To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

Oh f** hell your friend came and hour and a bit early
So you are leaving her outside 😂 I hope she drops you like a hot potato
She left early as she hadn't been before and was worried about driving in the dark , not because she's nuts
Wtf you sound insane. I would have invited in and offered a tea and said I need to go in the other room to finish my job prep and I'll be with you in an hour - here's the TV remote
🙄

The friend is a bit over the top; but the OP is infinitely worse with an attitude like hers!

Note to self:
Meet at the restaurant when times are extra busy.

True. I can see it from both perspectives.

What a strange friend you are.

This
People blaming OP for not sticking to "social norms " and being a bad friend
When the early bird is totally taking the piss.
My pal does this and rushes me along
Left early because she was bored and wanted entertained

But she had other plans - why should she just drop them because her friend showed up 90 minutes early?

And the friend definitely did expect to be hosted - otherwise she’d not have text OP well in advance or parked within eyeshot of her house 🫣

Who chuffing does that?! That's just as crazy behaviour as arriving 90 minutes early! At least the friend explained her reasoning, some people really are that nervous about driving to a new place in the dark.

Normal people would let their friend in, make a joke about how insanely early she is, make her a brew and tell her to make herself comfortable while you finish your job interview prep in another room.

You haven’t answered but it reminded me of the time I was invited to a friend for tea and cake. I was 20 minutes early. I got public transport so you can never be sure of the time. Anyway I knocked on the door and felt like I had made a huge mistake in knocking early. I should have wandered the side streets instead. I don’t think I bothered going back again.

Both OP and friend are weird

Friend for sitting in car outside house for ages. If you arrive hours in advance, park up and go for a walk or something.

And OP for seeing friend is parked in drive but acting like she doesn't know.

Bizarre behaviour on both sides.

Tbf I like to arrive in the light - I find navigating in the dark much harder and if parking is tight then it gives me time to find a nice space without feeling under time pressure.

So there are times when I have arrived ridiculously early. I bring stuff to do and have a peaceful time in the car all on my own.
And if I was sitting outside and they arrived home, and I knew they'd seen me then I'd feel I had to send a text to acknowledge that. If they replied saying do come in now, then I'd go, but in all honesty I'd be enjoying that peace and quite happy in the car.

I do really enjoy time on my own with no pressure to do anything though.

Jesus Christ. Why are you policing responses like some vigilante moderator? Please understand that your perspective isn’t wanted. Touch grass.

We have no idea what the OP has done since 17.11 as she hasn't posted an update.

If that was the case she needed to communicate that need rather than turn up 90 minutes early and expect to be hosted.The OP could just as easily have had a trying day and needed the time to decompress.

Leaving a friend outside in the car for an HOUR AND A HALF, purely because she turned up too early - ONCE - is top tier shitty behaviour, and not something a friend should do. It's dark, and cold, and windy, and pissing down. Leaving someone outside for an hour and a half, as the OP has done is lousy behaviour, and more 'weird' than the 'friend' turning up too early.

You were on about a 'friend' of yours who annoyed you by always turning up early, which suggested it's happened quite often.

It's only happened ONCE to the OP.

That is 'exactly why I am quoting you.'

Not too hard to figure out.

Leaving her outside because she arrived too early is something I would need to do.

But I'm bonkers. And I'm assuming you're not.

So you should probably let her in. Explain about the interview. Give her a coffee, plonk her in front the TV and go do what you need to do. If she gets the humpf that's her problem. She made the decision to arrive ridiculously early.

??

OP says “come round at 6”

person arrives at FOUR THIRTY, sits outside in their car and says “let me know when you’re ready”….

….and you say OP is th weird one??

Take this as an opportunity to teach some bloody good manners to that stupid woman. Make her wait until exactly the time you had agreed to meet. This woman is purposefully testing the boundaries of your friendship to prove she has some control over you. Don't cave in to those cheap tactics.

I wouldn't have the heart to leave her sitting in her car.
I always think how I would feel if it was reversed.
It might have been that she'd had a bad day at home and needed to get out of the house. Maybe needed her friend to talk to.

i responding to the previous posters assertion of not wanting to drive in the dark meaning you need extra lessons/are unsafe to drive.

If i knew i was arriving somewhere that early, i would do what someone else said, and park up somewhere else for a bit, not outside the house and expect to be let in.

But also, my friends wouldn't leave me sat out there either...so.

Tbf I don't think the chance of satnav taking you 150 metres from the correct destination is much of a justification for arriving somewhere 1.5 HOURS early. Unless she's driving 0.1km/h for the last leg 😂

Probably because you said you had a friend like this. You don't. OP's friend, unless we get a massive drip feed did it once, your friend was a case of a repeated pattern of behaviour. Not the same thing.

She hasn’t she sat outside, what I am saying is her friend knew & left her out there…..not really a friend.

Are you insane? So you just sat inside and left her out there? I'd stop being your friend and never come back your crazy!