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Second thoughts about nursery

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MyNoisyShark · 24/01/2026 23:49

I speak to a woman at nursery (won't say how I know her) and she's trashed the nursery.

Said they aren't applying the excema cream twice whilst her child is at nursery (it's four times a day).

The staff don't care that the children climb on furniture etc - feet should be on the floor.

They won't put in an autism/ADHD referral (she has been diagnosed with autism via one session).

Now I'm stressing. I don't pick up until a few mins before they close due to work and it's a council nursery so I feel they do follow the rules.

Aibu?

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 25/01/2026 09:57

If you’re happy with the nursery then what’s the issue?
You are always going to get people who view things differently to you or have different expectations but you just need to make up your own mind.

Just wait until your child goes to school and you’re added to a class WhatsApp! If you listened to some of the parents on ours you’d think the school needed closing down. Yet it’s a fantastic place.

Trust your own judgment.

Pryceosh1987 · 25/01/2026 01:07

Its okay to be a concerned mother. I think children are children, they are naturally very needy and playful.

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:49

Sorry ladies so just hop of the thread

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purpleme12 · 25/01/2026 00:46

fouroclockrock · 25/01/2026 00:43

You make very little sense.

Exactly what I thought!

fouroclockrock · 25/01/2026 00:43

You make very little sense.

G1ngerbread · 25/01/2026 00:30

If you are happy with the nursery for your child I don’t see the issue

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:29

G1ngerbread · 25/01/2026 00:28

Autism referrals in nursery are really quite rare, there’s usually lots they will try and put in place first unless it’s really blindingly obvious the child has autism. It’s also highly unlikely a nursery age child was ‘diagnosed in one session’ unless they went private.

The mum was, as an adult I think

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ArseSkinForAFriend · 25/01/2026 00:29

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:27

My child has medication yes.

I wouldn't know if they need an autism assessment, I'm not autistic or trained.

Oh well, pull your child out immediately.

And send them to a nursery that no other parent complains about at any time for any reason.

Good luck.

G1ngerbread · 25/01/2026 00:28

Autism referrals in nursery are really quite rare, there’s usually lots they will try and put in place first unless it’s really blindingly obvious the child has autism. It’s also highly unlikely a nursery age child was ‘diagnosed in one session’ unless they went private.

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:27

ArseSkinForAFriend · 25/01/2026 00:25

Does your child need medication or an autism referral?

If the answer is no, then stop stressing.

Name me one business or service in the world where absolutely everyone is happy with it.

You can't, can you?

My child has medication yes.

I wouldn't know if they need an autism assessment, I'm not autistic or trained.

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ArseSkinForAFriend · 25/01/2026 00:25

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:23

I think it's pretty serious not giving medication or not doing autism referrals

Does your child need medication or an autism referral?

If the answer is no, then stop stressing.

Name me one business or service in the world where absolutely everyone is happy with it.

You can't, can you?

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:23

I think it's pretty serious not giving medication or not doing autism referrals

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ArseSkinForAFriend · 25/01/2026 00:21

Well yeah, OFSTED do?

You're not really making much sense.

But 'trashed the nursery', do you mean she's unhappy with them and has offloaded her feelings onto you?

If so, I can't see a problem with her having a different opinion of it.

If you're happy with the care provided, don't give it another thought.

MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:14

Doesn't anyone check these nuseries

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MyNoisyShark · 25/01/2026 00:09

I just don't understand if she's making up lies as her experience is so different to mine. Surely if you have to put on cream X times a day, you do it?

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Eenameenadeeka · 25/01/2026 00:01

I wouldn't make any decisions based on the judgement of one other person, depending on who they are and how well you know them. I'd look at how your children are and how you find the staff yourself.

MyNoisyShark · 24/01/2026 23:50

By the way I have never had an issue and find everything is by the book. Manager is also been really kind and I've had no issue with the staff.

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