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Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me

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beefthief · 24/01/2026 02:40

Thread title: Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me
OP — Posted by: WallTooThin
I need to vent and also check if I’m losing my mind.
I share a bathroom with my neighbour (old building, “temporary” setup that has now lasted 3 years 🙃). On paper it sounded fine. In reality? Absolute chaos.

They will occupy the bathroom for 45 minutes minimum. Shower, music blasting, mirror monologues, the works. Meanwhile I’m doing the pee-dance in my hallway like an idiot. Knocking does nothing. Texting does nothing. It’s like once they cross the bathroom threshold, the outside world ceases to exist.

Hair. Everywhere. Sink, floor, shower walls. I don’t even know how one person produces this much hair. The toilet seat is also constantly left up, which would be annoying but fine—except they also don’t wipe it. I shouldn’t have to mentally prepare myself every time I need to sit down.

I’ve tried being polite. I’ve tried hints. I’ve tried schedules. Nothing sticks longer than a week.

Has anyone survived a shared-bathroom situation like this? Do I confront them directly, or do I just accept that this is my villain origin story?

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WonderfulSmith · 24/01/2026 13:39

365RubyRed · 24/01/2026 10:29

How is AI bad for the environment?

It uses huge amounts of power and water, even a simple request like asking it to rewrite a passage uses loads more than you would think.

Also, because AI requires lots of memory chips the cost of memory used in computers and phones is going through the roof. When the next phone you get costs several hundred pounds more than the last one then it’s because of AI.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 12:50

scotlands · 24/01/2026 12:37

I don’t see lots of people using them. Ever.

the double dash is also commonly referred to as “The Chatgp dash”

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This is another reason I hate it. Anything that's a bit more complex gets scrutinised or accused of being AI.
Sometimes it's just a person.
It makes it harder to sift out the dross and the internet more unusable.

DameOfThrones · 24/01/2026 12:40

BerryTwister · 24/01/2026 12:19

@DameOfThrones yes - I’m confused too. Is the OP beefthief or WallTooThin?
I miss the pre AI days….

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I'm not sure.

But the OP's second post is a quote of TheHedgehogCannotBeBotheredAtAll which the OP has managed to pin?

scotlands · 24/01/2026 12:37

pottylolly · 24/01/2026 12:15

lots of people who write complex sentences use em-dashes.

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I don’t see lots of people using them. Ever.

the double dash is also commonly referred to as “The Chatgp dash”

rainbowunicorn22 · 24/01/2026 12:30

never heard of houses sharing bathrooms, only HMO places odd. if it was temporary, you need to contact the landlord as its gone on too long and is not working out

BerryTwister · 24/01/2026 12:19

DameOfThrones · 24/01/2026 11:10

I'm very confused about the pinned post (first post after the OP)

What's that all about? 😳

Can anyone else see it?

@DameOfThrones yes - I’m confused too. Is the OP beefthief or WallTooThin?
I miss the pre AI days….

pottylolly · 24/01/2026 12:15

scotlands · 24/01/2026 11:48

It’s the double dash that gives it away that the post is AI generated.
you would have more luck and more sympathy if you just explained it in your own words

lots of people who write complex sentences use em-dashes.

BillieWiper · 24/01/2026 11:52

Sorry but I haven't seen a set up like this since the early 80s.

So the bathroom is in neither one of your flats? Like in a corridor?

If it's actually physically inside your own house I'd just stop letting them use it. If it's inside theirs then I'd not really have a leg to stand on complaints wise.

Where is the other bathroom/what's wrong with it/why does the landlord rent out properties without bathrooms? Which I think is illegal.

scotlands · 24/01/2026 11:48

It’s the double dash that gives it away that the post is AI generated.
you would have more luck and more sympathy if you just explained it in your own words

oviraptor21 · 24/01/2026 11:46

beefthief · 24/01/2026 03:26

That's exactly right, but I don't know how to change things

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Complaint to landlord or move out.

NooNooHead · 24/01/2026 11:43

DameOfThrones · 24/01/2026 11:10

I'm very confused about the pinned post (first post after the OP)

What's that all about? 😳

Can anyone else see it?

Yes. V odd. Almost as though they want to preserve the fact it was generated by AI by pinning it to the top to make a point of it. Bizarre...

Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me
ShawnaMacallister · 24/01/2026 11:43

Gall10 · 24/01/2026 11:41

This isn’t allowed£ in uk…where are you?

It is allowed in a HMO where the rooms are self contained bedsits

Gall10 · 24/01/2026 11:41

This isn’t allowed£ in uk…where are you?

BigYellowBus · 24/01/2026 11:28

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/01/2026 08:21

I lived in several places like in the 70s it wasn't unusual. They were badly done house conversions. There were still houses standing then that only had a shared toilet at the end of the terrace. I had thought those days were gone but maybe not.

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Yes, in the 1980s I lived in a bedsit with a shared bathroom and kitchen. Think Rising Damp but with an even more creepy landlord. I can well believe these places still exist

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 24/01/2026 11:12

Ticktockwatchclock · 24/01/2026 11:08

For goodness sake, this thread has been derailed and is now a discussion around the use of AI. If you want to discuss this, start your own thread as it is not helping the OP at all.

Well the OP can't even be bothered to come back and clarify their stupid-ass problem, so it's quite reasonable for us to discuss actual problems like the environmental impact of AI.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 11:12

RachelGreep87 · 24/01/2026 11:09

No. We should call this shit out every single time.

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👏👏👏

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 11:11

DameOfThrones · 24/01/2026 11:10

I'm very confused about the pinned post (first post after the OP)

What's that all about? 😳

Can anyone else see it?

Yes, not sure what that's about either.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 11:11

Ticktockwatchclock · 24/01/2026 11:08

For goodness sake, this thread has been derailed and is now a discussion around the use of AI. If you want to discuss this, start your own thread as it is not helping the OP at all.

It could all have been so easily avoided if they hadn't had used it in the first place and made more sense as a result.
If you're going to blatantly use AI for posts people are going to have an issue with that, not just be like "nothing to see here" and pretend it's not there.

DameOfThrones · 24/01/2026 11:10

I'm very confused about the pinned post (first post after the OP)

What's that all about? 😳

Can anyone else see it?

RachelGreep87 · 24/01/2026 11:09

Ticktockwatchclock · 24/01/2026 11:08

For goodness sake, this thread has been derailed and is now a discussion around the use of AI. If you want to discuss this, start your own thread as it is not helping the OP at all.

No. We should call this shit out every single time.

RachelGreep87 · 24/01/2026 11:09

Maybe you can use those 45 minutes as an opportunity to gather your own thoughts rather than using AI.

civetcat · 24/01/2026 11:08

I lived in a set-up like this year ago, where we had individual flats but the loos and the bathroom were shared.
If the OP is living in a situation like this and is in England/Wales, the landlord may be responsible for maintaining the common parts, including cleaning (as happened in the place I lived). If the OP is sharing a house/flat, this wouldn't apply. It won't address the neighbour's behaviour but might make things a bit better.
If the OP was placed in this accommodation by eg the council or housing provider, might be worth asking to be moved.

ShowMeTheSea · 24/01/2026 11:08

DaffodilValley · 24/01/2026 11:06

It’s got nothing whatsoever about grammar, it’s about using AI to create something that should be done by a human mind, however badly spelled or structured that human created post might be.

I’d much prefer a badly spelled post with poor grammar that doesn’t use water and energy over a rambling, incomprehensible post that accelerates climate change.

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I’d much prefer a badly spelled post with poor grammar

Same, and I've actively started liking posts from businesses more on FB that are sometimes imperfect, with spelling mistakes etc, as it's infinitely preferable to blatant AI shite.

Ticktockwatchclock · 24/01/2026 11:08

For goodness sake, this thread has been derailed and is now a discussion around the use of AI. If you want to discuss this, start your own thread as it is not helping the OP at all.

DaffodilValley · 24/01/2026 11:06

Tigercrane · 24/01/2026 11:00

This person needs help, not a grammar lesson.
I feel your being a bit insensitive.

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It’s got nothing whatsoever about grammar, it’s about using AI to create something that should be done by a human mind, however badly spelled or structured that human created post might be.

I’d much prefer a badly spelled post with poor grammar that doesn’t use water and energy over a rambling, incomprehensible post that accelerates climate change.