Cost of husband’s 40th party

Sounds very reasonable lo me.Have a good time.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Strange comment.

Being able to afford something someone else can't isn't entitlement.

Why are you having a party on a Tuesday. If I was your neighbour and you had invited me I'd hate you because now I'd feel obliged to attend and its a work night/ school night. If you were my neighbour and you hadn't invited I'd just hate you.

I LOVE the idea of an inflatable nightclub! Is it bouncy?

One of our neighbours makes our life miserable with noise pollution... so I'm now incredibly interested in the mega inflatable garden nightclub.

I'd say be prepared for people to drink less alcohol than you have available - you never know who might be a designated driver / who's not feeling 100% etc. Buy alcohol that keeps well and that you like so if it isn't used at the party you have a supply you enjoy to work through over the year rather than bottles of stuff you hate. Also wondering whether you'd be buying in quantities where you could buy on a sale or return basis.

Also think about how to minimise unnecessary food waste - if a couple of people don't turn up that you're expecting. Can the main courses be frozen and reheated another day?

You know your husband best - will he appreciate the surprise more than getting involved with the party planning?

Will you not need a lot of beer/lager? I'm just suggesting this in case you are not much of a drinker yourself. I think men tend to consume beers.

£75? Actually, it's reasonable.

Are you the OP's husband? If not, then who cares whether you think it's tacky. The OP wasn't asking for opinions on the inflatable night club.

Sounds very fair to me

That does look a bit, erm… tacky 😬

I had to google - it looks like it could be a warmer version of a marquee - better suited to this time of year

Inflatable night club?

I've just read @Placetobreathe 's post. Goodness knows what you think of us spending £10-12K on a joint birthday celebration (mine and my dc).
Never spent so much on anything before, but we'd had a couple of crappy years, no holidays for over a decade, and I did our wedding on a tiny budget 15yrs before, as that was all we could afford at the time.

I love silent discos. We've held a couple. One for NYE, one for a big party to celebrate 20 years in our home with local friends. They are hilarious.

Privilege, yes, certainly. But surely it's a given in this world that some people are more privileged than others. Entitlement, not necessarily. That's an attitude when people think that they deserve more than others and kick up a stink when they dont get it!

FWIW that's a fairly normal amount to spend among my friend, but certainly not universal. We spent about 3k on our joint 50th/60th. But that was for about 100 people, so only £30 per head. I know people who probably spent more. And others who just had a small family meal and few drinks with friends in the pub.

Nah, I recently spent a bit above that on my DD's 13 birthday.

Nothing excessive about it at all, for us.
Newsflash, different people have different budgets.

Such dramatics from you! I might have been on board if OP said she was spending 20k..

I would do something about those green eyes of yours.

OP, your party plans sound fab!!

I would take the bouncy nightclub over this any day as I'd get NOTHING done if my neighbours were in the garden rocking out at a shindig in silence
Such a wonderful sensible idea
But just so, so funny

@naavaaira picky bits plus mains is ALWAYS a winner when drink is involved. You've had a cracking price for everything there and the party sounds wonderful!
Is the inflatable nightclub shoes on or shoes off? Should there be a warning about heels going out? 😂

It isn’t relevant I was trying perhaps unsuccessfully to be lighthearted. I am earlier post I have made supportive comments about the OP’s actual issue

It sounds like a nice party OP, and if you can afford it and you, your husband and friends would enjoy it, I see no possible problem.

I mean, yes, it's a lot to spend on a celebration, but nothing compares to what many spend on their weddings, for example.

I was just wondering what your concerns are that promoted you to post? Are you worried that you may have been ripped off by caterers etc? (It really doesn't sound like you have to me). Or that your husband will feel you haven't spent enough/gone to enough effort? (That seems unlikely).

I don't mean this critically at all - I was just thinking that f you can be more specific about your concerns, that might get more specific reassurance.

But otherwise, enjoy your party - sounds great to me! X

Bitter much?

Sorry, meant mntd (my neighbours the dumplings)

My partner’s 30th cost £1500 for 16 people at a nice dim sum restaurant in east London (mints), I think that’s just what it costs. If you’re worried about the cost, you could ask the attendees to contribute - I know my crowd were more than willing. In the end I picked up the food bill and the group paid the drinks

Also included tables, chairs, plates, cutlery, glasses, etc