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Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me

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beefthief · 24/01/2026 02:40

Thread title: Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me
OP — Posted by: WallTooThin
I need to vent and also check if I’m losing my mind.
I share a bathroom with my neighbour (old building, “temporary” setup that has now lasted 3 years 🙃). On paper it sounded fine. In reality? Absolute chaos.

They will occupy the bathroom for 45 minutes minimum. Shower, music blasting, mirror monologues, the works. Meanwhile I’m doing the pee-dance in my hallway like an idiot. Knocking does nothing. Texting does nothing. It’s like once they cross the bathroom threshold, the outside world ceases to exist.

Hair. Everywhere. Sink, floor, shower walls. I don’t even know how one person produces this much hair. The toilet seat is also constantly left up, which would be annoying but fine—except they also don’t wipe it. I shouldn’t have to mentally prepare myself every time I need to sit down.

I’ve tried being polite. I’ve tried hints. I’ve tried schedules. Nothing sticks longer than a week.

Has anyone survived a shared-bathroom situation like this? Do I confront them directly, or do I just accept that this is my villain origin story?

OP posts:
ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 11:05

Tigercrane · 24/01/2026 11:00

This person needs help, not a grammar lesson.
I feel your being a bit insensitive.

They're not giving a grammar lesson though? People are just saying that using AI is becoming all too common and an imperfect, human post is preferable to basically getting a machine to think and work for you.

ShawnaMacallister · 24/01/2026 11:01

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/01/2026 10:56

Do you think it was used wisely on this occasion?

Edited

No. But use of google for example, streaming services on TV, even doing the washing up or taking long showers are all activities that people do all the time without giving any consideration to the environmental impact. Using AI is not 'worse' than all the other things people do! An AI search is equivalent to 90 seconds of video streaming. How many people binge watch Netflix for hours on end and nobody is shaming them for the environmental impact! One litre of water is around 20-50 AI queries. How many times have you accidentally left the water running while you brush your teeth or overrun a bath or even chosen a bath over a shower? AI is part of modern life now. It's no worse than any of the other myriad terrible things we do daily that are destroying the environment. Singling out use of AI whilst doing everything else harmful is hypocritical, ignorant and dogmatic.

Tigercrane · 24/01/2026 11:00

DaffodilValley · 24/01/2026 09:42

Why not use your own brain to write your posts rather than destroying the environment to create something that is unintelligible?

I don’t understand why anyone needs to “clarify” a forum post so much that they need to use ridiculous amounts of natural resources and energy to do it.

What a wasteful, thoughtless species we are. 😞

This person needs help, not a grammar lesson.
I feel your being a bit insensitive.

peacefulpeach · 24/01/2026 10:59

Not the UK then?

ShawnaMacallister · 24/01/2026 10:56

BauhausOfEliott · 24/01/2026 10:34

Generating an AI answer to a question uses AI data centres and way more processing power than simply Googling something. The tech uses more electricity and more water for cooling. Asking ChatGPT a single question consumes around 100 times the energy of a Google search.

7-15 times actually, not 100 times!!

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/01/2026 10:56

ShawnaMacallister · 24/01/2026 10:55

A single AI search can provide more than equal the information of 10 google searches. One AI response when used wisely can replace a limitless number of google searches.

Do you think it was used wisely on this occasion?

ShawnaMacallister · 24/01/2026 10:55

lurkingfromhome · 24/01/2026 10:30

It's not a theory, it's fact. There are countless articles on this from well-respected sources. The data centres used to train and power AI use absolutely massive amounts of electricity, all fossil-fuel based, and massive amounts of water. It has a huge impact on climate change. The International Energy Agency published a report saying that a single AI search uses 10 times more electricity than a Google search.

A single AI search can provide more than equal the information of 10 google searches. One AI response when used wisely can replace a limitless number of google searches.

DaffodilValley · 24/01/2026 10:46

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:06

eh?

If the massive environmental damage caused by AI has passed you by, I think you need to read up on it urgently.

We are destroying our planet so that people can look at pictures with the wrong number of fingers and avoid thinking too hard about how to form a sentence.

CalmGreenEagle · 24/01/2026 10:40

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:06

eh?

Using AI like ChatGPT is incredibly damaging to the environment due to the amount of CO2 it produces (just training a system before it is even put into use generates the same amount of CO2 as the lifetime emissions of 5 cars). It also requires tons of water to constantly cool the processing centres to prevent overheating, and relies on vast amounts of fossil fuel consumption to run. AI hardware needs a lot of rare minerals to manufacture which leads to habitat destruction and pollution when mining for them.

