Who should have been responsible for baby in this situation?

Personally I found leaving such young babies for more than a few hours stressful and if I had been going away I would've been wanting to spend every last minute with my babe before leaving.

Husband wouldn't have left me for a weekend and I wouldn't have left him with such a young one.

Where has OP said anything about how often she does or doesn't get a lie in at home?

Depends how much he helps normally for me.

If he usually leaves all the baby work/early mornings at the weekends to OP and this is her one weekend off, then I think she's fair enough.

If he's usually helpful, then yes, OP could have been a bit more helpful in return given that she's going away.

I'd be pissed if my DH did this. He's about to head off on a leisurely weekend, leaving me with the baby, I've worked really late, and he swans around getting ready... No, sorry OP, not okay.

Op has made no mention of suffering from any such MEDICAL CONDITION 🙄

I would have put the baby down somewhere safe and done my hair and make up and I’d have woken him up just before I had to leave. Maybe given him 30 mins to wake up and adjust before leaving. The guy may be a workaholic but he also got in at 2am so yeah, I’d have let him sleep a bit more.

I sincerely hope that you're posting about a situation from last weekend OP.

Brcause if not, it's absolutely abhorrent that you'll potentially be away on your trip and reading the awful judgemental responses on this thread

FWIW I don't think you're being unreasonable, and I think that a lot of PP are overlooking thr state of your mental health.

I can conpletely empathise with needing time to mentally prepare, and recognise that it's part of my depression and anxiety (as well as ND for me).

Those that don't "get it" are very fortunate to not have been similarly affected by a MEDICAL CONDITION, and should be grateful for that and less judgemental.

I hope that your trip was/is enjoyable.

YABU. You’re already having a weekend away. Why couldn’t you just let your DH get some rest in the morning when he’d been working until almost 2am?

Okay for your partner to start the weekend feeling frazzled on limited sleep though? If you need several hours to do makeup, dress, drink coffee etc before going on a weekend break in order not to feel frazzled, it sounds like your stress tolerance is quite low.

Honestly I’ve a 6 month old and I could mind the baby and do make up at the same time. Can the baby not be put down or something ?

I would probably would have let him sleep as long as possible so that he wasn’t irritable with baby from lack of sleep the rest of the weekend.

However, I wouldn’t be happy if he had voluntarily finished work at 1.45 and would have expected him to do his best to finish early to allow time to get ready for the weekend. You say he works for himself so presumably that could have been possible.

Same.

I know right!

I actually find it really sad @EspressoMachiato that you denied yourself a night out for TWO YEARS because you didn’t trust your partner to look after their own child

Poor thing, if she thinks this is the norm!

She’s speaking about her own husband, who sounds a bit on the feeble side.

It certainly doesn’t extend to the entire male race. Thank God.

You’re only 5 months in and at that stage I think you’re still adjusting to everything emotionally, hormonally, physically - and also you are probably always feeling frazzled. But I’m afraid that lasts years and years 🤣
I totally understand how you were feeling about it and in yourself, but I do think you will need to adjust your expectations about how long you can spend uninterrupted on yourself. An hour should have been plenty. And you could have got ready with baby playing somewhere safe with you.
My dh also works very long and late hours & I suspect in this case your dh worked so late as he knew he’d be unable to work the days while you were away. So on balance I think you should have let him lie in.
Once you left you had days to yourself.

and people think selling pink or blue tshirt for boys or girls are an issue.

When you read some of the posts on this thread, you should realise it's more women who bring us down than most men!

I know right!

@EspressoMachiato

they don't have the same reflexes as women

What does this even mean?

But so true!

You don’t prepare to be away from the baby by not wanting to spend time with the baby. That’s ridiculous. Also it’s Thursday, that’s a long weekend if you’re back Sunday or Monday.

they barely move but they don't fucking sleep, they're exhausting 😂

but I agree, make-up and hair are non issues with a 5 month old!

Welcome to motherhood ( joke)

you are addressing your posts to me, I am replying. You KNOW so I am indeed curious of what exactly you KNOW
because we all read the same information on that thread, but you seem to know so much more 😂

It’s a 5 month old baby- seriously what difference did it make whoever had them, they barely move!

In any case, if I got woken up having got back from work in the early hours so my partner could do his hair before escaping for a weekend I’d be livid.

it’s a holiday, not a job interview for gods sake. You didn’t need to prepare.

You do make up storries though, pp was roght. How the hell would you know he stayed late deliberately? If he has his own buisness I assume he stayed because he had to not because he likes coming home at 2am. And what recovering workaholic means?