Happy for My Friend, But Finding This Hard

I too have a friend who started Munjaro and then I had what sometimes felt like a constant commentary on how many lbs she lost, how amazing she felt..she's off it now but is still going on every time we meet abijr
how amazing she feels etc etc. She's not humble about most things and I often have to bite my tongue as she's said completely
other insensitive things and I rarely get asked how I am, other than having to listen to have strong she feels. I feel for you. Some friends are drain not radiators but it's hard to untangle yourself. I'm glad she lost weight and she's happy with it but she's become very big headed about it all and it must be so lovely being up where she is looking down on us mere mortals 😂 No advice just that I know how you feel. By the way I'm not jealous, happy with my life and how I look, just would like someone to ask how I an
once and a while 🙄

I think she might envy you and the hard work you are putting in, while she has resorted to injections. I agree with some others here, hand back those clothes when you have lost the weight and she has put it back on.

Hmm, that’s impossible to not change lifestyle, unless her lifestyle was just eating healthy and clean as otherwise you get very unwell.

its all hugely odd. So just end the friendship as she’s also lying about not changing lifestyle or putting effort in.

this is not a hill to die on

Nothing worse than someone to bores on about stuff.

She doesn't sound like a good friend really, and tbh it also sounds like she's making things up about her use of Mounjaro. It's nonsense to say that your lifestyle doesn't change - you eat less. That's the point. Many people who take Mounjaro also put in lots of effort into calories, exercise, steps and lifestyle changes all round. If she's not, then I would say that's probably a mistake on her behalf.

I would knock this "friendship" on the head. You'll probably feel a lot better. I don't think it's worth spending any mental energy on wishing or hoping that she regains the weight in order that you can have the "last laugh". Just back away from the friendship and let it fizzle out.

This is amazing. Hold on, I kept your old clothes, here you go, they’re too big for me anyway.

Walk off and cut her out.

Hold onto those clothes and give them back to her when she puts back all those kgs.
Have the last laugh.

If she’s a new friend, surely just stop seeing her? I assumed she was an old and valued friend, who’d earned her place in your life.

Op have you told her you want the meds, can’t afford them are struggling with jealousy and finding it difficult. If yes and she continues then she’s unreasonable, if no and she thinks you want to hear it and you gratefully accept the clothes then she’s not done anything wrong here, other than being a bit of a bore.

however Your quote above makes me wonder if this is genuine, or just another one of these threads wanting to attack people who take the meds. Another one in a very long line of them.

She is being insensitive, especially giving you her old clothes, suggest you say no thank you next time she offers. Maybe you could try framing your thoughts differently, instead of feeling low about weight loss, focus on being proud of yourself that instead of jumping on the jabs, you’re trying to lose weight the natural way, which should help in the longer term. Don’t underestimate the importance of getting your steps in, I had a fantastic coach and it was one of the best pieces of advice from her. Also track food and nutrition if you aren’t already, focus on protein and fibre. Well done.

A genuine friend wouldn’t do this, unless they’re not very bright.

It’s very cruel tactless behaviour.

Im the opposite, I've not told anyone and don't get why people do this. Xxx

Do people really offer their friends their old clothes? That’s a weird thing to do regardless imo. I’d have told her absolutely not, no thanks, and not accepted any of them.

If she’s a decent friend, just tell her. Tell her what you’ve said here and ask her to stop talking about weight loss because it’s a topic that you find difficult. It’s not unreasonable to do that, and she has been somewhat tactless and the clothes thing is just weird.

I would just give her the wide birth and avoid her. She sounds like a bore & a bit of a bully, she knows whats she doing by giving you all her clothes.

You need to say no thanks when she iffers you her old clothes for a start! bitch move.

Do you want the clothes? If not, just say no that’s, they’re not my style, I have all the clothes I need.

Either tell her that you find the constant talk of weight boring, or if you don’t like confrontation, don’t say anything. When she mentions it, just leave a pause and talk about something completely different.

Smile sweetly when she gives you clothes and then put them on Vinted.

This ‘friend’ knows exactly what she’s doing, and is a bully, so if you’re going to stay friends with her you might as well get something out of it!

(But, really, I would drop her.)

I think some people are projecting.

I have noticed on threads if someone mentions weight regain or potential side effects some posters get immediately defensive and take it as a personal attack.

If WLI work for them then why get so triggered by stating facts.

A similar happened to me when my colleague had bariatric surgery.
I was a healthy size 12 and she was obese.

It was not friendly, it was pure bitchiness but disguised as being my ‘friend’ by wanting to give me her old clothes as there’s no way she’d fit into them after surgery.

She lost loads of weight but had put it back on by the time she came back to work.

She then went on MJ and started the same old crap again.
She lost a decent amount of weight and was being bitchy about anyone bigger than a size 10 but 6 months later has put it all back on and is now being bitchy to slimmer women.

Some people have to drag others down to feel better about themselves.

I would just be unavailable for her.
She’s had weight issues and knows what it’s like and knows how hurtful any comments are.

She’ll likely think it’s because you’re jealous but the majority of people put the weight back on it struggle to maintain it and so just remember how she treated you now when that time comes.

Are you referring to a specific person here when you say Then in a year they pile the weight back on and they decide “they enjoy their food too much “ and start picking on the naturally slim women because I've never seen that happen anywhere in real life or online.

Sympathies, mounjaro bores are the worst. The most tedious part is where they drone on about finally having control over food… while they are still on the jabs.

Just say you don’t want to discuss weight loss. Change the subject, each and every time.

One friend in our group was like this and continually commented on our food when we went for lunch. Another friend got really annoyed about the constant comments about how little mourjano friend ate. After having enough of listening to it non mourjano friend wasn’t too pleasant about the volume of food mourjano friend used to eat, how she’s not changed her lifestyle and will put weight on when she comes off it. Mourjano friend hasn’t spoken to any of us since. Some folk are just weird. I’d have seen the point of her trying to sell the benefits of it if any of us were overweight but we’re all a healthy bmi!