BauhausOfEliott · 24/01/2026 10:34

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 10:24

I think there's a theory that AI is bad for the environment somehow (not sure why!)

Generating an AI answer to a question uses AI data centres and way more processing power than simply Googling something. The tech uses more electricity and more water for cooling. Asking ChatGPT a single question consumes around 100 times the energy of a Google search.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 10:31

Cross post

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 10:31

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 10:24

I think there's a theory that AI is bad for the environment somehow (not sure why!)

I think it's something to do with how much water it needs to cool down the servers (something like that anyway)

lurkingfromhome · 24/01/2026 10:30

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 10:24

I think there's a theory that AI is bad for the environment somehow (not sure why!)

It's not a theory, it's fact. There are countless articles on this from well-respected sources. The data centres used to train and power AI use absolutely massive amounts of electricity, all fossil-fuel based, and massive amounts of water. It has a huge impact on climate change. The International Energy Agency published a report saying that a single AI search uses 10 times more electricity than a Google search.

CalmGreenEagle · 24/01/2026 10:30

Okiedokie123 · 24/01/2026 05:25

Villain origin story pmsl.
Why have you posted such a garbled mess?
You could have explained the situation so much better yourself using your brain

Fucking AI.

We are doomed as a species.

365RubyRed · 24/01/2026 10:29

How is AI bad for the environment?

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 10:24

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:06

eh?

I think there's a theory that AI is bad for the environment somehow (not sure why!)

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 10:22

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/01/2026 08:47

They can if they are rented not owned. As I said above it used to be quite common at the cheaper end of the market. I don't know why people can't even imagine this set up.

Exactly. A friend of mine had a house share with him and other people in the house, with one (!) shared bathroom. I think I'd move on as I'd hate to put up with that for years - uni was bad enough with annoying housemates 😆

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 10:19

Serafee · 24/01/2026 10:16

Why is anyone responding to this when it's just AI? Its even got the draft title etc at the top

Exactly, people just responding as if it's written by a human and that it makes sense.
Make it make sense 😁
It can't even make up its mind who the OP is -(beefthief? Wallstoothin? Who knows 🙄)

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:17

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 10:15

"Clarify things through a bot"
No wonder it makes no bloody sense then.
Hate AI and ChatGPT so much, people are losing the ability to think for themselves or write coherently. They'd rather output their brains.
Rah.

Do you mean 'outsource' their brains?

Serafee · 24/01/2026 10:16

Why is anyone responding to this when it's just AI? Its even got the draft title etc at the top

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 10:15

"Clarify things through a bot"
No wonder it makes no bloody sense then.
Hate AI and ChatGPT so much, people are losing the ability to think for themselves or write coherently. They'd rather output their brains.
Rah.

supersop60 · 24/01/2026 10:15

I used to live in a tiny flat with a shared loo and bathroom. It was an old Victorian house conversion, and the facilities were on the landing, and my neighbour lived on the other side of the landing. She and I were very considerate of each other, and it really helped that the loo was separate!
Fond memories of singleton life with ridiculously cheap rent.
Sorry OP - no help at all.

Shedeboodinia · 24/01/2026 10:09

Can you agree a timetable? But honestly, I would look for somewhere else to live.
If you can't move then attempting to agree a timetable, agreeing that bathroom ahould be left clean. Agreeing certain things and sticking it on the bathroom door as a checklist before exiting the bathroom, ie wipe toilet seat, dry excess water, wash round basin, remove hair. And jointly buying stuff to enable quickly doing these things. Ie a scrubbing brush and squeegy.
Failing all of that complain to landlord and move??

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:06

DaffodilValley · 24/01/2026 09:42

Why not use your own brain to write your posts rather than destroying the environment to create something that is unintelligible?

I don’t understand why anyone needs to “clarify” a forum post so much that they need to use ridiculous amounts of natural resources and energy to do it.

What a wasteful, thoughtless species we are. 😞

eh?

Gremlings · 24/01/2026 10:05

beefthief · Today 02:40
Thread title: Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me
OP — Posted by: WallTooThin

Who is the OP- Beefthief or WallTooThin?

Confused.

Whoever you are, are you living in a shared house or maybe a bedsit with a bathroom for tenants to share? (Which was common in the 1960s)