. . . to be appalled at the way a young man with autism is being presented in the Netflix series 'The Good Doctor'?

Yes he cares about his partners pleasure to try and get advice. Parades for all!!

That's brilliant - we've not got to that episode yet.

But autism aside, how much better would a lot of women's and especially younger women's experience of sex actually be if more young men were as open as Sean is in that clip to asking advice, listening and learning about how to give the best parade!

It's a tv show, so just don't watch it?

It must be so exhausting to be offended by absolutely everything.

What I really want to know is why two and a half seasons in, this is the bit that OP CHOSE to focus on. An episode or two, that is a very small part of the story line. Not just that, but chose to massively interpret it in the worst possible way.

This is one of the chats he has with his female colleagues when he asks for advice .

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KFE_ObuXTTU

Who’s really associating autism with being a sex pest…?

I have my spot! It’s next to radiator, plug socket for Charging my phone, can see out the window and the tv. No glare on the tv. Also it’s where the fan plugs in, in summer. Perfect spot.

Funnily enough when I was getting ready this morning and YouTube was choosing random videos up popped one with ‘all the times Sheldon was wrong!’

https://autism.org/autism-movies/ - there's 36 here!

I love Sheldon - I definitely relate to having a 'spot' on the sofa!

😂😂😂 maybe they got one thing right

Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory
Abed Nadir in Community
Sherlock Holmes in Sherlock
Fred in Little Man Tate
Sam Dawson in I Am Sam
Arnie Grape in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape
Arguably John Nash on top of his schizoid affective disorder in A Beautiful Mind
And that Disney one (was it Disney?) The Boy Who Could Fly.

That’s just off the top of my head.

I read that in Shaun’s voice 🤣🤣

Which episode are you up to? DD is watching this at the minute and I catch a few episodes - I think we are at the end of season one / start of season 2. I don't recall this one though and he hasn't had a girlfriend yet, so you must be further on than us.

In which case you will know that:

a) his colleagues help him to understand boundaries and he often asks whether things are appropriate and learns from it - sometimes very poignantly (like the cancer patient who helped him to understand that it was OK to tell white lies sometimes if it helps people and doesn't harm them)

b) The reason he hasn't been put right is that the character is from an abusive household, ran away with his brother, saw his brother die and then grew up moving from foster home to foster home and school to school, so no-one has ever been in his life consistently enough throughout his adolescence for him to learn about a lot of social norms.

From the episodes that I've seen, I suspect that when he is doing those things, his colleagues pull him up on it and that he will learn from it and take it forward.

It absolutely does matter how autism is brought to the general public, and even though it is highly fictionalised, it is good to see someone with autism being shown as a doctor.

Someone up the thread said in real life he would never have got into medical school because he wouldn't pass the interview - and that is the real issue - maybe not medical school, but how many autistic people there are out there who are highly intelligent but struggle with social norms and therefore can't get into fields of work they excel at.

I've said a number of times while we've been watching it that I would love someone like Sean to be my doctor - no non-sense or fluff, straight to the point and damn good at what he does!

We used to have a GP like that - not autistic, but German. So many people avoided her if they could, but I always requested her if she was available!

Your comments are stupid

It’s about a man who runs people over for fun. I’m not sure why anyone would think that’s whole family entertainment or balk at a masturbation scene. Holly Gibney (in the book and film) is an awful representation of an autistic woman so I’d take Shaun over sharing over that any day. We’re all different, thankfully!

@Saucery I thought we were going to watch a crime thriller, then they added that.
I was not expecting the Guinness family to be so foul mouthed either. It is not just me in the house or room when it is on. Younger generation and aged relatives might be there. We seem to be restricted to re watching Midsomer Murders or Vera or Agatha Christie's.

My autistic dd hate the way they present autism on tv and gets really cross, as in writing to the bbc or whoever. Got a reply once which basically said they have make it interesting to the public who like obsessed quirkiness not quiet people getting on with their lives

I think several posters on this thread should read the write ups about Ryan Murphy’s new show, The Beauty very carefully before diving in

If it’s the lead Baddie then he’s doing worse than having a wank. I don’t think Netflix as a whole is particularly ‘grubby’ - surely it depends on what you choose to watch?

It’s a tv show if you don’t like it then turn it off.

Also it’s about how he changes and adapts and learns and when he does bring up sex and people are uncomfortable he is told. He didn’t exactly have great role models and I’m not sure Glassy was fully there while divorcing and mourning his own loss.

Its about him being a bloody good doctor as well just like when his trying to improve his bedside manner.

Anyway much better than greys 🤣

Netflix is getting grubby imho. Mr Mercedes has a young ma masturbating. He is in shadow but we hear him. Subtitles explain, so there is no doubt. Not sure what this adds to the story. So many of their series get the F word into nearly every sentence. It is not necessary.

Dr Glasman is often presented by another facet of Shaun that he didn’t consider needed specific instruction and moves quite early on into the role of friend rather than mentor, because Shaun resists attempts to micromanage his life. He makes mistakes with friendships, diplomatic language and professional relationships, so it’s not surprising he doesn’t have experience of what you keep to yourself about sexual behaviour.
There’s a more interesting take on sexual harassment in Series 2 (?) where a female doctor is assaulted by a senior surgeon and it’s all brushed under the carpet, to the detriment of her career and mental health.

What a ridiculous take, none of the women he works with feel remotely threatened by him.

Final series aired in March 2024

he grew up in care, after his brother died, and I imagine not an easy life for him. He probably didn’t have the time spent helping him learn like autistic kids who grow up in a loving family do.