To ask if you grew up in a clean and tidy home?

It’s the other way around for me. My house was like a show home growing up. Now I don’t mind a bit of clutter and the cushions don’t need to be straight and plumped up but I like things to be clean.

Yes - clean and generally tidy house (apart from my room!) growing up.
Now - clean and more or less tidy. I can cope with untidiness as long as the place is clean. That takes priority for me.

My husband is way tidier than me. He does all the laundry from start to finish. He sorts and organises my kids rooms. He is also the lead volunteer for a very large local kids group, works in London three days a week leaving the house at 6am (and at home the rest), is an actual ninja and a high earner. He also did the majority of the school runs until recently and has time scoped out daily in his diary for that.

He does get annoyed when the kids try and put worn once clothes in the laundry and he doesn’t change the bed sheets quite as often as I’d like. But, we all have our faults.

Opposite story for me. My house is not dirty by any means and I wouldn’t say hugely untidy but it’s never ever perfect. This has got worse since my youngest DS who has SEN developed a fixation on lining up books according to publisher. At any given time we can have up to 6 lines of books in every room.

I’d argue my mother has undiagnosed OCD. The house was always PRISTINE, worse when she had severe anxiety and agoraphobia when my brother was small so didn’t work. She just dedicated most of the day to cleaning and tidying. She’s the same now, there’s never a thing out of place, never a speck of dust.

Right??? Lots of men must grow up in clean, tidy homes but if MN is to be believed many of them are completely slackers domestically.

So how does that work? Only women are inculcated into cleaning/ tidying??

Yes I did. When I was small, I was very friendly with a pair of sisters who shared a large bedroom. I was inwardly shocked (never said anything) about how untidy their bedroom was as my mother always made sure ours were tidy. I have a clean and tidy house - I have ornaments and books but I have to have space in the middle of the room. DH is a closet hoarder - I have to go behind him putting things he discards and forgets about into their correct places. Left to his own devices, the house would be messy. His parents were much the same. Their living room and dining room, which, of course, were open to visitors were tidy but elsewhere was a very different story.

Clean yes and tidy but I'm not tidy like my house is a show house

I grew up in a mansion. We had cleaners, gardeners, etc.

My house is a tip but I think it's out of rebellion. As a child, everything had to be 'just so', not a hair out of place. No sweets until the w/end, no swearing, no elbows on the table, prayers/church every Sunday.

I admire my parents. But it ain't for me. Im happy being my authentic self. Im not saying the way they brought me up wasn't authentic. But, im happy being a scruff ball! (Only half joking)!

In-laws were bleach everywhere! Horrible and in inviting!

Yes, and my husband in a messy one. But he's much tidier than I am!!

Nope, I go back to my childhood home and it's still a mess 😅 that and the decor - mismatched furniture, colours, bright lights. I think it's made me go the other way! I need a clean and cosy space to feel relaxed.
Unfortunately my house can easily look cluttered due to lack of any storage space. I'm on a never ending "minimalistic mission".

I grew up in a clean and tidy home. I am moderately clean and tidy.

I also am not sure this is true as men and women are raised in the same homes.

No, I grew up in a clean-enough but cluttered home.

My home now is also clean-enough but cluttered and it drives me mad. I am slowly fixing it, but it doesn’t come naturally.

I did and yes I am. BUT I’ve known extreme hoarders/filthy people come from pristine homes where everything was done. They rebelled against it
Same as over eaters. Some were allowed to eat what they wanted and some were only allowed to eat healthily. It can go either way

My childhood home was clean. Tidy is subjective as I'm a neat freak! A place for everything, and everything in it's place 🤣 My youngsters are grown now so...

I used to tidy up for mom as a young girl as she wasn't as bothered about things having there rightful place after use.

Yes ofcourse mine were allowed to play make a mess etc. it was always cleared up and put away at the end of the day by me or/and them helping

My DPs' home was in the "cluttered but clean" category. They had loads of stuff, but it was basically clean, hoovered daily (dog hair!) and they were both very particular about the sinks, worktops, bog etc being clean (both had been nurses, so very hygiene aware).

My house is pretty much the same, although I don't hoover every day. I live alone and don't have a dog any more, so it doesn't really need it.

My late partner grew up in an immaculately clean house and his father was obsessive about everything being in exactly the right place, to the point where they think he probably had OCD. He and 2 of his 3 siblings were/are very messy and his DB lived in utter squalour when he was single. The third sibling keeps a clean and tidy house though, and somehow manages to keep it free of dog hair despite having a labrador.

My DH grew up in a much tidier home than I did, but that was because my parents both worked full time whereas his mum was a SAHM.

My own home isn't anywhere near as clean or tidy as the home I grew up in.

Whenever I lament this fact to my mum, though, she always says that if she'd been working full-time she would never have bothered with half the housework she used to do. She always tells me I shouldn't worry about it.

We didn’t have lots of “ stuff “ really when I was young and the flat we lived in was very small so easy to keep clean .
My mum didn’t keep it overly clean but it was ok and reasonably tidy .
I have always had much larger homes and more children than she had so I’ve got my work cut out .
I used to keep it spotless but energy levels are currently low so I’m making do with it being tidy and fairly clean

My mother cleaned a lot but it was never organised. Paperwork and photos were chucked in a cupboard, nothing in storage boxes and could be cluttered. I’m also the eldest daughter so I did my bulk of housework growing up.
My home is immaculate and organised because I hated growing up unorganised.
My younger brother wasn’t made to help and could do no wrong and his home is a tip. So in a way I’m grateful I learned how to clean at a young age but I don’t make my daughter do a lot, just tidy her room.

Clean, but not particularly tidy.

No, not at all. Quite messy, which I have always hated. Now I live alone and my flat is super tidy, I hate mess with a passion.

I grew up in a home where my mum was ridiculous about housework- did it, but shouted about it like some weird kind of martyr. Put all of my items on my bed if just one thing was out of place - I only had music, books and makeup! I could never take friends home because I could never tell when she'd done that.
As a result, I kind of rebelled and, although my home is clean, it's sometimes not overly tidy - probably a bit cluttered in places.
It's hell growing up with somebody who spends their life cleaning and then expects you to be exactly the same. I do understand why my mum was like it - my nan was the complete opposite and was untidy and my mum didn't like my nan, so I guess it was her way of ensuring she wasn't like her, but, as a child, it wasn't a nice experience when my mum was in one of her moods and being passive aggressive about housework.

Yes

Yes and no.