Who should have been responsible for baby in this situation?

‘Tied down for the weekend’…has no-one told him kids are for life 😂

YABU. He got in from work super late. You need some time off to get ready for your time off? If my husband did this to me, I’d be so pissed off.

But why did he get in at that time? If he was able to get home much earlier and didn't then it's down to him how little sleep he got.

I think no matter the circumstances, it's unreasonable to expect someone who got in from work at 2am to have the baby at 7am so someone else can primp and fuss.

Yanbu

Could he have finished work earlier? I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all. Especially considering you’ve left everything clean, tidy and with food prepped.

YABU leaving a seven month old baby for a weekend jolly and needing time to ‘be prepared.’

I know that’s blunt and a lot will think I’m out of order but it is what I honestly think.

<waits to be annihilated >

Why does your husband get home from work at 1.45 am. Because it's essential or he likes to work those hours?

Funny I never see these replies on the threads where a man is going away for a weekend while there is a young baby😂

YABU.

you are away and he is stepping up

Give the man a medal for parenting his own child for a couple of days!

Generally if I'm going out then DH has the children whilst I get ready. I'm a big believer in mums taking time for themselves and dads being expected to do their fair share.

But in this scenario, there's no way I'd want him to get up early after working so late just so I could have an easier time doing my hair (and if the tables were turned, I'd be furious if he woke me up after a late night so he could get ready in peace).

Oh I think YABU here OP. You don’t need a few hours to prep for a lovely weekend away! And I say this as a mum to a 21 month old and a 10 week old, he’s got home at 2am and having a 5 month old solo all weekend, I wouldn’t have got out of bed for you to spend 2 hours doing your hair either.

He's looking after the baby for the weekend so you don't get a 'leisurely' morning. You're having a 'leisurely weekend'

If he was going away for the weekend, would you be annoyed if he then extended it to a 'leisurely' morning too when you already are solo parenting all weekend?

I'd want to get ready and then spend those few hours WITH my baby who I wasn't seeing all weekend.

Honestly it doesn’t matter.

you are away and he is stepping up. Enjoy your holiday and let it go. I assume you look clean and presentable. Being with your friends will do the world of good.

Wow you are getting an unreasonably hard time OP! YANBU, he sounds like hes not pulling his weight. You were going away, of course you need time to get ready in peace. I doubt ne actually needed to be at work so late and Im guessing you usually do most bedtimes and mornings with baby.

So she has to book a holiday to Europe away from her child to get a lie ini?

This. I went on a trip with a friend when her DD was around that age. She came down the stairs, said, "am I OK?" I said "you're covered in milk, change your top and we'll book" she did, we did, a great time was had by all.

Your friends love you and don't care if your hair is done. Wanting extra hours when the person holding the baby is tired is a bit unreasonable.

It's the old "grey area" between him thinking he was taking over baby when, and only when, you leave the house - and you needing some time to prepare to go away.
Yanbu to want some support from your dh - and you will need to make sure you don't permanently become the default parent - i.e. the baby is yours unless you've expressly arranged it with him. It happens so often.
I notice you say left everything ready, organised & nice and clean for him - make sure he does the same for you, and you don't come back to a mess.

Why doesn't he like the baby?

Honestly, I just can't get my head around not wanting to leave my five month old for a weekend then prioritising hair and make up when I'm going to be away for the next few days

See this is what you should not have done!

Yabu sorry. I also went away with friends when my baby was that age. Lots of people were surprised. DH hadn't spent that much time with the baby. We had both agreed it was important I got a break. So I'm behind that part of it all.

But looking for leisurely time in advance when he's only had a few hours sleep after work? This is incredibly selfish.

I do remember arriving to meet my group of friends barefaced and hair swept up to them all utterly glam and announcing "I'm away, that's the main thing".

You're deep in the trenches now and you have to pull together.

It’s unfortunate you’re not feeling great about yourself but the amount of prep time you’ve suggested is unreasonable.
equally finishing work at past 9pm.