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Why does society hate fat people

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welshcakes4 · 21/01/2026 17:10

For most of my 20s, I struggled with being overweight, mainly because of my unhealthy eating habits and not exercising enough. I definitely turned to food for comfort, especially when I was feeling down. I’ve never really been a drinker, smoker or taken drugs, so food was my go to. I’m 32 now and I’ve completely changed my life around. I’ve adopted a much healthier lifestyle and lost 4 stone, which has made me feel so much happier. Since I’ve slimmed down, I’ve noticed a big difference in how people treat me, especially men, but women too. Their attitudes have shifted, and they seem a lot friendlier now. I know this is a bigger issue, just look online and you’ll see all the nasty comments and jokes about overweight people. I came across one earlier, and it was surprisingly the women who were being vile.

It’s fine to disagree with someone’s choices. I guess the same could be said for alcoholics, drug addicts, etc, but why all the hate and vitriol? Why are we treated like second class citizens? We’re not bad people, we just have our struggles with food. We haven’t killed or harmed anyone. It’s so strange to me that people can get so worked up and angry over someone being overweight. I’ve genuinely never understood this.

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Sofado · 21/01/2026 17:26

There’s a moral thing - equalling lazy, lack of self-control and discipline, greedy, boring, no interests, excess spending, poor judgment, a bit stupid.

itsthetea · 21/01/2026 17:26

Well there is the direct cost to society and hence people’s tax bills and how much of NHS resources get used up probably doesn’t help

and it is natural - innate - to feel disgust at ill health -

it’s the same thing at play with racism and sexism and ableism so I don’t know why you are surprised

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/01/2026 17:25

WSCamp · 21/01/2026 17:18

All sorts of reasons, I think- linking of overweight with morality (fat=greedy), linking of social status with physical attractiveness, people's own disordered relationships with food being played out on other people's bodies...

Cue some idiot coming on here to tell you that the different treatment is just down to your increased confidence in three...two...one....

I've heard it also that fat=weak willed so if people can't control what they put in their mouths, then somehow they are judgement impaired. (Not my view, heard it on a TV programme)

SweeetFannyAdams · 21/01/2026 17:23

I think it might be something to do with nature, going right back to primal instincts when people lived in tribes.

A fat person would've probably eaten more than their fair share and not been able to hunt as well as more athletic people, thus not 'giving back' much to the rest of the tribe.

Just one of many theories.

GrethaGreen · 21/01/2026 17:22

Wanted to add I wasn’t that big. Size 14-16

GrethaGreen · 21/01/2026 17:22

I lot similar amount of weight a few years back and omg the difference in how I was treated was mind blowing. My biggest were medical personnel. They stopped patronising me and listened to what I was saying.

user593 · 21/01/2026 17:20

I’ve lost and gained 10st+ twice now. I have had the same experience you have. I’ve always thought it’s part of the reason I’ve put the weight back on. I’m naturally anti-social and don’t like any attention! You’re either disliked or invisible when overweight, which has rather suited me in the past.

Idontknowwhy15 · 21/01/2026 17:20

They’ve not matured from being the school bullies they used to be on the playground.

KimberleyClark · 21/01/2026 17:19

It’s disgust at their appearance and the habits they assume have led to the person being overweight, thinly disguised as concern for their health.

WSCamp · 21/01/2026 17:18

All sorts of reasons, I think- linking of overweight with morality (fat=greedy), linking of social status with physical attractiveness, people's own disordered relationships with food being played out on other people's bodies...

Cue some idiot coming on here to tell you that the different treatment is just down to your increased confidence in three...two...one....