I have been going through it recently with my mum previously having lung cancer, radiotherapy and now has a collapsed lung which she had a double lobotomy on.
My partner religiously sings football songs at the top of his voice and when he comes back from work he likes to put on his headphones and walk around the house singing. My mood has been really down the past week or so, to the point where I have barely spoken. I flipped today because he hasn’t asked how I am since my mum went into hospital and earlier he asked me “are you alright” in a patronising tone, and I said ”maybe you would know if you took your headphones off and stopped singing stupid football songs”
He is now saying that I’m asking him to be depressed with me, which is not at all what I’m asking, I just can’t be around someone who is acting completely normal and oblivious to my mood. I left the house and sat at a bus stop for over an hour in the rain while he sent me voice notes saying if I want him to be depressed with me then we will have to split up. Again I don’t want him to be unhappy, just more considerate.
Am I being unreasonable? I don’t want him to be depressed with me but now I feel like I just have to get on with it and pretend I’m okay so that I don’t bring him down