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To not want to share my identity to access Social Media.

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Dbank · 23/01/2026 22:58

With the current proposals to limit social media to over 16, would by definition require everyone to use some form of age verification to continue to have access.

Would you be happy to submit personal information, be it a bank card, a passport or a facial image to a third party, most probably based outside of the UK and not subject to GDPR?

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SerendipityJane · 24/01/2026 13:40

Dbank · 24/01/2026 12:28

... even if it puts more children at risk, as they install malware thinking it's a VPN client?

As is already happening as a result of the online safety act.

But why would anybody object to measures intended to protect children ?

Now you see how shit laws get passed.

Dbank · 24/01/2026 13:34

Oh great, I'll stop worrying about it then....

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justpassmethemouse · 24/01/2026 13:28

Dbank · 24/01/2026 11:54

Like they care

The fine for a deliberate breach of GDPR is in the millions or 4% of yearly turnover, whichever is higher.

Dbank · 24/01/2026 12:28

SerendipityJane · 24/01/2026 12:21

If it saves one child.

... even if it puts more children at risk, as they install malware thinking it's a VPN client?

As is already happening as a result of the online safety act.

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SerendipityJane · 24/01/2026 12:21

Dbank · 23/01/2026 22:58

With the current proposals to limit social media to over 16, would by definition require everyone to use some form of age verification to continue to have access.

Would you be happy to submit personal information, be it a bank card, a passport or a facial image to a third party, most probably based outside of the UK and not subject to GDPR?

If it saves one child.

Dbank · 24/01/2026 12:02

lljkk · 24/01/2026 11:27

MN is social media & I doubt mN will be covered by any future legislation in UK.
OP has the anonymity they want already.

Lots of SM platforms aren't covered under the Aussie legislation, btw. Aussie youngsters can watch as many videos as they like on BitChute or Rumble. Coz... no good reason. WhatsApp isn't included, either, afaik.

You can still be anonymous on SM, it's the implications of sharing your identity to gain age verification that I'm highlighting.

i.e. A third party will be able to make the link between an element of your ID and your "anonymous" postings on SM.

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Bundleflower · 24/01/2026 11:57

I’d welcome having the provide ID to join social media. I think it would cut down bullying and bad behaviour as people won’t feel so anonymous.

Dbank · 24/01/2026 11:54

justpassmethemouse · 24/01/2026 11:27

GDPR applies to any company that deals or could potentially deal within Europe, regardless of where they are based - if this helps.

Like they care

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Dbank · 24/01/2026 11:53

HoskinsChoice · 24/01/2026 11:21

When you say there is 'no understanding', are you suggesting that you have superior knowledge? In the same way that the 'do your research' nutjobs in covid felt they had superior knowledge to global medical and scientific experts?

Do you not think that the reason there isn't major concern by the public and the media could be that there is actually no need for major concern? And that you are making an Everest sized mountain out of a molehill and maybe fallen down a rabbit hole of alarmist conspiracy theories?

It always confuses me why people get so hysterical about digital ID. Unless you've got something to hide, what's the problem? It's almost as if those that do have something to hide are driving the scaremongering alarmism in an effort to protect themselves...

I have a 15 year + background in global IT implementations, usually for products with a focus on security, so I believe I do have some insight on the subject.
Perhaps I'm wrong to be concerned, and people do understand the risks, hence posing this as a AIBU to gauge a response.
I support the idea of Digital ID, provided that it's done well. (Attempting to manage a dataset of this complexity without a unique identifier is perverse at best)
Ironically Digital ID, may be a better way to verify your age than a totally un-regulated third party, that may not be subject to GDPR, or any UK legislation.

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Dbank · 24/01/2026 11:52

Null

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BubblesandTiara · 24/01/2026 11:28

Absolutely not.

Many employers already request your social media details - which is why many people have anonymous ones. Many of us use nicknames, so clients/ parents if you are a teacher/ employers/ abusive ex etc. cannot find you.

It's not about trolling, it's about privacy.

There's a lot of information available, but it's up to us to try to manage it and limit it. The solution is not to freely add more.

It's a very dangerous move, I don't want to share my identity either. There are enough fraud and deep fake around/

justpassmethemouse · 24/01/2026 11:27

GDPR applies to any company that deals or could potentially deal within Europe, regardless of where they are based - if this helps.

lljkk · 24/01/2026 11:27

MN is social media & I doubt mN will be covered by any future legislation in UK.
OP has the anonymity they want already.

Lots of SM platforms aren't covered under the Aussie legislation, btw. Aussie youngsters can watch as many videos as they like on BitChute or Rumble. Coz... no good reason. WhatsApp isn't included, either, afaik.

RedRiverShore6 · 24/01/2026 11:24

I only really use MN which is a forum rather than SM but I just wouldn't use it, it's not one of those essential things of life. Don't use Facebook or TikTok

HoskinsChoice · 24/01/2026 11:21

Dbank · 24/01/2026 09:40

Exactly.

From a National security point of view, having a way to verify users on SM is incredible valuable.

As most SM companies already give security services, "back door" access to their data, it's inconceivable they wouldn't share your "ID component" either knowingly or inadvertently.

There appears to be virtually no understanding or concern from the media or public, and any dissent is justified by "keeping children safe", which whilst a noble cause in reality is the complete opposite of what this act will achieve.

