To think people who constantly publicly share their achievements have something to prove?

Some people are just very active on social media and post a lot about their lives.
I don't think they are trying to prove anything, they just like social media

I think it’s pretty normal to post life events and things you’re proud of on SM. I post pics of my allotment and veg on mine! I don’t post everything though, in case it sounds like I’m bragging such as all of my DS’s achievements. Tone is important as well.

How old are you @JennyWren5 ?
do you have a partner? Children?

Oh not that high paying then 😂 don’t tease us

I mean yes, she’s proving that she has achieved all these things and is proud of it. That’s why anyone posts this kind of stuff on social media. I’m never sure what people mean by ‘has something to prove’ because yeah… she’s proven she has a nice house/job etc.

Hold on OP- not to labour the point but you said she spent a few years being a teacher and then went into a high paying corporate job.

so when she got that high paying job she had no relevant experience did she? She’d just bee a teacher.

I think it’s possible- for example I was at school/ uni with someone who now owns a business that’s had a bit of press and won a few awards.

I really liked her but she was such an unusual person- she had these sort of personas through life (all played out on social media from SMs inception)

-the Over talented musician (claimed to play 28 instruments, most she had only had a go with, not able to “play”

-the media party girl (worked in tv in the noughties)

-the corporate money maker (late 20s)

-the burnt out hippy renovating her house with her boyfriend

-the earth mother with the small, funky creative wedding

-the home based family business owner with an idealic wholesome family life and great storytelling to go with the brand (which also recounts all the above lifestory)

the thing is, she had this really weird way about her whereby she would decide a persona and just make it happen.

All the above personas ended fairly badly - on reflection she must’ve been exhausted at the graft and pretence - and she would recharge before developing the next persona.

There was always something not quite right; that the idealic family business included a objectively poor marriage, that the tv career never quite got out of junior dogsbody- that the music was not really true- and I felt sorry for her really, because it never seemed like any of it was authentically her- it was almost like she either didn’t know who was, or didn’t like herself

somewhat long but it made me realise I do sort of get what is meant by “having something to prove” by posting all the carefully crafted achievements on social media

I don't past on SM but when I did it was just fun stuff. Some people do feel the need to show their achievements for approval and responses, others may just be so happy to share to inspire what they've managed to do.

I have a friend who changed her life around and now does marathons, I feel proud for her. Some others are yawn with posts of look at our matching Christmas outfits.

Do you feel that she has achieved in life without paying her dues, and you have paid your dues twice? That can sting I suppose.

Why shouldn’t she? I always tell people when I get a new job. I told everyone when I got my PhD. Actually, a friend and I celebrate every year the joint anniversary of when we got our PhDs. Whenever I get something new published or a student of mine publishes something we’ve worked on, I tell people. I’ve worked hard for that and it’s nice to celebrate the good stuff you’ve done.

I’d much rather hear about that stuff than what Sarah had in her overnight oats last night or how many shots Bob did before he vomited and someone took a ridiculous photo of him.

I like seeing peoples achievements, they are sharing their happiness and in a sad messed up world it’s nice to see people happy? I don’t think it’s bragging at all. If I was winning awards (not going to happen) or if I did something amazing, I would want to share it. It’s ok to be proud of your achievements and share them with others.

She doesn’t have something to prove, she’s just proud of what she has achieved?

She had no experience though. Great unis don’t lead to high paying jobs on their own.

of course she might be a well connected master hustler and good on her, but it’s massively unusual

I don't think much about it. Maybe she's trying to build a following for some reason. DIL loves clothes. She had a page where she posted what she wore. She wasn't usually an oversharer (you wouldn't find her address or know she has DGD) and this was seperate to her personal Instagram page. Does anyone still use Facebook? With just a few thousand followers the amount of expensive clothes, make-up, jewellery, trips, etc. she was gifted was unbelievable.
I can only imagine the monetary value of having a lot of followers.

You are proud of someone you vaguely knew at university? Honestly OP you need to stop following her, this doesn’t sound entirely healthy.

I think that the mentality that being proud of your achievements/good things in your life, is 'showing off' is such a depressing attitude and its used to keep people 'in their place' (often by people doing the same/worse as them, interestingly) and you'd do well to think a bit harder on why that mentality might have come about before you decide you want to live your life this way.

Have you ever been friends with her?

To use someone on social media with whom you don’t seem to have any relationship with, and infect seem very antagonised by, to basically drive your own life ambitions…. Is, to say the least, peculiar

Can you explain what you actually mean by having 'something to prove' though? Do you mean you think she has some deep-seated trauma or difficult upbringing that has made her feel the need to share her achievements more than others might? That's possible, but tbh it's probably just that different people have different opinions about what they are happy to share on social media.

People who post constantly about their lives, have to mention their achievements or how amazing their relationships are tend to the most insecure and need the validation from others. I never believe everything I read online.

To answer your question: no, I don’t think they have something to prove. I think they share their achievements because it’s a nice thing to share with friends. But you’re not this woman’s friend.