To think a 15 year old should have a key to his own home,?

I got my key in with my 16th birthday card.

We have a key safe instead as the locks we have mean the keys can’t be cut.

My 10yo ds has a key to our backdoor. 15yo dd has a key but is useless with it infact only today we went out came home 4 hours later….. she was out door UNLOCKED. She was bollocked.

10yo only needs backdoor key as he walks home once a week from school and dd is in but usually in her bedroom so won’t hear him knocking. He is super sensible with it too so see no reason why you dn doesn’t have one.

Tbh never pccur for me to give eldest dc a key until he was nearly 16 as I'm always home when he was home as have younger children.

I'm so sorry to hear this Original Commenter 😔I've only just seen your post & haven't had a chance yet to read responses, so I'm wondering if anyone's suggested asking your dear Nephew’s parents, if they've considered giving him his very own key yet?
I'm praying this will soon be resolved & maybe they've just not yet realised how helpful this would be 💚
Wishing You&Yours all the utmost very best 🫂

That’s ridiculous. I was never given a key to my family home as a teenager but I didn’t need one, my mam was always there when I got home from school.
My DC’s got a key when they started secondary school. My DS set a record by losing a total of 8 keys to our previous house. Then he learned to be a bit more organised and it hasn’t happened since. I just made sure the fob had no identification on it.
DD hasn’t lost one in 3 years so she’s doing a lot better. Not trusting a 15 year old at all is not only impractical but disrespectful.

I've never had a key to my parents' house.

My dc had keys once they were at secondary.

But that was different situations. Grew up fairly rural where public transport was rubbish, so it would have been very rare that I'd ever have needed it, as they tended to have to pick me up (no car for me to drive). My dc came back from secondary on their own and used buses to get about.

I gave DD one when she started secondary and was walking home. In the first few weeks she got home 2 minutes before me so was able to let herself in.

DH wasn’t happy as he wasn’t allowed one until he was 18! He only went to school/college a few minutes away. I’m sure his brother had one much earlier and it was just a means of control by his DM so he couldn’t stay at home alone. I think she only gave in as they were going abroad.

My 14 year old has a key, but he keeps it in his school bag (usually only needs it if he’s first home on a weekday), so if he was out somewhere else, it wouldn’t occur to him to take it, unless reminded.

That is a bit strange. We gave our DDs one when they started walking home from school alone, just in case there was a problem and nobody was home.

Does she have an expensive lock like a Banham, where replacements cost £30 per key?

It's the only excuse I can think of. I got a key the moment I started secondary school and my mum wasn't in as often.

Of course a 15 year old should have a key. Do all the ones saying their teenagers don't have one never leave the house?

My teen does not carry a key, but that is because she has had a key code since she was old enough to reach the electronic keypad.

I wouldn’t want my teen not to have a way into the house at all times. Things happen.

Based on what you have said about him being sensible etc I can't see any reason for him to not have a key. DD had one from around the time they started high school. We work mainly from home, so not that many days one of us won't be here, but it happens occasionally.

Mine doesn't have one cos he doesn't need one. I wfh so the door is always unlocked. On the rare occasion that I won't be home when he is coming home or is the last one to leave, he takes a spare key. But it isn't his. Ditto my 11 year old.

I never had one, until I left home at 18. I never felt as if I needed one because mum was always there when I got home, but I did feel a bit funny about it because all my friends had keys to their homes.

My 18yo has had a key since around 11/12. 15yo has been the same. They have needed their keys over the years.

Hopefully your DN gets a key to teach him some basic independence skills.

I strongly suspect ADHD in our case too.

I had my own key at 10.

What reason is there to not give a 15 year old a key?

Maybe suggest a biometric or keypad door 🔐 ck to his mom.

My parents never let me have a key because I was never allowed be home alone as a teen. It's bonkers now that I think of it. Our front door automatically locked so I had to ring and be let in every time I went anywhere. So it always felt like a big deal, leaving the house and I always had to explain where I was. Unsurprisingly I left home at 18.

My kids have keys from about 10 or 11. They don't spend very long home alone but it makes sense if one of us has to pop out and they are hanging out with a friend and come home etc.

My teen SS doesn't have a key because we can't trust his mother wouldn't use it or copying it etc.
Also he 100% would lose it

My 15 year old doesn't have a key, but he doesn't need one. My 17 year old has a key but I can't remember the last time he used it.

Mine had keys from age 8 or 9 so they could come in from the park without my having to disturb whatever I was doing to let them in.

Eldest got a key when they started secondary (This meant paying £40 for the magic security key our LL saddled us with when our front door was replaced)

I WFH but most of my team is in the US so the time DC gets home is prime meeting / call time and I can't always open the door.