To be pissed off with DP about park run 😤

I thought this as well.

The really unreasonable ones here are those being snobby about how a sub 30 is not particularly fast, in their opinion.

It's all relative. What feels like an easy pace for one person is a fantastic achievement another, and a complete pipe dream for others. There's no need to belittle other people. The ethos of parkrun is that it is for everyone, not just the elite or 'average'. A parkrun is a parkrun, regardless of pace.

I personally think headphones shouldn't be allowed at parkrun anyway...

The inclusivity of parkrun means people are free to participate in whichever way they choose, providing they are being safe and are aware of other park users. It's perfectly possible to listen to headphones while running and be aware of other people around you. I've never not heard a marshal's instructions when listening to my headphones. In fact, I'm often the one shouting "keep left" to people who are on the wrong side of the path, oblivious of the faster runners who are trying to lap us despite not wearing headphones themselves. The irony.

If we ban headphones, we should ban buggies, dogs, children who skittishly cut in front of you and then stop dead in front of you, visually impaired runners with guides, wheelchairs, people who run in big groups etc (basically anything which could potentially be a hazard). Thank goodness this is not the case, and parkrun allows everyone to participate in their own way (which includes running ahead of a stroppy partner who isn't feeling it, if you're feeling on it yourself that day 😏😂 )

Am I missing something? You're annoyed because she wanted to run faster than you did, and you stopped off because she wouldn't slow down to adjust to the pace you wanted to run at? If I've read that right, you are being incredibly unreasonable and borderline ridiculous.

Do you always run parkrun together? I'm failing to understand what was wrong with her going off at her own pace? I've done hundreds of parkruns, many with friends but many more solo. There are no laws that someone has to adjust their own pace up suit you when you're both adults who can simply wish each other a good run and meet again at the end.

I take each parkrun as it comes. Sometimes I feel like going for it but often I'm happy to just go with the flow. My plans often change partway through, depending on how I'm feeling. Sometimes I've run off ahead of a friend I started with, with their blessing. Other times I'm the one telling someone to run ahead and enjoy their run as I'm just not feeling it today and don't want to spoil their run. Even if you originally plan to run with someone else, plans can and do change depending on how each person is feeling throughout the run.

You have taken this way too personally. No true runner would ever stand in the way of another fellow runner pushing for a PB if they're feeling on it (especially if that other person is a close friend, partner or family member). Why should she have sacrificed her own run for you, just because you wanted to take it easier? If you're that joined at the hip that you're annoyed at her for running off ahead of you, you might need to evaluate a few things because that's quite suffocating and controlling behaviour.

You said it yourself, it's only parkrun. I absolutely love parkrun, but finish times are hugely irrelevant. That's not what it's about. You both got out in the fresh air for some exercise. That's all that matters. You really don't need to run together to enjoy it or get something out of it.

You had an injury, she wanted to run a reasonable time, personally don't see what the issue, if you managed to get back in time to go out, far bigger issues to fall out over...

Literally every single post 🤣 you sound like a nightmare

Well, it was her fault. She said herself that it was because she didn't stretch 🤷🏻

Ah I understand, so you only want to do a PR if it’s on your own terms, only want to switch up the plan of that PR midway if it’s on your terms, will only make up with your DP if she apologises, and will only accept AIBU responses if they agree with you. What hard work you are.

ETA: sub30 is pretty run of the mill.

If i was running with somebody then got injured I’d tell them to go ahead. Not your fault but you didn’t keep your side of the bargain.

That's it in a nutshell. Sou ds lime you are very competitive but that doesn't explain why you didn't warm up.

I personally think headphones shouldn't be allowed at parkrun anyway.

But I can't see the big deal here unless your DP didn't stop to see if you are ok when you had a cramp or stitch. Any parkrunner should do that

But the running together or at a certain pace thing I don't get. Agree sub 30 isn't all that fast but it isn't about speed. It was cold yesterday if you're dressed to run and then expected to walk that could be a problem

My suggestion would be don’t do an official park run and expect to do it leisurely, if you are both competitive. Perhaps arrange an unofficial park run when it is just the two of you instead.

Bloody hell in what kind of relationship do you feel the need to obsess over every tiny little thing you've been upset over? You sound like a right PITA

The true unreasonable ones are those calling 30 minutes sedate! 😭😭

Sounds like a big fuss over nothing

Why because your DP apologised and you didn’t, so she’s “forgiven”?!? You sound like a controlling bully!

So you say to do the park run even though you didn’t want to … they moan that she’s run off, even though you were the one that wanted to get it done and go out after. You get hurt and can’t finish but get annoyed that she did … what? Sounds like you didn’t want to do it and behaved like a stroppy teenager to spoil the whole thing!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is why I always run alone so I can run my own race (yes I know parkrun isn’t a race)

You sound a bit dramatic to be fair

it was good that DP apologized. I would recommend you also apologize for being arsey and then just put it behind you. It’l all be forgotten by tomorrow

I was wondering the same!

YABU OP for also starting running without stretching.

Hilarious 🙄 you're lucky she's so downtrodden tolerant

We start together but regularly say see you at the finish if one is feeling better/worse than usual.

Your partner is clearly a much faster runner than you. Your lightning zone 4 pace sounds like it is probably her zone 2 easy pace as sub-30 really, really isn't that quick. So she is going to end up ahead of you. Which ultimately means you are not running partners unless she is constantly looping back for you, and that doesn't work at ParkRun. Together at ParkRun doesn't mean literally side by side. You do your own thing, the first to finish waits for the other, then you have coffee together.

YABU.

There are some things your post is hinting at but not specifically saying. Was DP the one really wanting to do PR today and nagged you into it with the explicit promise that you'd run together and take it easy? If so then yes, SIBU.

Otoh given you'd done several marathons in good time she might have thought 30 mins was a "reasonable pace" for a 5k and felt you were the one dropping out of the "deal" if you started going slower because you hadn't stretched - which seems pretty silly for an experienced runner.

It's a bit contradictory - if you wanted to rush off after because you were going out then surely a fast run and then immediately leaving would be more convenient for you not a slow jog and then wandering off to the cafe and time waiting for her to come and find you?