Cost of husband’s 40th party

Literally nothing I would like less than a generic function room for a 40th. I spent more than double that on my 50th for 30 people. I had had a decade which was beyond horrific and I wanted to celebrate with people who had supported me through it and to celebrate making 50 in one piece. It was one of the best nights of my life and no way was I going to scrimp on it when I could afford to wine and dine the people who mean a lot to me in style

You can get bottles of ok wine for £7-8 which would be 6 glasses and a case of 12 or so beers is around £10-15 so alcohol would be around £5-10 per adult.If you’re costing a glass of wine at £5 that makes a bottle around £30.Its a family birthday in the garden not a grand banquet!!

It seems that some people can’t miss an opportunity to piss on somebody’s bonfire. There are some miserable sods on here. I hate noise and would object if I had neighbours who partied in their garden every weekend but this is a one-off special event. If OP wants to spend this amount, which imo isn’t excessive then that’s up to her. It isn’t ‘privilege’. She may have been saving for ages for all we know. And who cares if samosas aren’t Greek food, FFS! OP is doing a lovely thing for a much-loved and generous husband. I hope it goes well OP. I’m sure your husband will be thrilled to bits.

I had a 40th at home last year and it was brilliant I had the best time! Similar cost to yours but had a pizza van to cater and spent the rest on balloons and booze! Have a great time

You sound like an absolute idiot. Who on earth do you think you're to talk to someone holding a very middle of the road prices party like that?

Seriously what's actually wrong with you?

Oh give over. It’s one night for a special event.

Seems reasonable to me.
Normally it's venue hire which bumps up the cost.

My 40th going to cost in the region of 10k!

Random! 🤯

I see the fun police have arrived…

Invite the neighbours. If they decline, give a them bottle of prosecco and apologise in advance for any inconvenience due to party noise.

Oh have a lovely time OP.

That user had been absolutely horrible to everyone and the op ¯\(ツ)/¯

I could go on a two week holiday for that.

Random. But same happened to me ( not on that date though), when i was 17. It was the most horrendous experience and ( im NOT going to go into detail) and my relationship with my mother was never the same 😒.
Sorry, don't mean to distract from the thread. Ignore me

It sounds so fun and like your Dh will enjoy it! No one in my world would have that kind of money for a party, but if I had the money, sounds like a fab way to spend it.

Gosh there are some po faced comments on this thread! If this is what your husband loves then go for it! I think it sounds like a right laugh. And I don’t think this is entitled or “conspicuous consumption” at all. You’re literally doing it in your back garden who would you be conspicuous to? 😂

We had a huge bouncy castle for our joint adult daughter and grandson's 7th birthday BBQ party. When most of kids had gone home, and enough drink had been imbibed, we had a ball running up the slide, sliding down and dancing on the bouncy bed. It was such fun, the videos still make me laugh.

As Mumsnet is one of the homes of conspicuous consumption l wasn't surprised to see the projected cost of this 40th bash.

Your Turkish Caterers are well over the mark. They are taking the piss.

As for your Inflatable Night Club. I suppose you can inflate anything, especially the price.Concept sounds a bit childish and silly to me to be honest

I hope you don't have this party outdoors on a windy night. Mary Poppins beware.

Can you not hire a function room with drinks and catering?

The last large scale party I did was for 70 people.

Venue hire £50
Karaoke machine and smoke, lights, mics etc hire £120
Cake I made myself for about £40, multi tiered thing.
I catered it and there was loads of food, came in at about £200.
Decorations and sundries probably another £30.
We catered soft drinks but there was a pay bar.

It was well over £400, probably closer to £500 in the end and I was pretty horrified at the expense. For one night/party. I did all the legwork myself as much as I could to get the cost down but it’s just what it cost really.

I had a party with 30 adults (decor , musician, catered bowl food ) and it came to £5k (with the marquee for £750) .. so think your budget might be a bit tight .. I didn't want anyone to go hungry or to run out of drinks etc .)

Nasty comment.

It sounds great. Nightclub will be a laugh, food sounds really nice, plenty of drinks and you can crawl into your bed easily afterwards.

Unfortunately fun things do often cost money. As nice as it is to be thoughtful in non monetary ways sometimes it’s also nice to be able to spend hard earned money on something different that you know the recipient and the guests will enjoy.

i hope you all have a lovely party.

Being short of money when I organised my husband's surprised 50th I paid for the hire of the hall and a disco but could not afford food too so invited everyone to a bring and share buffet which was brilliant and every oen bought lovely food and drink so it didn't cost us too much in the end, though I nearly died of the stress of keeping the secret whilst organising it!

If you can afford it, it seems good value given what’s included, including a professional cake.

It’s always going to be fairly expensive for an event like this, the main thing is it seems your DH will be really appreciative and it seems your guests are also on board.

Hope you will all have an amazing time OP!