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In tears in the restaurant bathroom.. TW: Periods

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mygodd · 24/01/2026 11:52

I know this is probably stupid but here goes.

come out this afternoon for a really special celebratory meal with my DH and his family.

I am currently on my period, however when I woke up this morning I woke up in a pool of blood. My underwear, pyjamas, bed linen - all of it was ruined. I’m sorry this is probably TMI. I didn’t have much pain, just surprised me.

Anyway - I am currently in said restaurant and I’m really struggling. My stomach is cramping beyond belief, literally one wave after the other and I can feel ‘gushes’ (I’m sorry Blush)

I excused myself to come to the bathroom and literally cannot get off the toilet. I’ve been in here over half an hour and have text. DH to please explain to his parents I’m not feeling well.

My stomach is literally agony and I feel like I could pass out from the waves of cramps. Literally one after the other and the bleeding has gotten really heavy again.

I am on the implant so whilst I do get ‘periods’ they can sometimes be irregular / I skip them.

I am sorry this is probably TMI but I’m in so much pain I’m just doubled over and can barely move. I don’t know if this is normal or not. 😩

OP posts:
babyproblems · 24/01/2026 22:06

i don’t think this is normal - I’ve never ever had anything close to this except during child birth!!

If it was any other part of your body, you would probably call an ambulance. I would really advise you to seek medical advice asap! Hoping you are ok xox

TheNinny · 24/01/2026 22:04

Things like adenomyosis can make periods super heavy and extremely painful. Like you I had a history painful and heavy periods and then one cycle they started getting unreal heavy. Once it passes I’d definitely chase a gyn referral if you haven’t already.

One period i had the worst pain ever, worse than giving birth (to where i thought appendix had burst), went to A&E - long story short 2 week pathway due to raised tumour markers, MRI etc and now gyn surgery pending for huge endo cysts (not cancer thankfully). Don’t let them fob you off, get an ultrasound or a CT and a CA125 (which can lead to an MRI to exclude cancer if raised).

OuchAndAbout · 24/01/2026 22:03

Oh wow you poor thing! I'm glad you've had the problem diagnosed and are in good hands.

If your bleeding is still miserably heavy after a few days, have a look at the menorrhagia support group on facebook. There's some really useful support and tips for coping with very heavy bleeding. I've sat on a loo continually passing clots and liquid, and it's spectacularly not fun. Get the hospital to give you some post partum pads and/or full incontinence knickers before you go home, if they haven't already (in fact definitely ask a nurse for them now if you haven't already!). many of us recommend Tena incontinence knickers - they were the only thing I felt I could wear for more than 30 minutes without bleeding through.

dontforgetme · 24/01/2026 21:57

Hope you’re doing okay op. Thinking of you.

user1492757084 · 24/01/2026 21:54

Hope you are getting some pain relief now that you are in A&E.

lalalaornanana · 24/01/2026 21:51
Thanks
MissMoneyFairy · 24/01/2026 21:50

Ponderingpondering · 24/01/2026 20:58

I tbink Îd phone 111 for advice tbh. Or even A and E . You haven’t any aspirin by any chance have you?

Op is in hospital and you wouldn't take aspirin if you're bleeding hesvily

RabbitFurCoat · 24/01/2026 21:44

Just wanted to say, pp is correct about ibuprofen - I have to take ibu, para and codeine every period because of scar tissue (two separate surgeries for ectopic pregnancies) and I never, ever take too much ibuprofen. I can tell after a day or so on it that it's aggravated my stomach a bit, it's not something anyone should be doubling up on. It never used to bother my stomach but over the years, it will, trust me.

OP and anyone else who experiences this - a lot of bleeding and pain like this can be due to an ectopic pregnancy, always, always get seen if it happens. A rupture can be really dangerous. I haven't seen anyone mention it yet so wanted to post specifically to highlight it.

suki1964 · 24/01/2026 21:39

I had the worse ever periods on both the implant and the injections - flooding , cramps, constant bleeding - the works

I begged for a hysterectomy - refused as too young and no children, but eventually found a great Gynaecologist who agreed to do one, if I tried the Mirena coil for 6 months first. Saved my sanity , my social and sex life.

Wasnt without its problems BUT they were minor inconveniences compared to the periods I had

Carla786 · 24/01/2026 21:37

OneNeatCat · 24/01/2026 11:53

am sorry this is probably TMI but I’m in so much pain I’m just doubled over and can barely move. I don’t know if this is normal or not

is this usually your experience of your period?

My question too. It sounds extreme...poor OP.. do you have any painkillers?

TakeMe2Insanity · 24/01/2026 21:29

Sending sympathies as well. Mine use to be like this and it was horrible I’d flood through everything. I would highly recommend asking your gp for a transcerverical scan and ask for them to check for fibroids. If you do have them ask for them to be removed because it can be life changing.

silverwrath · 24/01/2026 21:27

Just read through your replies. You wee scone. What a day you've had. Glad you're now settled on a ward. Hope you have a peaceful night. 🌸

Ponderingpondering · 24/01/2026 21:01

Ponderingpondering · 24/01/2026 20:58

I tbink Îd phone 111 for advice tbh. Or even A and E . You haven’t any aspirin by any chance have you?

Sorry should have read the whole thread!! Glad you’re being looked after!

CustardySergeant · 24/01/2026 20:59

Challenger2A7 · 24/01/2026 20:57

You need to get to A&E, believe me, I know.

She's in hospital!

pteromum · 24/01/2026 20:59

I actually think this is a great idea to post here.

can’t move. Need help, embarrassing situation, in-laws waiting.

it has been resolved and hopefully OP is ok.

a little female reassurance she needed help was what was needed. 🤷‍♀️

Ponderingpondering · 24/01/2026 20:58

I tbink Îd phone 111 for advice tbh. Or even A and E . You haven’t any aspirin by any chance have you?

Challenger2A7 · 24/01/2026 20:57

You need to get to A&E, believe me, I know.

Ihateitsomuch · 24/01/2026 20:55

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Op has been admitted to hospital. Stop being so nasty because someone in distress has asked for advice and support as she's in a very public setting, is embarrassed and doesn't want to ruin a family meal out.

RobertaFirmino · 24/01/2026 20:52

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You've probably lost a lot of iron as well so it might be worth asking the doc if you should take some supplements in the short-term to build your resources back up.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/01/2026 20:46

You poor thing. Glad you are getting attention and they are sorting out the next steps, wishing you all the best x

ManyATrueWord · 24/01/2026 20:43

@mygodd Thanks for updating. I'm glad you are safe and getting the help you need.

Chocolatebunny61 · 24/01/2026 20:36

I really glad you went to hospital and got seen OP. I hope they get you treated and on the mend very soon. It must be very scary for you. Sending hugs

Squeakydogtoy · 24/01/2026 20:36

If you don't mind answering, how old are you?

My periods have become increasingly heavy over the last few months and I never used suffer with pains, but, my god! The last 3 periods I have been in agony!

I'm 49, so mines menopause related, maybe yours is the same?

Stonecoldhandswarmheart · 24/01/2026 20:35

I hope you are feeling a lot more comfortable now OP. If you haven’t already been checked for endometriosis please make sure you can get a referral to see a gynaecologist to rule this out. This is the sort of thing I would regularly experience, turned out I have endo and adenomyosis. It only took 30 years to get a diagnosis 🙄

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 24/01/2026 20:33

I hope you are feeling better very soon, OP.

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