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I need a sense of humour?

34 replies

PinkPonyClubb · 22/01/2026 15:09

I was in M&S today. Approached the lift with my pram, pressed the button and began moving backwards, as I was moving backwards the lift opened. I continued moving backwards and apologised to the elderly woman standing in the door way of the lift. The lady did not look impressed and had a very harsh and quite abrupt tone throughout the following exchange, her tone remained the same. This is how the conversation went…

Me “Sorry”
Her “Have you got X-ray vision?”
Me “Pardon?”
Her “Have you got X-ray vision?”
Me “No, I must have approached the lift pressed the button at the same time as you arrived, that’s why I said sorry.”
Her “You have not got X-ray vision and I have not get X-ray vision. We didn’t need sorry. Get a sense of humour.”

I walked away very confused?! I don’t get what she means. AIBU to think this was all a bit strange or have I missed the point? I can’t stop thinking about how odd this was!

OP posts:
365RubyRed · 22/01/2026 17:02

Why were you moving backwards?

bobsuruncle2 · 22/01/2026 16:48

Yes she was trying to tell you that there was no need to say sorry but if it her tone was deadpan and she didn’t smile it probably felt like more of a telling off! I’d have said ‘just trying to be polite…’

Rainydayinlondon · 22/01/2026 16:45

Was she of a certain age and "class" OP?

I do think she was probably trying to be witty

Northernladdette · 22/01/2026 16:37

She sounds like an idiot 🙄

ImSweetEnough · 22/01/2026 15:42

She was a witty lady. Possibly she said it in a very dry tone so it didn't land!

PinkPonyClubb · 22/01/2026 15:16

asrl78 · 22/01/2026 15:12

If that was a light hearted joke then it was lost on me. Some people shouldn't play the comedian, they are crap at it.

Me too! If she smiled or had a humours tone then maybe it would have allowed me to think that way. She was dead pan stern and stern in her tone!

OP posts:
Lmnop22 · 22/01/2026 15:15

I think she was just trying (in a pretty awkward way) to say you don’t need to apologise because you can’t see through the door that she is waiting to come out

asrl78 · 22/01/2026 15:12

If that was a light hearted joke then it was lost on me. Some people shouldn't play the comedian, they are crap at it.

Reassurancells · 22/01/2026 15:11

She means neither of you needed to apologise because neither of you have x ray vision.

don’t take it under your notice.