before the wedding.

And sharing beds, life drawing and strippers with your colleagues sounds horrendous!

Oh crikey, not the proper hen do. Changes the scenario entirely!
The bride will be mortified. Surely it just needs to be a celebratory night out?

These kind of reasons are why I dodged some hen do’s.
Can’t you just go out local for a meal and drinks as you work together you must all live within a commutable distance? I assume the organiser needs this for herself in some way.

Women really need to cop themselves on and realise that these expensive Hens are ridiculous unnecessary pressure that they simply don't have to bow to.

You aren't even her closest friends.
£75 a night to share with 3 others?🙄

Sounds like a nightmare. Why cant work colleagues just go for lunch, or a drink after work?

Generally rented accommodation has an extra cleaning charge etc so has this been factored in? £75 isn’t unreasonable for a hotel especially if it includes breakfast. Having a kitty for the evening celebrations should be factored in to avoid any further angst

Good grief, all of this swapping and changing, arguing and nonsense would be my cue to say I can’t make it.

I do now think its a bit crap.

It will end up feeling like 2 separate dos once the apartment people go back to the apartment and the hotel people back to the hotel, ... Even before when everyone first gets to the respective accommodations , its like 2 separate groups meeting up then going separate ways.

I feel sorry for the bride as she knows nothing of this and will end up stuck in the middle

The hotel organiser should have been more open to suggestions but I don't think a separate apartment should have been booked and the going home people should have stuck to going home rather than now doing their own apartment thing

Do the people going even want to share 4 to a room? My friends and I are all going away for a weekend and the majority have opted to have their own rooms. £300 to share a room 4 ways and more importantly a bathroom 4 ways is a lot!

This is what I hate organizing this kind of thing! It’s a thankless task and you can never keep everyone happy

Is the new outfits idea a recent thing? I've seen it twice in the last few days.

I would never buy new for a hen do, even if I was told it was expected. I'd just reach into the back of my wardrobe, wear something I'm rarely seen in, and claim it to be new if challenged.

Unless the new outfits are meant to match? So strange!

ÝANBU OP.

Sadly some hen do organisers get carried away and just book what they want 🙄 and expect everyone else to pay. There should’ve been a proper discussion about costs before anything was booked.

I’d probably be swerving this do as tensions will most likely boil over nearer the time and sour the event. And as for booking a stripper 🤮 tacky as feck.

You need to dodge a bullet here OP 😂

I think if the bride has given someone the job to organise it then let them get on with it. Another idea was suggested but vitoed so it's then rude to then try to split the group up. Of course created a divide with 2 groups of people staying in different places. £75 isn't expensive for a hotel.

I was wondering what the sleeping arrangements were with 4 to a room.

I've sometimes seen hotel rooms with 2 double beds and couldn't really work out what sort of group they were aimed at.

"own bed !!! " WTF
The organiser wanted people to share beds ?

Organising these things is a massive pain in the ass. If the girl organising has spent hours researching hotels and reading reviews and someone else chirps up with something else - it is very annoying. And yes the group will be splitting staying in separate accommodation.

This doesn't make sense - if they couldn't afford the £75 then they couldn't have gone in any event, so finding the £35 place hasn't increased the price for others

Organising these events is always a nightmare, there is no pleasing everyone, should have been a proper discussion upfront in terms of everyones budget, but have to say splitting off into different groups like has happened is not great, think it will create a divide on the hen night.

4 people per room for £75!

Nothing wrong with trying to organise everyone in the same place but equally there’s nothing wrong with people wanting to do what is comfortable financially for them.

The organiser likely feels her choices are being judged and undermined, and had her own expectations of what it would be like, but she needs to understand that it’s not working for everyone. As you say you will all be together the majority of the time and they’re a short walk away.