6 week post stillbirth

I’m very sorry for your loss OP. Wishing you a happier future.

So sorry OP. After my full term stillbirth I didn’t attend my check. I was pregnant again before I had a period. And my next baby was safely delivered almost a year to the day. Wishing you all the best.

I don't have any advice but I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your precious baby @rosepedal. I lost my little boy at 20 weeks at the end of November and that felt heartbreaking late so I cannot imagine how heartbroken you are feeling, I’ve probably phrased that really badly but I hope that you understand what I mean.

I am lucky enough to also have a child at home so I attended a 6 week check with him but have decided not to book one for this. My experience last time was that whilst really useful to flag some health issues with my son for me it was purely mental health and contraception advice based, even following a challenging birth there was no physical examination or anything. So I think a telephone appointment is exactly the right choice for you and I really hope that as difficult as it will be it’s also beneficial. Remember that it’s ok to not be ok and if it helps at all I am definitely not ok. If I wasn’t starting some counselling I would probably be contacting my GP to discuss my mental health.

Sending you so much love and a huge hug.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP x

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it's fine to cancel it and seek a check up when you feel ready, if you still feel you need it later. If you feel that you would get in touch with your GP if you did have any issues or questions then I don't see a problem with that. I remember mine being a quick chat and not being much help - are the postnatal team still involved? Do you have a midwife or somebody that is still in check with you from the postpartum side of things? They may be the best people to signpost you or advise, if so and if you need.
Hugs x

I think you could skip it tbh. So sorry for the loss of your sweet baby.

Of course you can skip it.
I am truly sorry for your unimaginable pain. 💐

I’m not going to vote. I just wanted to say I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. I think you should go for the check up. It’s important for your health x

I'm glad you've managed to get it moved to a phone call. I'm so so sorry for your loss 💐

Sending you a big cyber hug!

OP I'm so sorry. I think youve made the right call for your mental health which is just as important as your physical one imho. I havent experienced all that you have, i had miscarriages but not this. Take some time to breathe if you need it, I'm wishing you so very much the best xxxx

Sorry for your loss OP, 11 years ago I was in exactly the same position as you (also a knot), you absolutely do not need to have a 6 week check if you are not ready. I bled for around a month if I recall, we lost our boy in January 2015 and I got positive for rainbow baby in the following July, but I'm pretty sure my cycle returned quite promptly. I know it seems bleak right now but I can promise you 💯 that you will get through this xxx sending you much love xxx

Thinking of you… xx

It’s probably best you do the appointment on the phone as there may be other babies there the same age as your baby would of been
sending hugs to you at this difficult time x

Unless you have any physical concerns you can ask for a call. I had to have a check up after a TFMR not that long ago and I had a telephone consultation . My due date was early February and it’s just so hard isn’t it. You feel like you want to lock yourself away and I still can’t face anyone and I feel desperately sad at strange times (I’ll wake up at 4/5 am very often inconsolable) . I had got a little babygro with hearts on thinking it would be cute for Valentine’s Day before things went terribly wrong. I wish I hadn’t got it as it breaks my heart. I wish I had some words of wisdom how to get through this to help you.
I have an overwhelming urge to get pregnant again asap but I don’t know if I can as I’m 42 so it may have been my last chance.

I am really so sorry you are also going through this I’m sending you lots of love ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my ds 15 years ago. I didn't go to the check up because I couldn’t face it.

My periods came back quickly and I was pregnant again the same year.
I went on to have three more children.
It never leaves you and you change but things get better.
I light a candle every year to remember him. I’ll light a candle for your ds. X

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My friend was pregnant again (unplanned then MAP failure) 3 months after full term still birth and crash c section. All went well, but heavily medicalised, monitored and stressful and her DC is now in high school.

Oh and it took about 6-8 weeks for my cycle to go back to normal and start TTC, my next baby was born 15 months later.

I’m so so sorry for your loss OP. I had a late miscarriage in September which was horrific, I can’t imagine how much worse it is to have gone to full term. I saw my consultant a few weeks later (outside of her normal clinic hours) and we just went through everything and she checked my stitches for infection. I was told my first period afterwards would be heavy but it was actually short and light. I was ovulating again by November but I only feel my cycle length and heaviness have gotten back to “normal” this month (4 cycles later).

Wishing you all the luck in the world for when you TTC again,

I’m so sorry - it was 18 years ago for me but I still remember how awful every day was back then.

I’m pleased you’ve been able to swap your app’t to a phone one if you think that will help. You can always go back in a few weeks if you do feel you wish you’d had an in person one instead.

I just wanted to add my condolences... I wish I had the right words to help but realise that only you can learn to cope with your loss. My mother lost my sister aged three to TB and had a stillbirth shortly after, that she could place one foot in front of another has always seemed like a bloody amazing miracle to me and I am so proud of her for doing that. Just sitting here this evening, I realise that this happened to her just over 80 years ago, so I shall light a candle for my sisters and your son this evening.

I’m so sorry for your loss

I couldn't read and run. I just wanted to say I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby boy.

I'm glad to see you're still having your 6 weeks appt but on the phone instead. I'd mention about your bleeding to them as it does sound like your periods returning.

I wish you all the luck for a rainbow baby 🌈

So sorry for your loss x
My friends daughter has a still birth and she got pregnant again 15/16 weeks afterwards
Please be assured that the antenatal care she received was excellent, she had regular scans and after 30 weeks she had weekly scans and was induced at 34 weeks. It’s always such a worry that it’s going to happen, our local hospital was amazing with supporting her with any concerns