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To think a 15 year old should have a key to his own home,?

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Honeymoan · 24/01/2026 19:58

DN was round hanging out with DS and realised he had left something at his house ( in the next village). I said I would run him round and he could get it but he said his mum wasn't in and "doesn't let him have a key" .

He's a sensible mature 15 year old, volunteers and is well behaved and helpful. I just assumed most children had a key long before 15? DS has had one since before he started secondary, albeit at first it was partly to practice using one.

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Sunfloweranddaisy · 24/01/2026 20:08

Mine doesn’t have a key and is the same age. I can’t think of one time when they have needed a key as usually I do school runs and when they go out I’m indoors so there has never been an issue.
Will probably get one in the coming months as timetables will change with them leaving school.

sprigatito · 24/01/2026 20:06

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 24/01/2026 20:02

Sensible, mature and responsible? Of course he should.

My 19 year old OTOH doesnt have a key. He lost 2. Then it was lockdown and I was always at home to let him in. Then he had a MH crisis and has only just started venturing out on his own again after a few years of not. So I'll get him one when i remember.

My 21yo doesn’t have a key 😆 because he’s got raging ADHD and has lost more keys than I’ve worn out knickers. We just make sure there’s a door open for him. He’ll have to get his shit together eventually, but at the moment holding down a full time job and managing his MH is enough.

Honeymoan · 24/01/2026 20:04

I honestly think she's just too tight to pay to get a key cut. She is wealthy but won't spend money on anything. His only holidays are if he comes with us .

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jamandcustard · 24/01/2026 20:03

YANBU, that's ridiculous. I had my own key from 10.

Honeymoan · 24/01/2026 20:03

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 24/01/2026 20:02

Sensible, mature and responsible? Of course he should.

My 19 year old OTOH doesnt have a key. He lost 2. Then it was lockdown and I was always at home to let him in. Then he had a MH crisis and has only just started venturing out on his own again after a few years of not. So I'll get him one when i remember.

Well yes I can see that is quite different

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imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 24/01/2026 20:02

Sensible, mature and responsible? Of course he should.

My 19 year old OTOH doesnt have a key. He lost 2. Then it was lockdown and I was always at home to let him in. Then he had a MH crisis and has only just started venturing out on his own again after a few years of not. So I'll get him one when i remember.

Honeymoan · 24/01/2026 20:02

JerryTubs · 24/01/2026 20:00

It is old enough of course but did you ask how many he has lost previously? Speaking from experience.

She's never let him have one, so no chance for him to lose one!

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JerryTubs · 24/01/2026 20:00

It is old enough of course but did you ask how many he has lost previously? Speaking from experience.

christmassytimeagain · 24/01/2026 19:59

Of course he should. We also have. Safe box with a key for the kids or anyone who has forgotten one

BarbaraVineFan · 24/01/2026 19:59

Yes, that’s way too old not to have a key! Poor kid.

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