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Dads using female communal changing room

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Strawberrryfields · 23/01/2026 15:50

Not sure how I feel about this so looking for opinions and whether I should do anything.

A couple of times recently I’ve been changing my child after swimming and a dad has come in to change his child in the communal female changing room. It’s after lessons so only children changing. There are communal female, communal male and a number of individual cubicles. It gets very busy at peak times so at times you may need to wait for an individual cubicle.

It feels weird to me a grown man being in there and my instinct is that he should use the private cubicles, though he is clearly there with his child helping them get ready. I also understand him not wanting to take his child into the men’s communal changing rooms with random men in there but to me, he is a random man.

Should I say something? Would you? Chances are it’s just a normal dad changing his kid but I don’t feel entirely comfortable with it but not sure if IABU?

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FinallyMovingHouse · 23/01/2026 16:02

Report it. I had to do the same for a grandad who was talking his young gdaughter (6 ish) into the womens' changing room. I had already told him that he could not be in there but he clearly could not understand why, if it was his Gdd who was changing, they should be in the mens' changing. He had ignored his own presence in a women's changing room. The staff eventually got through to him.

Justlovedogs · 23/01/2026 16:02

Boolabus · 23/01/2026 15:59

So because he doesn't want his daughter exposed to random men in a changing room he's happy to expose everyone else's daughter to a random man! Not ok definitely report it

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MotorbikeStuntRider · 23/01/2026 16:01

He should be in the men's or using an individual changing room. He should be no where near the women's changing space.

Women don't take their boys into the men's. Ask him to leave or report every time.

Strawberrryfields · 23/01/2026 16:00

Ok thanks all for the replies. I’m going to email the club. It didn’t feel right and clearly I’m not overreacting.

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Balloonhearts · 23/01/2026 15:59

A grown man should not be in a room with unrelated naked young girls. Did no one ask him what the fuck he was doing in there while their children were changing?

Boolabus · 23/01/2026 15:59

So because he doesn't want his daughter exposed to random men in a changing room he's happy to expose everyone else's daughter to a random man! Not ok definitely report it

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 23/01/2026 15:58

He uses the men’s changing room or a cubicle. Men should not be in women’s changing rooms. If they’re worried about their child being in the men’s, they need to think about why and then apply that to them being in the women’s changing room.

ForPinkDuck · 23/01/2026 15:57

Yes report, then report again.

Placetobreathe · 23/01/2026 15:56

Absolutely report it.

tinyspiny · 23/01/2026 15:56

You should definitely say something , just because he isn’t changing presumably there are some women who may be . His daughter can use the female changing room when she’s able to do it alone .

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 23/01/2026 15:55

Report, every single time

GaryAvisFanClub · 23/01/2026 15:54

Of course he shouldn't be in there. He should wait for a cubicle if he doesn't want to use the men's.

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