Cost of husband’s 40th party

miss79guided · 02/02/2026 01:16

ForTheForseeable · 30/01/2026 20:53

Well this thread gets weirder by the day doesn't it.

ONLY when you reply ForTheForseeable does it get weird
> The rest of the time, (some) people are enjoyin Guinness

ForTheForseeable · 30/01/2026 20:53

Well this thread gets weirder by the day doesn't it.

ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 30/01/2026 20:07

Leave me alone.

miss79guided · 30/01/2026 19:53

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ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 30/01/2026 06:07

You're bonkers ta ta.🙋

miss79guided · 30/01/2026 05:48

ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 29/01/2026 21:18

No drinin on the park for me.
I was far more sophisticated it was Northern soul nites and niters for me.

Obviously NOT sophisticated ENOUGH

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miss79guided · 30/01/2026 05:37

... was far more sophisticated
> Same thing - just a different format

ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 29/01/2026 21:18

No drinin on the park for me.
I was far more sophisticated it was Northern soul nites and niters for me.

miss79guided · 29/01/2026 21:10

ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 29/01/2026 02:43

Garden party in Feb ?

Yes - please keep up
> You DID it as a teen - drinin on the park
What IS the difference, now it IS legal

miss79guided · 29/01/2026 08:43

Any style - open air - can access (portable) outdoor heaters

ThePrecisionsifthisislove · 29/01/2026 02:43

Garden party in Feb ?

miss79guided · 28/01/2026 23:30

pinkspeakers · 27/01/2026 11:06

why would I be worried about the smell of vomit on the curtains if I have a party at home??

my home is a much nicer venue than a cheap community centre, and nobody has every vomited on my curtains! Or stolen anything, or broken anything other than a wine glass.

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A general worry - apply the theory ...
> There IS always a first for everythin

pinkspeakers · 27/01/2026 11:06

miss79guided · 24/01/2026 19:43

Yes - it is cheap - community centre / church hall
> You DONT have to worry about your property - that gift from aunt Betty - childrens first tooth - the smell of vomit on the curtains ...
Just turn up, party away - go home - the centre has a cleaner

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why would I be worried about the smell of vomit on the curtains if I have a party at home??

my home is a much nicer venue than a cheap community centre, and nobody has every vomited on my curtains! Or stolen anything, or broken anything other than a wine glass.

Grampy60 · 27/01/2026 09:57

pinkspeakers · 22/01/2026 17:18

Only you know if you can afford it. But £50 per head for a full evening of food, drink, entertainment and birthday gubbins sounds reasonable to me.

Exactly this. Sounds like a reasonable price as long as it's a realistic budget for you. There is a tendency for people to overspend massively on things like birthdays, cars and particularly weddings (and then complain about being skint) so as long as you can afford to do it, then do it. It certainly doesn't sound extravagant, hope you have fun!

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 26/01/2026 19:19

SnappyJadeJoker · 26/01/2026 08:49

Recently spent over £900 on mu childs fourth birthday. I'm 40 in 3 years and 15 of us are going to Las Vegas for a week. The flights alone cost much more than this man's entire party

In comparison this "garden party" seems cheap and inconsiderate. Who on earth wants to attend a garden party in a blow up shed in a garden in February...

Mind your business and your tax bracket

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Well you sound lovely. 🙄

SnappyJadeJoker · 26/01/2026 08:49

PickleRickChick · 26/01/2026 05:45

Are you being serious right now?

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Recently spent over £900 on mu childs fourth birthday. I'm 40 in 3 years and 15 of us are going to Las Vegas for a week. The flights alone cost much more than this man's entire party

In comparison this "garden party" seems cheap and inconsiderate. Who on earth wants to attend a garden party in a blow up shed in a garden in February...

Mind your business and your tax bracket

Eurovisionwatcherbecauselol · 26/01/2026 07:31

naavaaira · 22/01/2026 16:23

Posting here for traffic.
I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

Cheap to me, lucky him, I'm arranging my hubby's big birthday and it's a small affair costing nearly £1000

PickleRickChick · 26/01/2026 05:45

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 18:29

Oh my goodness. MN certainly highlights the them and us culture doesn't it?

I can't even envisage a world where spending this much on a 40th birthday would be considered normal.

Entitlement and privilege springs to mind.

Are you being serious right now?

PickleRickChick · 26/01/2026 05:41

madaboutpurple · 22/01/2026 17:46

I am glad you are not my neighbour as it seems it will be a noisy event. That would drive me mad OP.I hope it goes well and that you finish at a reasonable hour. Please remember your neighbours might be nurses/doctors who need their sleep. I wouldn't like to go to a mobile nightclub myself and I would be concerned with upsetting neighbours. Would you be able to book an indoor venue?

Oh get over yourself. 🙄

EllesmereCats · 25/01/2026 19:45

naavaaira · 22/01/2026 16:23

Posting here for traffic.
I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

I've been married several times, and no-one has ever organised a surprise event for me, or indeed any event at all (I'm a guy so maybe not a surprise). The fact that you're organising anything at all will be enough by itself. I wouldn't worry at all about how much your are spending. Even if it's just a 50 quid picnic it will be appreciated.

SnappyJadeJoker · 25/01/2026 18:33

madaboutpurple · 22/01/2026 17:46

I am glad you are not my neighbour as it seems it will be a noisy event. That would drive me mad OP.I hope it goes well and that you finish at a reasonable hour. Please remember your neighbours might be nurses/doctors who need their sleep. I wouldn't like to go to a mobile nightclub myself and I would be concerned with upsetting neighbours. Would you be able to book an indoor venue?

Mumsnetters are an unreasonable bunch at the best of times but you must be the worst of them all

Purpleispretty · 25/01/2026 11:05

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 16:29

I hope it’s not February 10th because on that day

Monday February 10th 1986 I came home from school to discover my mum had read my diary! 😮

Believe me OP you did not want to be me that evening !!!!!! The trauma!!!!!

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Tf?!

NavyTurtle · 25/01/2026 08:45

Furlane · 22/01/2026 16:44

A good Turkish takeaway around here would be over £25 per person (as in a big celebration meal with all the trimmings, not just your usual shish/salad/dips/bread/rice).

£5 per head for alcohol?!! I know Mumsnetters don’t drink, but this is a 40th birthday party!! I would have thought people would have more than one glass of wine!! Yes, people will probably bring some, but you don’t want to run out of drinks in your 40th, that would be a very sad party! It doesn’t go off, I wouldn’t scrimp on drinks.

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Mumsnetters don't drink ???? What is this fuckwittery.

NavyTurtle · 25/01/2026 08:43

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 16:29

I hope it’s not February 10th because on that day

Monday February 10th 1986 I came home from school to discover my mum had read my diary! 😮

Believe me OP you did not want to be me that evening !!!!!! The trauma!!!!!

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WTAF ?

Hufflemuff · 25/01/2026 08:17

ClicketyBayey · 22/01/2026 16:29

I hope it’s not February 10th because on that day

Monday February 10th 1986 I came home from school to discover my mum had read my diary! 😮

Believe me OP you did not want to be me that evening !!!!!! The trauma!!!!!

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This has to be one of the weirdest yet creatively stretched "make it about you" attempts I have ever seen.