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To be pissed off with DP about park run 😤

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HildegardVonBingham · 24/01/2026 09:41

DP and I are both women and both quite physically fit. I’ve done two half marathons with a good time and DP does long distance cycling. I said to DP that we could do park run together this week but I’d need to whizz home after as I’m off out of London to see a friend, and I wanted to run at a reasonable pace. TBH I like to run at a sedate pace because it’s only park run and I only like to really go for it if I’m running alone and listening to pop music. I made all this clear to DP (you may have gleaned I wasn’t wildly enthused about park run this AM.) At the start line she then starts all this nonsense about ‘a sub 30 minute park run’, to which I say ‘it’s only park run’. About 5 mins in my hip starts really hurting because I haven’t stretched, and I say as much. Two mins later proceeds to whizz off at lightening speed !!! I slope off to the cafe in a huff without finishing. She has just arrived and apologised profusely but I was incredibly arsey and told her she’s really PMO. Some of this is the lesbian disease of communicating every single feeling all the time but AIBU to be really annoyed? I was incredibly stroppy and now think I potentially over reacted!! DP broadly wonderful and very considerate but just very competitive about sport and exercise ….

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Springtimehere · 24/01/2026 09:55

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ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 24/01/2026 09:55

It's really not worth falling out over. She shouldn't have to dawdle because you'd chosen not to stretch and she didn't pressure you into going faster than you wanted. Good result.

DappledThings · 24/01/2026 09:52

If she felt good about that run and wanted to crack on I don't think it's unreasonable to have done so. You didn't really want to do it this morning so should have just not bothered rather than expecting her to go slow when she was feeling fine.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/01/2026 09:50

we expressly agreed to run together at the same pace !!

In that case fair enough. But I rather feel you should have known she wouldn't keep to it...😂

Taweofterror · 24/01/2026 09:50

HildegardVonBingham · 24/01/2026 09:46

@DisplayPurposesOnly we expressly agreed to run together at the same pace !! If we were running separately I would have bought headphones so I could listen to ABBA…!

Sorry, cross posted.

It was just a 5k though? I'd get this if you'd entered a half together. A park run you could do anytime, I'd have just waved her off and lived with a quiet pootle around.

DisappointedD · 24/01/2026 09:50

You suggested PR but are not wildly bothered by PR and then got upset when someone wanted to run faster then you.

Taweofterror · 24/01/2026 09:48

Why wouldn't you just run separately in that instance? Or you stay home? I say this as someone who's married and we both run and have done park run. Sometimes we run together sometimes we don't. Sometimes we go to the same events and run separately.

She was obviously feeling like she could do a pb and I couldn't begrudge her that to be honest.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 24/01/2026 09:47

Why do you need to run together? Dude, just run your own race.

HildegardVonBingham · 24/01/2026 09:46

@DisplayPurposesOnly we expressly agreed to run together at the same pace !! If we were running separately I would have bought headphones so I could listen to ABBA…!

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/01/2026 09:45

It seems a bit of a non event to me. Were you expecting to run together? Cos otherwise it's gone how I expected - you both went, ran independently, met up at the end.