To leave friend sitting in her car outside my house as she's arrived 90 minutes early

The fact you sat on here and wrote all this out. Your jobs couldnt have been that important. Letting people on here make out your friends a weirdo, sounds like your a great friend. Hope she sees this you horrible person

The fact you sat on her and wrote all this out. Your jobs couldnt have been that important. Letting people on here make out your friends a weirdo, sounds like your a great friend. Hope she sees this you horrible person

I agree. Sometimes when I read Mumsnet I feel like the art of friendship is being lost.

That would give me the ick and I'd cancel that friendship.

What do you like about her?

I'm genuinely surprised so many people would be okay with this.

Who turns up two hours early and expects to be let in and hosted?

Some of these comments, Some of you are really horrible people

I'd leave her outside
Had a friend that was constantly early
40 mins early
I was still getting ready and it really threw me off
I felt like I had to rush my hair and make up because she was waiting
And it annoyed me
The one time i did invite her in
It was constant interruptions
How do you turn the tv on
How do I find this channel
Where are you mugs kept
And then drove my dogs hyper talking to them in a high pitched baby voice

Never again. After that I just met her at the venue and she would wait 40 min by herself waiting

Being that early is bad manners

People saying oh but it's January... cars have heaters

Being 90 mins early is totally unacceptable
It's just rude

That works for some people and some friends. Not all. Since OP has not wanted to take that obvious step it is unreasonable to assume it would work for her in this situation.

This would be an excellent scenario to put to a new potential friend.

The answer would let you know if you could ever be friends with them.

On MN people would let the friend in, seethe, paint on a smile, be resentful all evening, assassinate the friends character to someone else after the event and start a thread on here to have everyone validate how justified their fury was and his weird and rude the friend was. Some of us like to be straight forward with people and not behave that way.

What do you mean?

the friend is rude. She was invited for 6. She arrived mega early for a ridiculous reason.

if you turned up early for any other event you’d have to wait.

maybe only on mumsnet is right, it is only on here I see people happy to let themselves be treated like utter mugs and incapable of standing up for themselves

How strange - maybe she was nervous about driving to your house and how long it would take. If you really have to do this work, I would say 'come on in darlin' - I'm sure you won't mind, but I have to do this little bit of prep before I can give you full attention - have a drink and look at the TV'. She won't mind.

I agree with the posters who say to.let her in, but ask.her to entertain herself as you have some work to so.

Give her the TV remote and WiFi password and a cup of tea. And crack on with what you need to do.

How peculiar of her. But you can’t leave her sitting outside! That’s even weirder.

"Misjudge" is a bit of an understatement. She was ready to leave at 3.30 to arrive for 6! Google maps exists, you can judge most journeys to about 5 min either way accuracy in real time. Agree with others it's pretty incapable.

Only on Mumsnet.

You are being bizarre. She’s your friend!

Yes exactly this. Maybe OP has a massive house / thick walls but at mine, someone watching TV would distract me. Telling her to sit quietly would be so awkward.

Driving in the dark is a part of driving in Britain in winter...even to an address you've never visited before.
Turning up that early and sitting outside your house to avoid it is a bit incapable imo.

I agree.

The friend also messaged explaining why she was going to set off so early but told OP not to worry she would find somewhere to hang around because she didn't want to impose and then messaged the OP about an hour before the agreed meeting time to say "let me know when you are ready".

If she was anxious about driving to a new place in the dark she needed to have mentioned that to OP before 3.30 this afternoon and tried to reach a compromise or she needed to have a plan about how she would entertain herself whilst she was waiting for 6pm. Turning up nearly 90 minutes early and then texting to pressure the OP is what's rude.

This! How was the friend to know that OP has important stuff to do. The friend who sent the text isn’t the weird one as she’s naturally thinking now that her friend is back home once shes freshened up/done quick tidy up or whatever to let her know so she can come in out the cold!

Also at least friend is prioritising OP and wanted to ensure she didn’t let her down by being late so it’s not odd to actually misjudge timings and traffic. This is something you usually get better with with experience.

She should have gone to have a coffee while she waited.

That was quite a soliloquy. Thank you for your kind attention.
No judgement from me, I promise, but now you can’t relax with nuisance outside can you?
”Come in, Carol, you dick. You’re early so I’m working. The kettle is there. Help yourself to the TV/books and the sofa and I’ll see you in an hour” should do it, surely?

Here is a new friend more your style OP.