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To be so upset over grown adults bullying this young woman

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lateas · 21/01/2026 22:41

Has anyone else seen the photo circulating of the “health minister” of Wales?

First of all, this isn’t true. Her name is Athika Ahmed. She's a 23 year old medical student from Cardiff who's been a dedicated member of the Cardiff and Vale University Health Board's youth panel since she was 16. She helped develop new educational resources (launched in December 2025) for Welsh secondary schools on topics like menstrual health, endometriosis, pelvic health, and menopause. These aim to reduce stigma and help young people spot when to seek help. She's not an official 'Health Ambassador for women' appointed by the Welsh Government or NHS Wales in a senior role – that's a bit of an exaggeration. But her work is real, positive, and focused on improving health education, especially in communities where these topics can be taboo.

There are thousands of comments regarding her appearance. People mocking her, plenty of racism too. It’s sad that people are taking the piss of her appearance instead of focusing on her work. Not that that she should have to explain herself, but she has a tumour on her pituitary gland. This type of tumour interferes with hormones, causing conditions such as Cushing disease which has a direct impact on weight.

I’ve actually unfriended a couple of people on Facebook tonight. It’s bullying plain and simple. No wonder people kill themselves. There some bastards in this world.

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CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 24/01/2026 19:23

nomas · 23/01/2026 07:00

So the person attacking OP is fine to berate OP but OP responding with a very mild comment is unacceptable?

Talk about your own hypocrisy.

I wouldn't normally bother to engage with this but for the fact that you have got almost everything wrong.

  1. The PP didn't berate the OP. They pointed out the factual errors and that it undermined the credibility of the OP, making them appear clueless
  2. The OP responded and acknowledged their mistake but couldn't resist attacking the character of the PP. It may have been mild in terms of the words used, but it was unnecessary and a personal attack on the person, not on their post.
  3. I pointed out that some might consider that bullying - i just thought it petulant - which was pertinent to a thread about how people treat each other. I never said it was unacceptable.
  4. The OP and I unpacked her post and I explained how her writing came across to me.
  5. OP, as she has every right to do, chose not to continue further, preferring to only engage with people who agreed with the premise of the thread. She neither acknowledged or refuted whether her response had been reasonable.

But I'm sure we're both grateful for your efforts to police our discussion.

Soontobe60 · 23/01/2026 07:07

lateas · 22/01/2026 00:24

As someone mentioned earlier, the poster seemed more interested in pointing out my mistake than in correcting me nicely or giving me some useful advice. So yes, I shot back with a "snarky" response. I have the right to defend myself. I acknowledged my mistake, but that wasn’t good enough.

This post was meant to be positive and to show gratitude to this lady for all her hard work. I’ll just leave it at that.

I mean, it was a pretty significant ‘mistake’ to be fair. The main criticism this woman is receiving is regarding her physical appearance, and you’ve said that this is due to an illness, ergo how can people be so awful when someone has a condition that they can’t help that’s affecting their appearance.

nomas · 23/01/2026 07:00

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 21/01/2026 23:30

For someone that doesn't approve of bullying, that was a very snarky comment.

I suspect the YABU voters might be recognising a certain hypocrisy in you telling others how they should think and behave.

So the person attacking OP is fine to berate OP but OP responding with a very mild comment is unacceptable?

Talk about your own hypocrisy.

nomas · 23/01/2026 06:59

Springsnail · 22/01/2026 00:29

This thread probably needs removing,if the lady doesn't have the health issues stated.
On a side note
People need to let her get on with her job ,and mind their own business about her size

No, it doesn’t need removing.

Why does every thread that exposes racism to Muslims and stands up for a Muslim wiman need deleting?

nomas · 23/01/2026 06:57

INX · 21/01/2026 23:22

You can try to deflect all you like with the 'perfect' nonsense.

But I'm more interested in why you'd start a thread about someone you have no clue about, whilst making out you do?

Baffling.

It’s more baffling why you’re picking on OP when the thread is about racism to a brown Muslim woman.

What is your agenda?