Asking anyone to share their ID with a random un-regulated site is completely contradictory to all cyber security advice, let alone encouraging users to install "free VPN" services that will completely compromise all the users on your network as is happening with users who wish access perfectly legal porn, but don't want to share their ID.

When you say there is 'no understanding', are you suggesting that you have superior knowledge? In the same way that the 'do your research' nutjobs in covid felt they had superior knowledge to global medical and scientific experts?

Do you not think that the reason there isn't major concern by the public and the media could be that there is actually no need for major concern? And that you are making an Everest sized mountain out of a molehill and maybe fallen down a rabbit hole of alarmist conspiracy theories?

It always confuses me why people get so hysterical about digital ID. Unless you've got something to hide, what's the problem? It's almost as if those that do have something to hide are driving the scaremongering alarmism in an effort to protect themselves...

YouWillNeverGuessMyUsername · 24/01/2026 09:42

Dbank · 24/01/2026 09:40

Exactly.

From a National security point of view, having a way to verify users on SM is incredible valuable.

As most SM companies already give security services, "back door" access to their data, it's inconceivable they wouldn't share your "ID component" either knowingly or inadvertently.

There appears to be virtually no understanding or concern from the media or public, and any dissent is justified by "keeping children safe", which whilst a noble cause in reality is the complete opposite of what this act will achieve.

Asking anyone to share their ID with a random un-regulated site is completely contradictory to all cyber security advice, let alone encouraging users to install "free VPN" services that will completely compromise all the users on your network as is happening with users who wish access perfectly legal porn, but don't want to share their ID.

You share your personal details with LOADS of places.

Any online shopping knows your name, where you live, possibly your date of birth etc
You're on CCTV most days. Your passport details are held by hotels etc

But this is a step too far?

YouWillNeverGuessMyUsername · 24/01/2026 09:40

Dbank · 24/01/2026 08:48

All users have to verify their age usually through a third party, which generally use government ID verification, facial age estimation (selfies), or bank details.

What could possibly go wrong...

Well, what's your solution then?

Dbank · 24/01/2026 09:40

Shedmistress · 24/01/2026 08:37

I've never put my face on social media.

Also, this isn't because they care about kids, it is just a ruse to implement Digital ID.

Exactly.

From a National security point of view, having a way to verify users on SM is incredible valuable.

As most SM companies already give security services, "back door" access to their data, it's inconceivable they wouldn't share your "ID component" either knowingly or inadvertently.

There appears to be virtually no understanding or concern from the media or public, and any dissent is justified by "keeping children safe", which whilst a noble cause in reality is the complete opposite of what this act will achieve.

Asking anyone to share their ID with a random un-regulated site is completely contradictory to all cyber security advice, let alone encouraging users to install "free VPN" services that will completely compromise all the users on your network as is happening with users who wish access perfectly legal porn, but don't want to share their ID.

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ColinOfficeTrolley · 24/01/2026 09:26

Yes I would offer my information I couldn't give a fuck tbh.

If it makes people think twice about posting videos and pics of their kids who can't consent, that will be worth it.

AnonSugar · 24/01/2026 09:23

I’m not too fussed about providing a photo of myself. Did it for Reddit recently.

I’m actually happy about Roblox’ new features with grouping by ages. It will keep a lot of kids safer.

My DS is on Roblox. He’s 10. His friends all have 18+ games, Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram etc. It’s quite hard for them to be “that” kid who isn’t allowed some of these things.

gamerchick · 24/01/2026 09:09

Shedmistress · 24/01/2026 08:37

I've never put my face on social media.

Also, this isn't because they care about kids, it is just a ruse to implement Digital ID.

Tbh after going through a particularly brutal tupe and the months of hassle trying to get a citizenship card for youngest. I'd welcome digital ID.

It's not happening now anyway. Mandatory anyway.

gamerchick · 24/01/2026 09:05

I don't mind doing it..it's already happening on gaming platforms, which is troublesome for my Microsoft account as I physically can't do it. I can't see it as not being a good thing though. Parents aren't protecting their kids. Something had to happen.

PoppyFleur · 24/01/2026 09:02

CrispyK · 24/01/2026 08:21

It doesn't bother me one jot to be honest. I think people can get overly paranoid about stuff like this.
From what little I've read about the age verification services that are being rolled out, they mostly don't store your data post verification.

Roblox use a third party to do the age verification checks which requires various facial images to be provided.
Roblox claim that data is deleted immediately but it isn’t.
How many kids have provided their faces to Roblox without their parents being aware I wonder?
People are right to be concerned about this sort of thing.

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How many kids have provided their faces to Roblox without their parents being aware I wonder?
This, in a nutshell, excellently describes the problem. Some parents are naive to the dangers of the online world. There is a plethora of information available on how to put constraints on devices. Yes, it takes time to understand how to implement on every device but it’s necessary. From smart phones to game consoles, no child should be allowed unfettered access to the internet.

As an adult, my impulse control can waiver hugely, let alone that of a child. My DC has always had constraints on his device, and it has prompted me to look at my own (wasteful!) screen time.

Dbank · 24/01/2026 08:48

HoskinsChoice · 23/01/2026 23:46

How do the Australians do age verification? They're the first to block under 16s I think?

All users have to verify their age usually through a third party, which generally use government ID verification, facial age estimation (selfies), or bank details.

What could possibly go wrong...

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HolesInTheAlbertHall · 24/01/2026 08:46

I have to let a stranger on a scooter scan my passport if I get a red bull in my UberEats

What?? Really, I am genuinely astounded by this.

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