To think that gentle parenting only works with kids that were easygoing anyway

I think people constantly conflate gentle parenting and permissive parenting. Gentle parenting is parenting without violence. Really not that hard to do. Firm boundaries, straightforward consequences, clear expectations, all presented in terms your child can understand.

Anyone who thinks things were better in the days when kids were hit with implements needs to give their head a wobble. I come from a country that abolished corporal punishment in schools in the 1830s - and no complete breakdown of law and order ensued.

Authoritative parenting works. Letting your kids get away with everything - not so much.

I hadn’t read on any of SOS book that you can’t say no. I think that’s a myth

I haven't read the book or even heard of her but looked up Sarah Ockwell-Smith and this is the first thing that popped up, it was on her FB page.

Gentle parents say "no".
Gentle parents DO discipline.
Gentle parents DON'T let their children "get away with everything"
Gentle parents DON'T "wrap their children up in cotton wool"
Gentle parents DON'T try to perfect
Gentle parents DO yell.
What other myths have you heard that really irritate you? Here are some of mine (swipe to see them all!).

The problem isn't gentle parenting, it's permissive parenting - or parents getting gentle parenting wrong and thinking it's things like 'not saying no'.

I gentle parented DS I guess, he has ASD, dyspraxia and was extremely stubborn and strong willed. It worked very well. I certainly said no and had clear boundaries though.

Well I remember children being immeasurably better behaved years ago when there was no "gentle" parenting and schools strapped or caned children who misbehaved. Children need to hear the word "no" and that not everything is a negotiation. I must admit though I personally find corporal punishment an unpleasant concept. My husband doesn't seem to have been harmed though and when reminiscing seemed to think that the hiding he and his older brother got for using the family hedges as improvised trampolines was justified.

I’ve not heard of not being able to say no when practicing gentle parenting. I say no quite a lot, ‘no, you can’t touch the hot cooker, it will burn your hand’. Or ‘no, stop!!!!’, when they about to cross the road without looking. Maybe I’m doing it wrong?!

I work in a setting where I spend time with parents and children interacting together - I have done for over 13 years. Parenting styles have certainly changed and evolved over that time. The new gentle parenting style is rearing very unlikeable personalities, children who don't seem able to show any consideration for others, take what they want when they want it, and do not respect their parents let alone friends or siblings. As an outsider looking in...it seems exhausting, this jay work for a few personality types but I don't think it does for all.

Yes 100% two of my children have mostly been gentle parented. The first one OMG he’s been hard work, strangely enough any attempt at natural consequences would make the situation worse. Now he’s older and a bit calmer he’s more gentle parented but those toddler years were tough

i also thing it’s the same on types of dog training - depends on the dogs personality

Same here. Five kids, only one of whom would have suited gentle parenting. Two who were absolutely feral and the other two who were not so wild but still needed a firm hand. The one who would have suited gentle parenting got parented in with all the rest because it's impossible to parent some one way and some the other (particularly when they are all within seven years so all doing most things together).

They're all adults now and very respectable and with responsible jobs. The way they were parented does not seem to have affected them at all (other than meaning they didn't kill either themselves or their siblings).

I agree.
I have four children...all with very very different personalities (now adults)
Two of whom could be gentle parented... they were naturally compliant, sensitive, easy going, never needed to raise a voice.
Two were not. Born hell raisers! Same parents but children who needed much more guidance and frankly, control. One in particular liked to push every boundary, didn't stay still long enough for a nice discussion about anything and needed to hear a very firm NO frequently. He was not a child you could reason with easily.
All now lovely adults, but all needed different levels of parenting!

gentle parenting was the only way we could parent our PDA, ODD, selectively mute Autistic child who would bite you to let you know when they wanted to be alone or not share a toy or were hungry.

by gentle I don’t mean permissive. We just couldn’t be punitive on a child who took longer to understand what was right or wrong, who had no ability to read social cues. there was no other option but to be gentle and work to their level to modify behaviours. Punishment would not have taught them the lesson a neurotypical kid would have understood.