Skybunnee · 23/01/2026 06:52

Can’t help feeling that people in the public eye need to ignore or get a friend to screen their sm and only pick out any relevant ones.

I thought this with princess di when the tabloids went on about the cellulose on her legs in the 90s but no she responded by covering up when she could easily (with staff) ignore

Bananarice · 23/01/2026 06:47

Op, please you don't need to respond to those who wish to take down the thread. Ignore the bullies and their fake nonsense about you controlling the thread. They just want to derail it. Ignore them, thank those who give useful information. Move on.

This thread is about a young woman who is receiving unfair treatment by the media. I hope her family and freinds are standing strongly by her.

XenoBitch · 22/01/2026 23:50

YANBU the comments I have seen have been utterly vile, and many from women too.

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 23:31

Ladyzfactor · 22/01/2026 01:11

I still stand by having a hard time taking health advice from someone morbidly obese. No question that she's brilliant, and no question that she's correct with what she says. But it's pretty hard to separate the her lack of healthy weight with the message she says. And that's wrong, but I'm not going to stop being skeptical.

She may have a condition that causes weight gain such as Endometriosis, PCOS, Cushings disease, hashimotos or other thyroid issues. This might be why she is so passionate about spreading the word.

I have endo and have been six stone overweight for over 20 years. I have finally lost it due to WLI but not everyone has that privilege.

She is not presenting herself as the perfect human but that doesn’t preclude her from encouraging girls to know when periods are not right and need to be investigated.

Your argument is narrow minded and fat phobic.

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Ladyzfactor · 22/01/2026 01:11

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 01:01

She is not giving dietary advice. She is part of a panel who created educational resources about periods, endometriosis and pcos.

I still stand by having a hard time taking health advice from someone morbidly obese. No question that she's brilliant, and no question that she's correct with what she says. But it's pretty hard to separate the her lack of healthy weight with the message she says. And that's wrong, but I'm not going to stop being skeptical.

SemperIdem · 22/01/2026 01:07

I think the media has positioned Athika in a really cruel way, it is horrible.

She is not, and has never, spoken about weight/exercise, her focus is specifically periods, pcos, endo etc. An important conversation for all women, but she has been a voice for a community where perhaps it is less spoken about.

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 01:01

Ladyzfactor · 22/01/2026 00:57

I would never bully, but I would also never take dietary advice from someone morbidly obese. There are health conditions that can make living at a healthy weight hard, but dietary habits are what affects weight far more than anything else

She is not giving dietary advice. She is part of a panel who created educational resources about periods, endometriosis and pcos.

Ladyzfactor · 22/01/2026 00:57

I would never bully, but I would also never take dietary advice from someone morbidly obese. There are health conditions that can make living at a healthy weight hard, but dietary habits are what affects weight far more than anything else

Kimura · 22/01/2026 00:40

It's the same treatment Belgian politician Maggie De Block got, only she was actually her country's Health Minister while being morbidly obese.

The problem is, the people who are happy to make offensive statements about Athika Ahmed simply don't care that she isn't actually a health minister, or that she does important work. It's not important to them, they just need easy-to-understand concepts they can point at as evidence of the government being clueless or the world going 'woke', or whatever it is they're mad at that particular week. 'Fat Health Minister' is perfect for that.

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 00:30

lateas · 22/01/2026 00:29

I’ve never been a fan!

She is abhorrent

lateas · 22/01/2026 00:29

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 00:27

Katie Hopkins has even opened her vile gob about her too

I’ve never been a fan!

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Springsnail · 22/01/2026 00:29

This thread probably needs removing,if the lady doesn't have the health issues stated.
On a side note
People need to let her get on with her job ,and mind their own business about her size

lateas · 22/01/2026 00:29

Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 00:26

This creator has really upset me as he really stirred the pot. https://www.facebook.com/share/1AhSzD2W3m/?mibextid=wwXIfr

yep, saw this post earlier. I use to follow him too

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Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 00:27

Katie Hopkins has even opened her vile gob about her too

lateas · 22/01/2026 00:24

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 22/01/2026 00:07

There you go again ;)

You have decided how the conversation should progress rather than just accept other people's comments. If you don't see that then I can see why you can't see any of your behaviours as antagonistic.

