To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

I invited my friend over to my house for a takeaway tonight. She asked what time and I said about 6pm. She responded to say she was planning to leave her house shortly (this was about 3.30pm) as she has never been to my house before and wanted to find her way before it got dark. She said not to worry she would just "hang around" somewhere and wouldn't impose. I assumed she meant she would go to a nearby coffee shop or something. I wasn't at home at that stage and told her so. I got home about 45 minutes ago and planned to use the time before she arrived to do more preparation for a job interview I have on Monday.

I walked into my living room about half an hour ago and noticed her car sitting outside my house! So she was here at least 1 hour 20 minutes early. I was shocked. I haven't acknowledged that I've seen her or invited her in yet. She's sent me a message 15 minutes ago "let me know when you're ready". I feel a bit angry that she's turned up so early! I said 6pm for a reason and now feel under pressure to let her in.

The reason shes asking is because she knows what she is doing wrong, she feels guilty and just wants someine to make he4 feel better. Did her friend make sny demabds on her? No, she is speaking from her iwn guilty conscious. Just to answer your qyestion, i am nit that cruel to my friends, even if i arriced early abd you keft me to sit in my car for 1hour 30 minutes outside your house, while you are in, we are not friends, sorry to disappoint you. I am that entitled. I wont come again. If we are friends, why can't you let me in offer a cup of tea and continue with your stuff while i wait for you atleast in comfort?

Are we supposed to be able to understand this?

Are we supposed to be able to understand this?

The reason shes asking is because she knows what she is doing wrong, she feels guilty and just wants someine to make he4 feel better. Did her friend make sny demabds on her? No, she is speaking from her iwn guilty conscious. Just to answer your qyestion, i am nit that cruel to my friends, even if i arriced early abd you keft me to sit in my car for 1hour 30 minutes outside your house, while you are in, we are not friends, sorry to disappoint you. I am that entitled. I wont come again. If we are friends, why can't you let me in offer a cup of tea and continue with your stuff while i wait for you atleast in comfort?

Are you really so entitled that you would expect your friend to ditch anything she needed to do, reduce the prep for an upcoming interview, and set all that aside because you decided to turn up an hour and a half early? Would you really be so incensed by her not being able to drop everything and accommodate you that you would end the friendship? Holy cow that's entitled!!

I'd let her in but if you really need the time to prepare explain that, make her a coffee and give her the remote control while you do the planned work.

I invited my friend over to my house for a takeaway tonight. She asked what time and I said about 6pm. She responded to say she was planning to leave her house shortly (this was about 3.30pm) as she has never been to my house before and wanted to find her way before it got dark. She said not to worry she would just "hang around" somewhere and wouldn't impose. I assumed she meant she would go to a nearby coffee shop or something. I wasn't at home at that stage and told her so. I got home about 45 minutes ago and planned to use the time before she arrived to do more preparation for a job interview I have on Monday.

I walked into my living room about half an hour ago and noticed her car sitting outside my house! So she was here at least 1 hour 20 minutes early. I was shocked. I haven't acknowledged that I've seen her or invited her in yet. She's sent me a message 15 minutes ago "let me know when you're ready". I feel a bit angry that she's turned up so early! I said 6pm for a reason and now feel under pressure to let her in.

Isn't friendship meant to be a bit relaxed? She knows you very well, that's why she left early to get to your place because she didn't know where you live. You should cut her some slack and let her in. You are lucky you have a friend who can be patient with you and sit in the car for 30 minutes waiting for you to let her in. If it were me, I will go and that would be the last time you will ever see me at your door. If you knew you had an intetview to prepare for why did you invite her then?

I invited my friend over to my house for a takeaway tonight. She asked what time and I said about 6pm. She responded to say she was planning to leave her house shortly (this was about 3.30pm) as she has never been to my house before and wanted to find her way before it got dark. She said not to worry she would just "hang around" somewhere and wouldn't impose. I assumed she meant she would go to a nearby coffee shop or something. I wasn't at home at that stage and told her so. I got home about 45 minutes ago and planned to use the time before she arrived to do more preparation for a job interview I have on Monday.

I walked into my living room about half an hour ago and noticed her car sitting outside my house! So she was here at least 1 hour 20 minutes early. I was shocked. I haven't acknowledged that I've seen her or invited her in yet. She's sent me a message 15 minutes ago "let me know when you're ready". I feel a bit angry that she's turned up so early! I said 6pm for a reason and now feel under pressure to let her in.

Most of them just need an eye test I reckon. Feeling uncomfortable driving at night is one of my first symptoms. I can see ok enough (it seems, especially during the day, and can still legally drive) just don't feel comfortable. Then I get updated glasses (with a minor tint for the blinding headlights as well) and feel comfortable driving at night again.

People have such an issue with getting their eyes tested regularly, all the ones I've ever spoken to it's because they're too tight to buy new glasses and won't stand up to the opticians hard sell and tell them replacement lenses only. I'm guessing they also CBA to get them online like one of my friends does very cheaply. Drives me nuts when the worst ones can't tell who just said hi when you're standing a few metres away and you have to say your name, then they go get in their car!

OP I'd leave her out there and switch off my phone so she couldn't message again, because I'd be feeling pressured. I couldn't concentrate on the work knowing someone was sitting in another room waiting for me. Once she's inside I'd be in host mode.

If I'd said "about 6" I wouldn't be expecting anyone to show up before half 5 earliest. If it was the other way round and I'd shown up that early to someone's home, I'd park down the street so as not to pressure my host with my presence outside and go on my phone for a bit until 5.45pm before knocking.

I think she's taken the piss TBH. You said about 6, she's decided she doesn't like that time because it's dark and announced she's coming earlier, reckon she was expecting you to just go along with it. She should have asked if she could come over before dark, then you could have said no and both rearranged for some other time. She took away (or is trying to!) your option of saying no to an earlier visit, so she's the rude one and I'd have no qualms leaving her outside.

Frightening to think these drivers are actually out on the roads at night!

Who chuffing does that?! That's just as crazy behaviour as arriving 90 minutes early! At least the friend explained her reasoning, some people really are that nervous about driving to a new place in the dark.

Normal people would let their friend in, make a joke about how insanely early she is, make her a brew and tell her to make herself comfortable while you finish your job interview prep in another room.

This is so odd. My fiends are welcome in my home any time. Why would you make her sit outside.

This obviously. You don’t leave mates hanging about outside, but equally you don’t disturb mates when they have stuff to do.