To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

Depends who it was and how close I am to them. If it was my best friend, I would let her in without hesitation, make her a cuppa and go about my business - I know she would be happy with that.

TBF, I don’t think the OP gives a toss about what anyone thinks given she hasn’t been back! Either that or she decided to let friend in early and they’ve now sunk 10 bottles of wine and will resurface late afternoon 😂

Oh, stop making this something it isn't. 🙄

This!

It'd be different if she did this every time but it's the first time and she was clearly a bit nervous. At the very least I'd let her in, make her a brew, but explain I had some important work stuff to do.

If any friend of mine left me sitting outside and ignored me I'd be driving off!

OP is normal too. She is allowed to have plans. Stop expecting women to always be available.

I’d still play dumb and say something like “I’ve got some work to do at home. Won’t be available until 6. Feel free to come a bit later if you like. X”

No, you sound normal. 😊

I have very few but very close friends, I wouldn't mind if they turned up a early as they would just make themselves at home whilst I do what I need to do and vice versa.
I always look forward to seeing them so it wouldn't be an issue but then we are so close that we can just be in each other's company without any awkwardness , I would have welcomed any help with the job interview prep as well but maybe that is just me and my friendship group.

OP did say it's a friend.
So what if friend is early.

Yabu. You're not much of a friend

😂😂😂Id let her wait. maybe she wanted to make sure she got there on time. I admire the urge to be at the takeaway on time though.

Brilliant
This is the way to be
People take liberties
Boundaries all the way

i would of thought the best thing to have done would be to let your friend in and order the takeaway earlier so she leaves earlier and you can do your interview prep after instead?

also if you've left your friend outside to prepare for this important interview was you on mumsnet instead? lol

I am more on the side of the friend in the car, it’s nice to let them in. BUT as a host I’d feel uncomfortable leaving a guest on their own while I finish working. I’m sure they’d be fine with a cup of tea and the telly but I’d feel awkward ignoring them.

It's ironic. Mumsnet is full of people saying that we should resist the 'be nice' trend, that it's ok to have boundaries etc, but seemingly if someone rudely and deliberately turns up an hour and a half early, you should drop what you're doing, causing yourself detriment and accommodate them.

The absolute entitlement of some people here stuns me. People who would seemingly happily turn up 90 minutes early, and if the other person can't clear their plans and accommodate them, they'd drive off in a huff again, ditching the friendship.

Because it’s the kind thing to do for your friend. 🤷‍♀️

Yes leave her out there you can be 20mins early no more

Exactly. All the friend's actions are designed to get OP to let her in early. If she was worried about finding the house, she could have driven there and then got her sat nav to show her the nearest Costa, Starbucks or McDonald's to fill time for 90 minutes. She was 'imposing' in exactly the way she'd said she wouldn't.

Also, friend's never been to visit before so it's presumably not a long standing friendship, where someone knows your place well and you could easily leave them to their own devices.

Meeting time? I thought it was friends having a catch up and not a work/business related issue apologies if I have misunderstood

Don’t be an arse hole. She is your friend, she has travelled to see you. She might be earlier than planned Show her the kettle and your telly and crack on

The friend mentioned her anxiety about driving to a new place in the dark at 3.30 this afternoon. She could have requested an earlier meeting time to account for that but she didn't. She turned up 90 minutes early and texted OP asking her to let the friend know when she was ready.

They arranged to meet at 6, the OP does not owe her friend an explanation of what she was doing before then in order to justify not being available 90 minutes early.

No, she didn’t ask explicitly but it’s pretty clear that she expected to be let in early - otherwise she wouldn’t have text at all.

FWIW I wouldn’t leave my friend sat outside for ages but I think her behaviour is bloody rude and not at all how a decent person should behave to begin with.

How is said friend getting home if she can’t drive in the dark?!

I mean the friend is weird for just showing up 90 mins early - why not ask in the first place?