Who should have been responsible for baby in this situation?

You should’ve been responsible for baby, at least until he’d had a decent amount of sleep.

Had you told him before hand that he would have the baby from 7am or just sprung it on him? Did he have to work until that time? YABU if you sprung it on him and he had no choice about what time her finished. YANBU if you’d told him in advance or he chose to work late knowing he had to be up early.

As someone who regularly gets home from work at 2am due to shifts, it’s an absolute killer when you have to get up that early and do childcare all day so even just an extra hour of sleep helps. My
husband is really good at getting up with the kids if I’m working late on the weekends but I have to be up during the week as he’s also at work.

Because small babies need to be with their primary caregiver.

Nonsense! DH went away between Christmas and new year with his older two leaving me with the puppy and baby. Before he left he absolutely did as much as he could to make sure he was leaving me without anything extra to do. It's give and take isn't it, regardless of gender, if you're expecting your partner to take on 100% of the work, then surely you can at least help where you can beforehand.

Sorry OP this is my thoughts. Even if I'm out for the day for drinks and lunch once or twice a year I normally do all the breakfasts etc then have an hour to get ready before I go. This is mainly because (rightly or wrongly OH struggles with following the routine we have 4 young kids and gets way more stressed than me). Enjoy your weekend ✨

@EspressoMachiato

its ok for a mother or father to have a weekend away with friends leaving the child with their other parent. Why on earth wouldn’t it be??

If he was going away and expected you to take over hours before then he would be unreasonable to.

Sorry but you are being unreasonable. He has been working late you are going on a weekend jolly. You don't need hours to get ready do it at the airport or just make do .Hair and makeup isn't that important!
If it was me I would what to spend as much time as I could with my baby if I was going to be away from them for a weekend .

He was working until the early hours, you wanted to do your hair.

Was this this morning?

She clearly isn't breastfeeding so I imagine lots!

He got back at 2am and you wanted him to have the baby so you could have a leisurely morning curling your hair? You are in the wrong. I wouldn't leave my 5 month old and travel to another country though so we are obviously very different!

The husband leaves baby with OP for long periods all the time for work, and he still argued over a couple of extra hours? That’s so pathetic. __

Where does the OP say that?

Me too.
I'm old fashioned on this but I can't imagine leaving a baby on its own with the father for a weekend away in the same country let alone going abroad.
I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself worrying about what could go wrong.

@awaynboilyurheid

having “me time” as a parent is perfectly ok, essential even. You don’t stop needing time to yourself just because you’re a parent

Assuming you two talk to each other, then you'd be really justified in being peed off that he came home so late and then complained when you were trying to get ready in the morning. Having a w/e away from a young child is a big deal, so much to think about and you've had to think about making sure your man child is OK too.
He's a selfish sod. Christ, it's his child too. He's not the babysitter.
Go have a great time and forget about all this.

Lots of women on here don’t wear makup, OP or style their hair. Which is fine but lots of them are also quite contemptuous of women who do- they see it as vacuous, vain waste of time. So don’t be swayed by them, OP. You were not unreasonable to want to be able to invest a bit of time in your appearance for a weekend away not long after having a baby, which let’s be honest does have a huge impact on a woman. @Peachepan

Expecting you to take the baby in the morning is fine. Being huffy about having to look after his own child for a whole weekend is manchild behaviour.

Blimey
a woman saying her husband expected her to look after the baby after 5 hours sleep so he could “mentally prepare” before a weekend away would get some fairly blunt LTB responses!

So he got in at 145am...presumably didn't go to sleep right away so maybe asleep by 3 and you want him to look after the baby on 4ish hours sleep so you can preen.

Sorry @Peachepan but you are massively unreasonable here.

Ok. I’ve read all the OPs posts and she doesn’t say that anywhere. She says she asked him to “cut back” but not what “cutting back” looks like in a practical sense or whether that is a practical and reasonable thing to do. Nor has she said what he was actually doing - just “work” - nothing about deadlines or workload or if he was just arsing about or doing something that could easily wait. Nor has she said what the business is. He might run a nightclub or be a dairy farmer.

I've come back to this thread as something else has just occurred to me - today is Thursday - the official weekend is 48 hours away. So while I think 1:45am is a crazy time to get home, I am guessing that he has taken the day off work both today and tomorrow to be at home, so possibly he was trying to get as much done as possible yesterday to make up for the days when he can't be in work.

It's his own business, so to an extent he chooses his hours, but the reality when you own your own business is that you often have to do crazy hours to get the thing off the ground, to keep it going in really uncertain economic times and because other people rely on him - including his household relying on him to bring money home every month. If he was compressing his time to be able to take two full days off to look off his child while the mother enjoys a long weekend - because going on a Thursday suggests to me that she's taking four days - then I can understand the imperative to put in a really long day to leave things in as good as position as possible. I know two people who run their own businesses and it's a hard slog and they both do ridiculous hours to keep things going.

I do also think how many hours the Op was wanting is relevant.

You are a mother now. Grow up.

and I assure you plenty of women would NOT get up early with the baby so their husband could do their hair in peace 😂