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Cost of husband’s 40th party

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naavaaira · 22/01/2026 16:23

Posting here for traffic.
I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

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Dimdam · 24/01/2026 18:36

Sounds good

Nsky62 · 24/01/2026 18:35

TheLemonLemur · 22/01/2026 16:49

My 40th last year cost less than half that so your budget should be plenty

Depends on what you want

HazelBite · 24/01/2026 18:29

DH has just had a big Birthday party at home, we bought lots of drink, but it was the zero/low alcohol alteratives that we ran out of.......
Sign of the times!

Nic2403 · 24/01/2026 18:24

naavaaira · 22/01/2026 16:23

Posting here for traffic.
I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

That’s cheap it’s cost me more than that for my sons 18th

puffyisgood · 24/01/2026 18:17

It's a huge amount of money, but then paying for 24 people to be professionally fed & watered, with activities on top, can't ever be cheap.

YabbaYabbaYay · 24/01/2026 17:53

Plough on and enjoy.

christmassytimeagain · 24/01/2026 16:18

miss79guided · 24/01/2026 11:06

and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids

> For that, just HIRE somewhere

Community Centre, Sports Gym
> Get everythin delivered there

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Yeah because having a party in a community centre is just like doing a party at home.

NC2026 · 24/01/2026 15:35

SheThinksShesAllThat · 23/01/2026 20:07

My 40th going to cost in the region of 10k!

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Yup, mine cost £10-12K several years ago, but we'd had a shit few years with no celebrations, no holidays for over 10 years, etc, and we wanted to celebrate our joint birthdays with family and friends, and our family is very large.

I don't understand why people get so nasty and judgy.

Different people have different priorities and different levels of income. What they chose to do with it is their business.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 15:22

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 15:00

Who's doing MN dignoses now?

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Me! I said that in my PP! I’m as qualified as you are?

jbm16 · 24/01/2026 15:17

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 12:14

I work in mental health, and extroverts hate not to be the centre of attention, and they are 99% me, me, me, and will sulk when anyone else gets the attention they crave.

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Prime example of everything that is wrong with social care in this country...

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 15:00

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 14:30

Oh yeah, OPs next post will be that her DH was sectioned after the party after he should extreme mental health issues.

You’re making yourself look totally crazy.

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Who's doing MN dignoses now?

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 14:30

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 14:21

Come back to me when you want to hear "I told you so"

Oh yeah, OPs next post will be that her DH was sectioned after the party after he should extreme mental health issues.

You’re making yourself look totally crazy.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 14:28

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 14:21

Come back to me when you want to hear "I told you so"

you taking to anyone in particular? Or just a random comment?

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 14:21

Come back to me when you want to hear "I told you so"

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 14:16

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 13:40

Over 500 face to face!

How many on the internet on a forum?

I suppose the OP should be ever so grateful for you diagnosing her DH so quickly and efficiently! The NHS really are a marvel, I mean you hear so much about the poor MH services.

Having looked at your previous posts are you sure you’re not a GP receptionist? I mean you claim that all appointments go after your phone lines open at 8 am by 8.05? What sort of mental health unit has that option to call for an appointment? Do tell?

Remember, previous posts are there for everyone to see.

And I would say that being a GP receptionist and pretending to be a mental health doctor point to a mental health issue. I’m as qualified as you to make that diagnosis.

Onleemoi · 24/01/2026 13:59

I know! Op asked if her planned party was value for money and got told she’s entitled and her husband’s a narcissist. Never change MN.

MsMcCoo · 24/01/2026 13:56

I cannot believe such a standard, non exciting (sorry!) thread brought out so many crazies😂

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 13:40

Over 500 face to face!

Arran2024 · 24/01/2026 13:26

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 12:51

I've diagnosed over 500 cases, and I haven't been wrong once.

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How do you know?

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 13:24

BigAnne · 24/01/2026 13:16

@naavaaira I would get optics for the bottles of spirits. Cuts the risk of people getting too rat arsed drinking house measures.

Good call!!

BigAnne · 24/01/2026 13:16

@naavaaira I would get optics for the bottles of spirits. Cuts the risk of people getting too rat arsed drinking house measures.

MsMcCoo · 24/01/2026 13:13

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 12:51

I've diagnosed over 500 cases, and I haven't been wrong once.

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Diagnosing people on MN does not count nor does it count as working in mental health😂

Onleemoi · 24/01/2026 13:01

Diagnosing someone from one throwaway sentence. Skills.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 12:57

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 12:51

I've diagnosed over 500 cases, and I haven't been wrong once.

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Ok, I really totally believe you. Honestly, you’re to applauded and a total asset to the NHS!

or you’re just someone faceless on the internet talking g rubbish.

Griff1963 · 24/01/2026 12:51

BlanketyBlankBlank · 24/01/2026 12:49

She “works in mental health” apparently so knows what she’s talking about 🙄 ! Based on a few lines.

I think the next line might be, log it with 101, get your ducks in a row and LTB!

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I've diagnosed over 500 cases, and I haven't been wrong once.

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