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Can you work nights with no childcare?

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Pixieknowle · 23/01/2026 23:04

Due to recently losing my job we had to let our nanny go. It was extremely expensive and stressful as she became unreliable which led to me losing my job. I don’t want to employ another nanny.

My children are just under 2 and 5 and my husband works long hours and can’t do any drop offs / pick ups. He also would not be able to help if either child was sick etc. This is just how it is, he earns very well but in a cut throat industry. This won’t ever change.

Im reluctant to put the little one in nursery and start a new job at the same time, she’s been quite sickly as it is and I know for sure she will get sick at a new nursery this time of year which wont be compatible with starting a new job

I have been looking at night work, leaving after bedtime and home before my husband leaves. Can I look after a 2 year old and after school and work a night shift too? The pay is minimum wage so really not worth it if I have to pay for childcare (we don’t qualify for any funded childxare)

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tattychicken · 23/01/2026 23:09

I don’t see that you can, with a 2 year old? With just school age children at least you could grab some sleep during the day, but how/when will you sleep if you’re working nights and looking after a toddler plus a school aged child? X

TomatoSandwiches · 23/01/2026 23:09

Depending on your education could you train as a childminder or babysitter?

VikaOlson · 23/01/2026 23:08

Pixieknowle · 23/01/2026 23:08

We don’t need the money but I feel terrible not contributing financially

Don't be ridiculous 🙄

Pixieknowle · 23/01/2026 23:08

VikaOlson · 23/01/2026 23:07

If your husband is on over £100k something has gone very wrong that you can't survive on that or pay for a childminder?

We don’t need the money but I feel terrible not contributing financially

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VikaOlson · 23/01/2026 23:08

Pixieknowle · 23/01/2026 23:07

Do you need to sleep if it’s just 1 night? I was thinking 1 weekday night and 1 Friday or Saturday

Try staying up for 36 hours now and see how it goes?

VikaOlson · 23/01/2026 23:07

If your husband is on over £100k something has gone very wrong that you can't survive on that or pay for a childminder?

TomatoSandwiches · 23/01/2026 23:07

When are you supposed to sleep?

Pixieknowle · 23/01/2026 23:07

Do you need to sleep if it’s just 1 night? I was thinking 1 weekday night and 1 Friday or Saturday

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ShetlandishMum · 23/01/2026 23:06

Then do you plan to sleep?

I wouldn't do it. Nightshifts are so hard on most people. You do need to sleep. You can't be available 24/7.

thaisweetchill · 23/01/2026 23:06

When do you plan to sleep? Doable if you have school aged children but not sure how you will function with a 2 year old in the day when you need to get some rest.

Isadora2007 · 23/01/2026 23:05

Hmmm not really as when are you planning on sleeping? It’s not safe to have a 2 year old at home with you awake while you’re sleeping… so youd still need some kind of child care?

VikaOlson · 23/01/2026 23:05

You will need to sleep so you can't leave a 2 year old unsupervised.

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