FWIW I didn't accuse you of bullying - I said you were snarky by calling out her "perfection".

So here's how your latest response came across:

The person who posted seems to think that I did not research this woman (which is wrong)
She is entitled to her opinion of why you made such a mistake. You assert that you did research but offer no explanation as to how you still made such an error which comes across as dismissive as if she has no right to critique your post.

and has argued about an error I acknowledged.
Not one that you acknowledged prior to her raising it, so again seems to be defensive (and questions her right to question your post)

It appears her focus is more on my mistake than on the mistreatment of this woman, which is the main issue of the discussion
She has different priorities to you. She is so permitted. You come across as expecting everyone to agree with you or you'll get annoyed with them. That's coercive behaviour which in an office might be called bullying.

People are allowed to go off at tangents amd shouldn't be chastised for.doing so. I think people criticising appearance are always pathetic.

In this case though I don't see her input as particularly valuable and I dont understand (not researched) why she has been named.above others. I dont just know whether she's self-promoting and taking credit for a group effort, or has been promoted by NHS Wales because she's not your average welshman, or quite what the background to the story is.

That would have been helpful as part of your OP rather than a CV of the web page .

HTH

As someone mentioned earlier, the poster seemed more interested in pointing out my mistake than in correcting me nicely or giving me some useful advice. So yes, I shot back with a "snarky" response. I have the right to defend myself. I acknowledged my mistake, but that wasn’t good enough.

This post was meant to be positive and to show gratitude to this lady for all her hard work. I’ll just leave it at that.

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Shmoigel · 22/01/2026 00:23

It’s absolutely disgraceful I am so upset by it and have unfollowed a few Welsh content creators today who have piled on. She is not the “health ambassador” she is simply on a youth panel of women who have created educational resources for girls.

it’s disgusting and racially motivated

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 22/01/2026 00:07

lateas · 21/01/2026 23:40

How was my reply bullying? I’m genuinely curious. The person who posted seems to think that I did not research this woman (which is wrong) and has argued about an error I acknowledged. It appears her focus is more on my mistake than on the mistreatment of this woman, which is the main issue of the discussion 🤦‍♀️

There you go again ;)

You have decided how the conversation should progress rather than just accept other people's comments. If you don't see that then I can see why you can't see any of your behaviours as antagonistic.

FWIW I didn't accuse you of bullying - I said you were snarky by calling out her "perfection".

So here's how your latest response came across:

The person who posted seems to think that I did not research this woman (which is wrong)
She is entitled to her opinion of why you made such a mistake. You assert that you did research but offer no explanation as to how you still made such an error which comes across as dismissive as if she has no right to critique your post.

and has argued about an error I acknowledged.
Not one that you acknowledged prior to her raising it, so again seems to be defensive (and questions her right to question your post)

It appears her focus is more on my mistake than on the mistreatment of this woman, which is the main issue of the discussion
She has different priorities to you. She is so permitted. You come across as expecting everyone to agree with you or you'll get annoyed with them. That's coercive behaviour which in an office might be called bullying.

People are allowed to go off at tangents amd shouldn't be chastised for.doing so. I think people criticising appearance are always pathetic.

In this case though I don't see her input as particularly valuable and I dont understand (not researched) why she has been named.above others. I dont just know whether she's self-promoting and taking credit for a group effort, or has been promoted by NHS Wales because she's not your average welshman, or quite what the background to the story is.

That would have been helpful as part of your OP rather than a CV of the web page .

HTH

Kimura · 22/01/2026 00:06

INX · 21/01/2026 23:43

Well you didn't research the woman really, did you?

I pointed that out and you tried to deflect with a childish accusation of me being 'so perfect' 😳

'Pointing it out' would have been...

"Actually, she doesn't have a tumor, that's someone else mentioned in the article. Here's a link"

...instead of being so keen to tell everyone that OP '...didn't have a clue".

You snapped at her for what could well be and honest mistake and got a shirty response, what do you expect?