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naavaaira · 2026-01-22T16:23:19+00:00

Posting here for traffic. I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 19:20

user1473878824 · 22/01/2026 19:15

Great. I hope someone pops along to give you a cheap medal for understanding true and real love unlike the rest of us.

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Sorry what is it you are actually saying here?
My point is if you care about someone there is no need to throw money at them. What is yours? It sounds as though though you think spending a lot of money on someone is the only way to show you "love" them".

Furlane · 22/01/2026 19:19

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 19:12

It wasn't meant to be " unkind".
It's stating a fact.
And tbh you are assuming I " can't afford it".
Actually my stance is no one and no birthday deserves spending that amount of money on. In my world showing affection and caring isn't about spending large amounts of money.

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You’re the one turning it into a ‘them and us’ scenario and being very divisive about it. A lot of people could afford to spend more than I can on things. Why would I begrudge them for it or make it so divisive?

I think in most people’s world showing care and affection doesn’t involve spending money. Spending money and caring isn’t mutually exclusive.

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 22/01/2026 19:16

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Yeah OP what on earth are you thinking? Cancel that flipping wonderful sounding nightclub, a few garden chairs and pass the parcel with them onion bharjis in a bit of foil, you'll be right - heating and entertainment in one package! Or find the teens diary for Feb 10th entries for added fun.

Enjoy your party 🥳

user1473878824 · 22/01/2026 19:15

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 19:12

It wasn't meant to be " unkind".
It's stating a fact.
And tbh you are assuming I " can't afford it".
Actually my stance is no one and no birthday deserves spending that amount of money on. In my world showing affection and caring isn't about spending large amounts of money.

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Great. I hope someone pops along to give you a cheap medal for understanding true and real love unlike the rest of us.

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 19:12

BlanketyBlankBlank · 22/01/2026 18:59

That’s very unkind! Just because you can’t afford it, you need to understand people will be able to afford more than you and you afford more than others.

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It wasn't meant to be " unkind".
It's stating a fact.
And tbh you are assuming I " can't afford it".
Actually my stance is no one and no birthday deserves spending that amount of money on. In my world showing affection and caring isn't about spending large amounts of money.

Pantalone · 22/01/2026 19:12

Inflatable nightclub looks like the sort of thing they use in Guantanamo when someone won’t talk 😂

hahagogomomo · 22/01/2026 19:11

Depends on your catering supplier and whatever an inflatable night club is. Certainly can do a house party for a lot less but catering doesn’t come cheap

user1473878824 · 22/01/2026 19:08

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

It’s a grand. Get a grip. What a very bitter response. Them and us? I’d say the majority of people can spend £50 a head on a 40th birthday.

user1473878824 · 22/01/2026 19:06

madaboutpurple · 22/01/2026 17:46

I am glad you are not my neighbour as it seems it will be a noisy event. That would drive me mad OP.I hope it goes well and that you finish at a reasonable hour. Please remember your neighbours might be nurses/doctors who need their sleep. I wouldn't like to go to a mobile nightclub myself and I would be concerned with upsetting neighbours. Would you be able to book an indoor venue?

So no one should ever do ANYTHING in case their neighbours do shift work on the weekend? It’s one night and I’m sure she’s not planning that they blast music until 3am. People have parties and manage not to become the scourge of the neighbourhood you know.

user1473878824 · 22/01/2026 19:04

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 16:29

I hope it’s not February 10th because on that day

Monday February 10th 1986 I came home from school to discover my mum had read my diary! 😮

Believe me OP you did not want to be me that evening !!!!!! The trauma!!!!!

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😵‍💫

BlanketyBlankBlank · 22/01/2026 19:02

Sounds great fun, price seems about right, googled inflatable discos, great!

I’m very interested in the Turkish caterers, do they cook at your house? Or transport it and what’s on the menu @naavaaira

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 19:01

CoastOfXmasPast · 22/01/2026 18:55

We need to know more now 😂 a new thread maybe?

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Definitely!

BlanketyBlankBlank · 22/01/2026 19:00

madaboutpurple · 22/01/2026 17:46

I am glad you are not my neighbour as it seems it will be a noisy event. That would drive me mad OP.I hope it goes well and that you finish at a reasonable hour. Please remember your neighbours might be nurses/doctors who need their sleep. I wouldn't like to go to a mobile nightclub myself and I would be concerned with upsetting neighbours. Would you be able to book an indoor venue?

But do you think k it’s a reasonable cost, that was the question?

BlanketyBlankBlank · 22/01/2026 18:59

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

That’s very unkind! Just because you can’t afford it, you need to understand people will be able to afford more than you and you afford more than others.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 22/01/2026 18:59

naavaaira · 22/01/2026 18:33

I didn’t mean to come across entitled. I do acknowledge we are in a privileged position

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Don't give this poster a second thought, if you can afford it thats your business and no one else's.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 22/01/2026 18:57

madaboutpurple · 22/01/2026 17:46

I am glad you are not my neighbour as it seems it will be a noisy event. That would drive me mad OP.I hope it goes well and that you finish at a reasonable hour. Please remember your neighbours might be nurses/doctors who need their sleep. I wouldn't like to go to a mobile nightclub myself and I would be concerned with upsetting neighbours. Would you be able to book an indoor venue?

People are allowed to have a good time in their own home every once in a while.

Unclench.

I bet you do plenty that annoys people.

CoastOfXmasPast · 22/01/2026 18:55

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 16:29

I hope it’s not February 10th because on that day

Monday February 10th 1986 I came home from school to discover my mum had read my diary! 😮

Believe me OP you did not want to be me that evening !!!!!! The trauma!!!!!

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We need to know more now 😂 a new thread maybe?

RocketLollyPolly · 22/01/2026 18:54

You’ve clearly costed it properly rather than just estimating so if you can afford it, it’s fine. If you’re wanting to save on costs you could cut out the inflatable disco and just do it in the house, or have a cheaper takeaway (eg pizza order) or a supermarket cake, or ask people to bring their own booze etc. What’s your aim?

Cakeandcardio · 22/01/2026 18:52

I went to a 21st with an inflatable night club. It was very good fun! Extremely bouncy 😅

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 22/01/2026 18:48

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Or maybe they’ve worked hard, earned their money and can afford it?
I’ll be spending a fortune on a party in September and I’ll enjoy doing so.
Them and us.
Jealous much?

MsMcCoo · 22/01/2026 18:45

Op, please tell me you prebooked the food delivery already 🙈

It is really good value what you are getting for that money. Also intrigued by inflatable night club😂

MsMcCoo · 22/01/2026 18:44

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Don't be a mean party pooper. Nothing entitled and privileged on having good budget for a party.

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 22/01/2026 18:44

I think it sounds fantastic, and im sure everyone will have a blast. The misery guts upthread who is already sympathising with your neighbours needs to give their head a wobble.

Im off to Google inflatable night clubs.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 22/01/2026 18:41

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

What a needlessly nasty post. Can you not grasp that people earn different amounts in this world, and can afford different things.

sweetpickle2 · 22/01/2026 18:40

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Kindly, get a grip.

OP I had my 40th last year in a bar with no hire fee- about 100 guests, no food, and it cost me about double what you're spending just in drinks and decor. I think you're getting a bargain!