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To feel really angry with my daughter shagging about??

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Spooky2000 · 22/01/2026 02:09

Ok, so she's 26. She lives with me having returned after a few years living with a bf that she broke up with. Yeah, young, carefree and single. EXCEPT.

She shags virtually every guy she meets (she tells me) and doesn't use condoms. She hooks up with men she knows are bad for her but she she does it anyway because she fancies them and lies to me about the hooking up, because she thinks I'll believe her. 🙄I make out that I do, but I'm not stupid!

Now, don't get me wrong, she is single and can shag whomever she likes as often as she likes. I'm annoyed for the reasons that: she doesn't use condoms; that if she takes a shine to one and shags him she's upset when he ghosts her; that she's little interest in anything but "boys" and it's like living with a teenager and I hate it, frankly. She should grow up and start acting more responsibly.

She's zero interest in anything or anyone but her phone. She wants to adopt a dog, but given how she's now treating mine, I will not allow it and frankly, plan to sabotage that because a reasonable discussion cannot be had with her at present as to why she isn't responsible or reliable.

I really mean that, it's like having a child all over again in the sense of having to take responsibility - which rest assured dear reader, I will be shrugging off.

OP posts:
SwanLake35 · 22/01/2026 02:19

Expecting your mum to be an audience for these conversations is really off. Refuse to discuss any of it. What’s happening with the dog?

Placetobreathe · 22/01/2026 02:16

How does she treat your dog OP?
If she is ill treating your dog why are you allowing this?

I don't think she will be carefree for very long if she is sleeping with multiple men without protecting herself from STI's and pregnancy. But she is an adult and you can't make her act like a sensible adult.