To think people who constantly publicly share their achievements have something to prove?

I love when my friends share their achievements on SM. We’re pretty disparate now so it’s the only way I find out in a timely fashion.

Who doesn’t want to know when their friends have done well at something?

I’m far more disappointed that algorithms on SM have ruined them as a way to stay in touch with people you’re friends with. I miss lots of stuff because my feed’s are too busy showing me promoted content (though Insta is better than some).

Probably for the best, I used to look at an ex that I hadn’t got over who had moved on and got married. It was like stabbing myself in the heart, and was the reason I deleted Facebook.
Comparison is the thief of joy, but social media makes it so easy to keep picking that scab.

Listen; I totally get it. But other people’s achievements or success largely don’t affect me because I’m happy in my own life. Financially I’m on my arse. I’ll never be a homeowner. But I’m fulfilled creatively and have a kid, good friends, and am grateful for my life. So I love other people’s happiness. Focus on yourself, pour into your own cup, and then the rest won’t bother you.

Good for you, I didn’t mean anything I said to be cruel but it did sound like it wasn’t helping you to follow her.

Possibly because she seems to have lived a very lucky life, to be beautiful, intelligent, successful etc. this seems a bit obsessive and self harmy tbh.

She’s just some person you used to know, she’s not really important to you or to the life you actually lead. Do you have good healthy relationships yourself?

Well done!!! Seriously good on you

Does she have kids OP?

I am generally happy to see most people's posts about achievements but agree with PP about tone. Some seem proud and happy which is lovely to see but others seem braggy which puts me off.

Some people seem to need external validation to fill some insecurities within them. The problem is it won't fix the insecurities so they keep trying. Not everyone though, most just genuinely want to share things.

Also, depending on your followers you need to read the room.

I think it might be a healthy step for you to unfollow her. Write a list of things you are proud of. They don't have to be qualifications or jobs, it can be anything. Also write things you would like to achieve or things that make you feel insecure/ not content and work on those.

My point is - that you don’t have a relationship with her and in fact t you are antagonised by her BUT you also say that you use her posts as your motivation for your life goals. That is not healthy and really - just unfollow. Now. Go on… you can do it!!

I was talking about this subject earlier. I work with a girl who is 20, I follow her instagram and she has always posted loads.. Pretty mundane stuff like her new dog ect.
In the last two years and I don’t know how her parents who she lives at home with have become millionaires.
Her selfies now are in a new absolutely stunning home.
She posted a video of her mums Christmas decorations.. Again no longer your standard decorations, it’s like something from Hello magazine.
Her dad got her a new car, a very expensive one.
The holidays have also changed.. Newyork at Christmas, Dubai and Jamaica at New Year.
She’s always posted loads like I said but instead of.. Newlook round a pool in Corfu, it’s Gucci
and Chanel.
I don’t know how her parents got so rich (lotto win?) and I did have a little nose by asking her if she still had to work and she told me no she doesn’t but she likes the job and would get bored otherwise.
Anyway the reason I was talking about her today is because of how uncomfortable I am finding the reaction from other work colleagues towards this girl.
So many bitchy comments and eye rolls when she posts a picture or comes in to work with another designer bag or talks about her holidays.
I could see it was getting to her so I had a word with her.. I told her that she isn’t doing a thing wrong.
The fact that the same people were happy to engage in her instagram when it was pictures of an all inclusive in Tenerife and now think her 5* trip to The Caribbean is her bragging are pure and simple jealous.
Of course they are, I’m jealous but am fully aware that is my problem and not hers.
What baffles me most is how they could very simply unfollow her but also that most of them are old enough to be her mother.
I know you say you aren’t but you do sound jealous op.

She wants to show people her happy life? She thinks it will make others like her more? You don't know anything whatsoever about what she doesn't post about. So I would either just assume she likes the attention and is proud of certain aspects of her life.

Even without intending to do so, people’s SM posts are heavily curated. People don’t post bad pics of themselves, or mention their ordinary days. Such as ‘Today I didn’t get dressed until lunchtime, and I spent hours on Mumsnet, failing to do the household chores I’d planned’.
We tend to make our lives sound better than they are, cos we don’t post the bad or disappointing stuff. In your friend’s posts she doesn’t mention why she has left previous jobs, or the failures she has had along the way.

It’s called Instagram vs Reality for a reason, unfollow her it will not be a true representation of real life

Is she the same age? I am right in thinking you’ve never been friends with her?

Yeah you’re jealous of something so looking at her page is like picking a scab. Lots of people do it.

Everyone I know well that does this are lonely irl. When I see they’re not sharing generally correlated with them having a tough time and so I’m relieved when they go back to posting again!