To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

I doubt she will be the OPs friend to do it again.

Didn’t want to find her way [somewhere new]. Not - didn’t want to drive.

She is very rude. If you let her in, she'll do this every time.
Stick to the agreed time, she won't do it again.

Eh? The original post says she "wanted to find her way before it got dark." and as she is waiting in her car I'm guessing she didn't walk

Thirty minutes away, given she left at 3:30 and was there by 4pm.

Honestly arriving two hours early is just as rude as arriving two hours late.

Not as much of a mystery, when you realise they didn't say they didnt' want to drive in the dark at all the person you replied to just made that up.

I would let her in but I'd be pissed off. Being early is just as rude as being late. I wouldn't be able to focus on preparing for my interview if I knew my friend was in my house (or indeed waiting outside).

If she's so anxious driving that she gives herself 100% plus extra time to find somewhere then perhaps she shouldn't be driving at all - unless you live up a mountain in the wilderness or something. As you said there's cafes nearby I'm guessing that's not the case.

Sorry OP I think you are being odd. If it’s a friend, say come in have a cuppa here’s the telly. I just need to prep for that interview/ finish some work I planned to do and will be with you shortly. I wouldn’t leave them outside in the car

If it was a first date or a work meeting maybe but I don't need my friends to lie to me, ehoch is essentially what it amounts to. Just tell me you're a banana and turned up 90 minutes early and you need to pee and you got over anxious so came out to early.

She’s weird for turning up so bloody early, but you’re weird for leaving her sitting outside.

Someone with quite bad anxiety I expect.

good heavens let her in!

Shes not a puppy who peed on the carpet. Sounds like she's OK out in the car but as her friend, it's rude to leave her there

I think it was a bit hmmmm of her to turn up early AND THEN park right outside your house. I get being anxious about not being able to suss out somewhere new in the dark, therefore needing to be in the area early (whilst its light) but park in the next street until 5.55 :)

This . What is wrong with people???OP your response is awful and strange.

This.

I’m amazed OP has any friends if she’s this uptight with them.

I can understand that you might find it a bit annoying that your plans are not going exactly the way you want them, but your friend made the effort to come to your house (even though she appears to have some anxiety about driving), you’re also not making the effort of cooking for her (but are getting a take-away) and yet you seemed prepared to let her wait in the car for an hour? If she hadn’t texted you, would you have let her wait in the car until 6pm?
Oh, I don’t know, I guess people have different standards. If this was me, I would of course invite her in even if it means having to wake up an hour early on Monday to prepare for the interview.

Fair enough, it definitely depends on the area but in that case, I would’ve parked down the street and waited. Parking in full view of the house and texting ‘let me know when you’re ready’ is letting OP know she’s here and would like to come in.

I actually arrived 45 mins early for an interview this week and waited until 15 mins before the time to sign in at reception. A different scenario as this is a friend’s house but a similar situation of not wanting the person I’m coming to see to feel inconvenienced and rushed at my expense.

Is she a very nervous driver? Is there anything local she could do.

I assume you’ve let her in by now!

Why not jait send her home? If you think she's a fucking weirdo and would rather she sat in her car til 6, you obviously don't want a friendship with her so why pretend.

Shes meant to be ops friend.

I'd have knocked on the window and asked why she was hear so early in a "omg what should we do with you!!" snese, tell her she's got access to my kettle and telly but I have something to do until 6. Because I care about my friends and she hasn't actually done anything offensive or hurtful

I love your style 😂

Does she suffer from massive anxiety or something? It's not normal to arrive 90 minutes early, and sit in the car doing nothing! You told her you were not home, so she's very weird.

I think I would invite her in if I saw her, but I would be very pissed off - and pissed off with myself for even coming home. Lesson would have been better learned if you hadn't come home yet.

90 minutes is ridiculous, and parking in front of a house is beyond strange

Why the fuck is she a weirdo? She’s explained she wanted to find it before dark and she’s said she’d wait around, but OP should offer her in to entertain herself until 6. Why would you not invite your friend in? Sorry, wrong quote, this is for @Alpacajigsaw

Just let her in, give her a cuppa and a biscuit and finish what you need to do.

If it was round here it would take a while to find a cafe that was open at this time of day - she’d get a pub more early abs then she would still need to drive a few miles back to the house through the one way system

you don’t have to invite her in - she made that clear. Take her at her word

or invite her in and leave her alone till you are ready

I can't stand this kind of early weirdness and could not be friends with anyone who thought this was standard