Who should have been responsible for baby in this situation?

@3point5

i need makeup to look nice. And I like to look nice. No big deal. Makeup is literally designed to make people look better

the sad thing is when you look like shit, you still look like shit but with make-up 😂

I love make-up far too much, but it's not an instagram filter, you look like you more than people realise.

Go back to your original comment, slating this woman and making her feel bad and saying she should want to spend more time cuddling her baby!! Really!!!

I have three children and didn’t leave any even overnight until they were 18 months minimum. No way would I have been able to leave a 5 month old, we were way too entwined.

i was trying to put myself in the dad’s position, I think the mum is entirely unreasonable to prioritise beautification and breakfast the morning before a long weekend, her baby should come first.

It's kind of sad some women feel they need make -up in order to "not look like shit"

no one is saying you can't do your make-up, just pointing out that you don't need to get rid of your baby to do make-up and hair!

Otherwise, none of us would ever have make-up on

you are not implying that the one who works full time and will be in charge all weekend is not pulling his weight are you? 😂

As opposed to the one who is on maternity leave and goes away to have a break?

(dont' get me wrong, I applaud mothers who take a break, I am one of them but come on)

I think the whole thing of arguing over who 'has' the baby for a few hours when you're both in the house is a bit weird. Surely you're both just getting on with stuff and seeing to whatever the baby needs as and when?

In our house the unspoken rule is that if you're going away, you are helping out with the kids until it's time to leave.

In this case I likely would have juggled baby with getting ready so partner could sleep, especially if he'd been working so late.

You're leaving him with the baby alone for the first time - you want him to be as well rested as possible.

All kids have watch cartoons.

LOL
Well, of course. Duh!
That's the nature of internalised misogyny and why it is SO insidious. One is hardly going to be able to acknowledge it, especially if they don't exactly understand it and just react... "Misogyny? No way. I'm a woman, I can't have it, you're just saying that because you don't agree with me" 😂

Besides,it was more of a general comment. I assumed that a gap and a ".on here.."would indicate that. Not that it really matters as I wasn't actually disagreeing with you. Obviously, without knowing whether the criteria was the same, it was a pointless/irrelevant comparison. Can only dismiss it rather than agree or disagree 🤷‍♀️

So yeah, this thread is a hotbed of internalised misogyny

It doesn’t seem to be part of her husbands parenthood funnily enough. Why do people seem to think it’s fine to only ever get a baby free moment by not being in the house?

Don't blame you.
Not your fault that your dh ( who knew you were going on a weekend away) decided to work until 145am the night before. Of all the times to do that. Useless. Next time, go to a friends to get ready. Why is it alway women who are the default parent, just because they are 'there'.
Dh didn't plan properly and that's on him.

Her dp promised to be a dad to her baby when they talked about having one, and now he’s ditching that promise. He chose to work till 2 and that doesn’t change his prior commitment to be dad all weekend.

don’t have children then. Because they would get sick, and you would have a partner who needed you to be a partner. And sometimes that’s what it is. I have a busy full time job, but neither dp nor I get away with not pulling our weight on the parenting front.

Next time, do your makeup at the airport over a glass of fizz! 😀 🥂
Although this idea would be abhorrent to some people on here…no idea why…

As someone with an insanely busy job if I were taking Friday off work and in sole charge of a baby all weekend I could have to work til stupid o’clock on the Thursday, to allow me to be 100% there for the baby over the weekend. I don’t think slating the dad for doing this is fair.

op is presumably going to be at an airport - plenty of time for make up, breakfast or whatever there.

Unfortunately this is part of parenthood! I’d have washed hair and done what I could toward getting myself ready the night before. Night out, weekend away, work or even a day out with the kids means way less time to yourself for getting ready now you are a parent unfortunately.

@Phoenixfire1988

you think OP needs to see a doctor because she wants a bit of time for shower , hair and makeup before going on a weekend away?? No creditable doctor is going to pathologise that very ordinary behaviour

This is a good idea! Take yourself to somewhere peaceful, OP and do hair and makeup there!

Yes its bad for development baby's cry for a reason and those needs should always be met . Imagine feeling sad scared, alone or upset and the person closest to you told you to go sit in another room and sort yourself out .
Soothing babies when they cry helps with attachment and bonds leaving them to cry can cause anxious detached adults and the high stress levels can damage brain development. Babies dont learn to self soothe they just realise no one will come and that's awful

Baby is 5 months old for goodness sakes id see a doctor honestly baby blues lasts a few days after birth this is ppd . Your dp finished work at 2 am you could of let him sleep 5 month olds generally sleep alot anyway so plenty of time to do hair and make up you're definitely being unreasonable.

Supporting someone doesen't mean making up things about the other person, you can support someone without making assumption the other is sabotaging. I supported her when others say she shouldn't be away from her baby, but in this situation, I do not agree with her. So I won't say she is right if I don't feel she is right and this is the point of posting, getting different perspectives not molly-coddling for the sake of it. However, I did not call her names and did not judge her, I don't even think I told her I don't agree directly either. So there's that.

Not being facetious. Just wondering if it's now seen as bad for its development or something if it's not attended to immediately? There used to be a parenting style where you deliberately let it cry didn't there? I'm guessing to counteract the expectation that you'll come running when it cries.

Like how they advise to not immediately drop some pets if they nip you as they start to think this is the way to get you to put them down.

What would happen if you just put the baby in its bouncer and left it there for a few mins? Would anything bad happen if it cried for a minute or two?