To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

Of course you can't leave her outside. What kind of friend does that? Yes, she's annoyingly early, but that's because she started out so early as she was worried she may lose her way. Give her a break!

As people have said, she can always chill and watch TV for a bit while you do what you need to do.

Are you coming back to the thread @youretooearly ? What happened?

PLEASE say you didn't keep her waiting for an hour and a half in the car!

She won't be your friend for long if that happened!

Says more about you than it does about me, tbh.

I promise to take a "long hard look at myself" etc. 😀

You were 'angry' with her? Not much of a friend .

Your friend was really rude turning up so early. I think you were backed in to a corner to let her in.

What an odd question - presumably OP invited her for 6pm because she would be free at 6pm. If she wanted her to come at 4pm then that's what she would have said

I love my friends but I do have other things to do and I wouldn't always be able to just drop everything because they rocked up 90 minutes early.

No, you assumed I was doing it deliberately on the other thread, and then you felt the need to do the same on this one as well for some bizarre reason.

Says more about you than it does about me, tbh.

Well then why invite her over in the 1st place? There could be numerous reasons why this "friend" turned up early.
Maybe she was having a really bad time at home and needed to get out?
This is not a "friend" issue its an acquaintance issue. A friend would just let them in and leave the work for the next day.

Wow ... you are friends?

As op is not coming back. I only drive in dark if I really have too, as the car lights hurt my eyes.
But I’m one the awful early person, but I would just stay in my car. And I have a few always late friends, and I always get a very half hearted apology and the feeling that their time is more important than mine.
One friend I now aim to be 15minutes late and she is still late!! I have stopped meeting for coffee.

😄 I'm genuinely not following you! And I wasn't intending to sneer, but I did assume you were deliberately exaggerating since you kept doing it on the other thread yesterday.

My mistake, and my apologies.

How is she horrible ? The friend turned up 90 mins early ! That’s just as rude as turning up 90 mins late , it’s not like she’s walked there , she is in her car , it was her choice to be so early when OP had things to do.

Could be lots of reasons

• wants to prepare quietly not with friend watching TV or whatever
• would feel too awkward not hosting friend once she's in
• wants to stay in work "headspace" not be taken away from prep for 5-10 min then have to try to get back into it
• friend might do this a lot (ignoring others' requests, being ridiculously early, being a nuisance) and she doesn't want to encourage it.

Visible through the window AND texting "let me know when you're ready".

"I'm setting off really early but I don't want to impose", yeah, course you don't.

this is just not a friend to you is it...you don't like her even

I’d be hugely annoyed if someone turned up 90 mins early. It’s an imposition. What’s the issue with driving in the dark? She needed to go somewhere to occupy herself for 90 mins or not agree a 6pm meet .

Sitting there visible and and texting is just being pushy to change the arrangement .

In OP’s shoes I would invite her in and back off from the friendship / next ever invite her over again.

YABVU. In the time it took to write your post you could have invited your friend in, made her a drink and explained you need to prepare for an interview on Monday.

OP, once your friend has finally found her way into your home, sit her down and take her through such modern technological innovations such as Satellite Navigation and Google Maps. With the latter, pinpoint your address, click on "Directions", fill in the box with the address she's arriving from, and, lo and behold, there is your route all planned out on the map, with a precise estimate of the time it will take to get there, allowing for the traffic and every other possible obstacle in real time. A SatNav will give her spoken instructions every step of the way, of course. I appreciate anxiety about punctuality and driving in the dark - I'm one of those people who turn up at an airport four hours if not more in advance - but for a simple visit to a friend this is way too early.

Why would you not let your friend in.. even if you were busy just say sorry I wasn’t expecting you yet so I’ve just got xyz to do then I’m free but I can make you a cuppa whilst you wait

I would be seriously pissed off if someone turned up that early. Mostly because I struggle to cope with unknowns, even as seemingly trivial as this. But there’s NO way I’d leave them sitting outside. Not in a million years.

Exactly. I've turned up early to things plenty of times (often because it's easier than going home in between) but I park on the next street over and keep busy with admin, or take a nap, or read a book. I don't hang about outside their house for over an hour 😬

Obviously leaving your friend on the street in her car YABU. Just say come in, sorry I’ve got to get this done it’ll take me an hour, make yourself at home and go to a rooM to do your interview prep…

Unless I'm missing something, it seems like she's behaving courteously, and I don't understand your hysterical melodrama, which I often encounter in AIBU.

Yes, it's an odd choice to sit there, instead of spending that time running an errand or going for coffee. But perhaps she prefers the silence of her car. Perhaps she was hoping you'd be ready early. Perhaps she's having personal chats on her phone and that's the best place to do it privately.

To me, you are being more peculiar than she is.

No odd is being an adult scared of the dark and turning up 1.5 hours early. If she wants to be a weirdo that's fine, but deliberately being visible through a window is an imposition on OP who said 6 for a fucking reason.

I think it’s bizarre she arrived so early but if I had invited a friend for dinner then , she’s obviously a good friend, so I’d invite her in as soon as I noticed she was here.

id never leave a friend sitting outside.

I don’t know a single person who would leave a friend sitting outside.