Who should have been responsible for baby in this situation?

As he’s expected not to work from today until Monday while OP is off on a jolly - and still make sure his business runs smoothly in his absence - he probably had no choice but to work until the early hours of the morning.

Oh piss off!!! She is perfectly entitled and it is so weird that people think women aren’t allowed to do stuff like this just because they’ve birthed a human.

Oh well. OP does and it's her life!

You're very invested in what's in my head aren't you?

It was agreed and he went back on it. He was responsible. It's good for him to have a taste of solo parenting, rather than just expecting you to. Hope you had a lovely weekend

My husband often agrees to go out say 7.30pm. Then shifts it back to 6.30pm. Then on the day often even earlier. Drives me mad!

I am sure you are making a nice little movie in your little head, so do tell us more.

Yes apparently he is a "business owner. And a recovering workaholic" in .. what?
sock factory? Farming? restaurant or nightclub owner? Flower shop? Cleaning business?

How do you know who has to work late or not?

How sad that you feel even the childs father shouldn't look after them overnight.

Is not the couple of hours the way you say it. Is the couple of hours extra that he needs of sleep so he can look after the baby for the rest of the day. He leaves her at home with baby so he can go to work. You know, so they can eat, and have a roof over their heads...is crazy how people take things out of context so they can suit their man-bashig narrative.

Exactly! And get used to it, as when maternity leave is over, getting ready for work with kids in tow is a daily occurrence.

that cannot be genuine, can it?

How do you reconcile your very bizarre ideas with all the male fetal surgeons, male obstetricians, male midwives (sadly too rare but they exist), male nurses?

And all the dads who are just being dads and look after their own babies and children because they are their dads -whether mum is well, dead or in ICU, but they're still the father anyway

@Peachepan why have you posted in AIBU if you want to challenge anyone who suggests you are in fact being unreasonable?
If this was reversed and the mother had gone to bed at 2am after working and the husband was off on a golf weekend and wanted to get the mother up so he could have a gym session before heading off so he wasn’t “frazzled” before his jolly, the responses would be WILD!

Wtf are you on about? Op says quite clearly he's a 'recovery workaholic', there was no need for him to be back so late.

Just get ready with the baby with you? Bouncer / chair / play mat etc

He was probably exhausted from working so late. He runs his own company which they say is 24/7. It’s very likely he’s funding her weekend away - on top of bills - because he’s working so hard!

The guy needs his sleep!

You can bet anything that all the posters falling over themselves to blame the "selfish, irresponsible, nasty" husband trying to "punish" (?) the OP would have a completely different reaction if a man was leaving for a stag do but expected his wife to get up early so he had time to trim his beard or blow dry his hair 😂

In reality, they would be in rage if HE didn't take the baby in the morning to give his wife a little break or a chance a sleep a bit before she ends up alone all weekend with their baby and likely broken nights again.

@EspressoMachiato

i wouldn’t have a baby with someone who I think is so inadequate he couldn’t even look after said baby.

This is a tough one! I’d usually say yes, DH should be taking the baby off your hands so that you can get ready for your weekend away. However, personally I think most mum’s would not be leaving their baby at this age for a girlie weekend away but seen as you’ve decided this is okay to do, you do have a ‘full’ leisurely weekend planned so why are you insisting on additional leisure time from your DH when your DH has had just a few hours sleep?
Kinda selfish tbh.

Lastly, I don’t think your DH is in recovery at all if he’s working until 1.45am.

It's clearly your husband who should have had the baby. Clearly. More and more though I realise that folk are extremely extremely selfish. Cannot put themselves out a tiny bit for anyone. The first post on this thread is classic mumsnet. I wouldn't believe people could be so selfish if I didn't see it here 🙄

Absolutely this.
He's a selfish man that was punishing you for daring to take a few days break.
Be very careful OP.
So easy for him to promise he would change, words are cheap, actions are what counts.

His actions made your going away more stressful for you.
Good husbands and fathers don't do this.

He's punishing you for taking your Me time

Totally!

Poor OP. Doesn’t look like she’s coming back after the pile on here. The viper’s nest at its peak again.

OP, in case you do read here. You’re not unreasonable, assuming your husband had the option of not working as late as he did, which I’ll assume is the case based on what you’ve said about being a workaholic. Even if he did have to work, it’s only a one off and he could have got up a little earlier.

Also, you’re doing nothing wrong by having a weekend to yourself and leaving your child with its other parent (I’m sure there’d be no eyelids batted at all if it was your husband going). I also get where you’re coming from re: anxiety and feeling down about your body. It’s also nice to be able to get prepared and ready in relative peace, especially when you’re anxious. There’s also absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look your best and feeling good.

And ignore those saying you should do it on the plane…they’d probably be the ones posting a thread on here saying “I can’t believe this woman is doing her hair and makeup on the plane”.

I know, it beggars belief doesn't it.

What a dreadful state that you couldn’t trust the father of your child to look after them.

What do you mean by “they’ve a lot of catching up to do”?

That depends on who's looking after the baby.
I personally wouldn't trust a man on his own with a baby overnight - they don't have the same reflexes as women and have a lot of catching up to do. I didn't leave mine alone with anyone even for an evening out for the first two years - my choice. I wouldn't have trusted someone else of either sex until then.