To go LC with PILs because FIL voted for Trump?

I think LC and NC are differnt

low contact - fine - we don’t have to go out of our way to be with people we don’t like

no contact - not so good

Sounds more like they made a clumsy approach to their experience of culture clash, as opposed to skin colour? Parents wishing to see their child marry within their own culture is still relatively common I think (rightly or wrongly).

As for Trump, I find attitudes towards him quite fascinating. I think he's gaffe prone and incredibly arrogant, however he also has his finger on the pulse of those who voted for him.

You've said your FIL doesn't want to discuss his choices at the ballot box, which tells us he isn't of the with or against me persuasion. Thus, if you otherwise get along with him, it would seem silly to cut him out of your life.

It sounds like your FIL doesn't actually want to discuss politics op. It's ok to have a relationship with a relative where you don't. My darling grandmother voted Conservative (Margaret Thatcher) while I was a complete lefty and once said - when asked what she would change about the BBC - she.wouldnt have so many black presenters on children's tv. That was an OMG moment. I still loved her very much. She was kind and generous and supported us in our interests. She was unfailingly polite to everyone whatever their heritage. We just didn't discuss politics.

I'm not a Trump supporter, but if you believe in democracy, OP, then you accept that people have the right to vote for whoever they choose. I know that I have friends who would always vote differently to me, and that's fine. I really don't understand people who say "I could never be friends with a [insert name of party] voter.
Our differences are what makes life interesting, after all!

Tough one op but unless he's dominating conversations then just ignore .

If he's actively not wanting to talk politics go with that
My pils are extremely narrow minded on politics think homeless people choose to be there etc but that's not why we are low contact.

I wasn't scared of my children hearing those views because we as parents have already covered homeless people and so on.
And at the end of the day I can't force my DC nor want to...what to think.

We went low contact because of their behaviours and attitudes to DH and us

Their Christian evangelist and racist views would be enough for me to go low contact without the Trump issue.

I would have an issue with them spending time around my children if they voiced these views.

Presumably they managed to raise a decent man in your husband? Surely you have enough influence over your kids to not let them be influenced by their grandparents’ politics? As a child in the sixties/seventies I heard my gran use some pretty unsavoury language about black people but I managed to not join the National Front.

So very obvious racist views weren't enough to limit control but this is?

Western democracy is a con on the people. Perhaps you can think of him as someone who has simply been conned not only by Trump but by the entire political system and the ruling classes.

You can't really take the moral high ground if you write 'typical boomer nonsense' just accept that you all have your own special prejudices and unpalatable views and don't let Trump ruin your family life.

Where did OP say they 'hate' family members? I think you are reading a lot into it.

Misogyny is a prejudice I thought too obvious to mention, given the fact that Trump is a serial sexual abuser. Of women.

ETA : And I'm gay, so I reserve the right to assume my oppression under the Republicans' hateful ideology is also taken as read.

They're not your family but they are your children's! You say later that you don't intend to keep your children from them, but in your OP you say you don't want your kids to spend time with them. I think your OP is your true feeling.
While you have the right to not see them, you don't really have the right to deny your children access to loving, kind grandparents.
I often disagreed with my dad's opinions but I would just say to my kids that people have different beliefs and explain my own pov.

You say they help you with childcare and money - are you planning to return what they've given you financially? Since they are so offensive to you.

Posted my reply before reading your update sorry. I think your FIL has the right idea about shutting down any conversation about politics. Theres no point, you’ll just end up in an argument. Can’t you just ignore the topic completely and keep the conversation light? I’d get not wanting to be around him if he was banging on about Trump all the time but if he’s actively avoiding the subject then he might be bearable to be around?

I think Trump is abhorrent and should probably be serving time, although I do rather admire that he never raises his voice. When he gets angry he just says even more hostile or offensive things in exactly the same tone.

You are not taking into account that US politics is so different. Millions of people probably voted Republican for personal, local, state, economic or ideological reasons, rather than voting for Trump per se. There is no alternative to the two main parties on the right, centre or left for that matter.

Ah okay - deadly racism is bad, deadly homophobia and misogyny is good.

Thanks, I’ll write that down and remember it next time I need to vote.

You’re overreacting. If everyone dismissed any family with different political beliefs to their own then no one would have any family left. You haven’t mentioned how your DH feels about it - if I was him I’d be fuming you were considering trying to deprive my kids of their grandparents (and take the kids away from my parents) just cos you disagree with their political beliefs. It’s selfish. You’re also teaching your kids that any time you disagree with someone else’s beliefs you should just cut them off. Not exactly preparing your kids for the real world or teaching them resilience.

There’s politics & there’s Trump. I would feel the same OP

I do strongly suspect the poster you mentioned is a bot though but presumably that accusation is banned
Very extreme views presented in a very aggressive way with only insults to opposing views.

Yup this
Don't know how much has been deleted since last night, but if you're going to post CAPS LOCK insults to 'liberals' all over one thread then come on another and try to convince us trump voters are sane and reasonable, you could at least have the wit to name change first.

It’s not politics to not want to be around people who support rapists and paedophiles.

Excellent post

Nowhere does it say this is the case.

The majority of posters on here seem perfectly comfortable with a President that enables the kidnapping of a five year old little boy in a hat with bunny ears and the cold blooded, deliberate murder of two US citizens by ICE as the lesser of two evils.

If your PILs still support Trump and his government after recent events, I couldn't be in the same room as them.