To think we should put a stop to terms like 'toxic', 'narcissistic', 'gaslighting'...

Given what you propose is totally impossible to put into effect, YABU.

Signs of abuse yes. Because abuse is not a psychological condition. It's a set of behaviours.
You haven't even achieved sufficient levels of reading comprehension. I am really not convinced you should be diagnosing anyone.

Agree. Tiresome language used by tiresome people.

The problem is when they are overused and used out of context it devalues the meaning.

Yes but not as a synonym for “disagrees with me”

I don’t agree. Getting rid of the words would mean silencing victims.
I think only someone who is viewed as narcissistic by others themselves would want the words erased.

So much gatekeeping around this topic — you really have to wonder why. Apparently I’m allowed to point out “signs,” but not “traits.” Right, okay… because that’s a totally meaningful distinction and not just people tying themselves in knots to police the language of anyone who’s actually lived through it.

I mean, my ex is a narcissist and did gaslight me. Those things are facts, should I not say these words because other people overuse and misuse them?

As some replies say some of these terms have been around for a long time. Yes they have been used more in recent years because we have better access to knowledge and ppl discuss things more and more openly. I for one am grateful, there were ways that I was treated in my marriage which was unacceptable but I didn't have the language to say what it was many years ago. Now I can tell you my ex was a manipulative, controlling sexpest. I have since also come to realise that I have lived with a couple of cock lodgers(not both at the same time!)
Having these terms has made it clear to me, how I have been treated in the past and thankfully my DDs are better informed and would not put up with such shit.

What a ridiculous statement. Where do you think all the people with an established diagnosis of NPD came from if not for having a clinical diagnosis?

Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths aren't known for consulting health professionals. If we had to rely on a clinical diagnosis there wouldn't be any, outside of prisons.

Oh, and before there were professional qualifications and the proprietorial appropriation of diagnostic authority that came with it:

People who weren't accredited ornithologists could still spot a duck (and probably differentiate between ducks and geese)

People who were not qualified GPs could diagnose a squint. Or measles. Or a broken arm

People who weren't qualified midwives could deliver a baby

Etc

First para edited to avoid an amibiguous meaning, and typos.

I think the words toxic, boundaries and gaslighting are very useful words that can be empowering (I guess that’s a words disliked too)

language evolves and has down long before the internet

Are you a psychiatrist? If not, then pointing out traits is something you have no business doing.
Surely, it would have been enough to point the signs of abuse. Abuse was, after all, the issue.
People don't have to have narcissistic or sociopathic traits in order to abuse someone.

Yep. Some 80 years old it is. Comes from a Play, that was made into a film...

Gas Light (and its famous 1944 film adaptation), where a husband manipulates his wife by subtly dimming the home's gaslights and denying the change, making her doubt her own perception and sanity to control her and steal from her. This psychological abuse tactic, where one person makes another question their reality, became synonymous with the play's title.
Origin in Gas Light

• The Play: In Patrick Hamilton's 1938 play, a husband, Jack, subtly alters his wife Bella's environment, including turning on the gaslights in the attic, which causes the downstairs lights to dim slightly.
• The Manipulation:
• When Bella notices the flickering lights and hears footsteps, Jack denies it, convincing her she's imagining things and going insane
• .
• The Goal: His manipulation aims to make her dependent and unable to trust her own senses, allowing him to steal her jewels.

The word that drives me mad is when people keep saying “I was so triggered” oh my god! Get a grip!

Please god yes, ban them! I immediately discount what is being said due to the cringe factor.

He's a classic narc.
My MiL is just toxic.
The youth of today are entitled.
Speaking my truth.
They're gaslighting me.
Just grey rock him.

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I love it too. Unfortunately, nearly everyone seems to think it means any sort of lie, in any situation, no matter how innocuous.

How are you proposing to “put a stop to” other people using these words? I can think of a few people who would like discussion of gaslighting and toxic behaviour banned, especially by women talking to women, but I don’t think you’d enjoy being lumped in with them. It’s not a very pleasant agenda, whether you mean to be carrying it or not.

Look up the term gaslighting. It was around long before the internet.

Boundaries has been in use for a long time. It is not new at all.
I have found the people who get annoyed at terms like that are the reason we use that language to begin with.

I was actually gaslighted by employers once. It freaked me out and I had to leave. It made me feel as though I was going mad.

Hmmm, this sounds very much like something a toxic, gaslighting narcissist would say imho 🤔

I'd like to put a stop to the term "put a stop" and to the actual practice of putting a stop to words.

Are you always this controlling, @justalittlethought .
Only a narcissist would start such a toxic thread and you are gaslighting us.